Whats the ideal salary you want your man to have before you will get married on LSA...

[KenyaDoll]

They dont exist, Im starting to think its just a coping mechanism for women who cant find anyone at all. I really dont think these women are that stupid

You are saying that no black men making 6 figures are getting married to black women? The stats show that 85-90% of those top black earns who get married, marry black women.

I know it's popular on the coli to disparage black women, but in the real world most black men (regardless of socioeconomic background) marry black women.

 

[Malta]

Of course the money isn't AS important. I never said it was. And, for the fourth or fifth time, no one said they HAVE to make a certain amount, it's just something that I would appreciate.

I call bullshyt on her just being attractive, sweet and intelligent...a lot of women have that. You know you have other things on the list beyond the basics because lots of women have those basics. What makes her the one for YOU? Say she was a single mother, or 40 lbs over what you usually find "attractive" ...maybe she would still be the "one," maybe not as you may not have considered her.

No, a lot of women are not sweet, intelligent and attractive, and even less have shared interests with me, she's literally my best friend

Single mother?

Hold up my Canadian friend, HOLD UP........is this discussion getting hostile? Only a man with very few options would actively seek out a woman with a child, mommma used to say "take your time young man", momma used to say "don't wife no hoes", momma used to say "never wife a single woman with child".

Every person's standards start with the basics...who's going to go with someone they find ugly, mean-spirited, stupid and they can't stand to be around? We all have standards beyond just the basics, and like I said, yours may have been relating to other things that other people may not find important, but to you they were (race, weight requirement, no makeup, no fake hair, no kids, the list can go on - but miss me with the "I only care about basics and that's it').

You only sampled a part of the Malta chronicles, I was with someone before her that had fake hair and went from 130 to 160 while we were together and have posted about it many times (would you like quotes), so obviously you can throw the hair and weight stuff you're spouting out the window. The women I've dated prior to her were all over the place, she is what molded my opinion and broke the game for every woman after her, I've said many times over again if things end for us I'm done with relationships You got me all wrong, and no matter how hard you try to turn it, we still on that drag strip. And most importantly, I don't believe in that "The one" shyt, there are plenty of women I'm probably very compatible with but finding them is another issue.

 

[Desirous]

No, a lot of women are not sweet, intelligent and attractive, and even less have shared interests with me, she's literally my best friend

Single mother?

Hold up my Canadian friend, HOLD UP........is this discussion getting hostile? Only a man with very few options would actively seek out a woman with a child, mommma used to say "take your time young man", momma used to say "don't wife no hoes", momma used to say "never wife a single woman with child".







You only sampled a part of the Malta chronicles, I was with someone before her that had fake hair and went from 130 to 160 while we were together and have posted about it many times (would you like quotes), so obviously you can throw the hair and weight stuff you're spouting out the window. The women I've dated prior to her were all over the place, she is what molded my opinion and broke the game for every woman after her, I've said many times over again if things end for us I'm done with relationships You got me all wrong, and no matter how hard you try to turn it, we still on that drag strip.

A lot of women aren't and a lot are.

We aren't talking about people we've dated prior to. Who wants to go a step back when choosing a life partner? Certainly not I. The person you marry SHOULD break the game for every other person and if he/she doesn't, then you shouldn't be marrying him/her. We're not talking about people we've dated in the past...this is something we're considering going forward...making smarter, better choices for ourselves.

 

[Warren Moon]

You are saying that no black men making 6 figures are getting married to black women? The stats show that 85-90% of those top black earns who get married, marry black women.

I know it's popular on the coli to disparage black women, but in the real world most black men (regardless of socioeconomic background) marry black women.

Yeah but majority of these african american males arent married at all. You are using a stat that is talking about .05 percent of black males, thats less than 1%, yall are not being realistic at all. Plus I can safely assume most black males that get to 100k are in their 40's well after marrying age

 

[Malta]

A lot of women aren't and a lot are.

We aren't talking about people we've dated prior to. Who wants to go a step back when choosing a life partner? Certainly not I. The person you marry SHOULD break the game for every other person and if he/she doesn't, then you shouldn't be marrying him/her. We're not talking about people we've dated in the past...this is something we're considering going forward...making smarter, better choices for ourselves.

The majority of women do not meet those 3 things :WTFGreg:

Life isn't a fairy tale, not everyone gets to marry their first choice, what should happen is a moot point because it's not the case for the majority of people breathing. I feel I should win the lotto, but that shyt isn't happening.

Making smarter, better choices...........like high revenues in the 3rd quarter? :Guidedtoislam:

 

[KenyaDoll]

Yeah but majority of these african american males arent married at all. You are using a stat that is talking about .05 percent of black males, thats less than 1%, yall are not being realistic at all

Again 10/11 out of the first 120 posts in that thread said 100,000. At least one of those women was in medical school and a couple others said that they made similar amounts. How is that unrealistic for them? It's only unrealistic when it's something you've never experienced and none of your prospects are anywhere near your ideal or expectation.

The vast majority said 35-60K. You're talking about less than 10 percent of the post in that thread referencing 100K.

 

[Warren Moon]

You are saying that no black men making 6 figures are getting married to black women? The stats show that 85-90% of those top black earns who get married, marry black women.

I know it's popular on the coli to disparage black women, but in the real world most black men (regardless of socioeconomic background) marry black women.

Again 10/11 out of the first 120 posts in that thread said 100,000. At least one of those women was in medical school and a couple others said that they made similar amounts. How is that unrealistic for them? It's only unrealistic when it's something you've never experienced and none of your prospects are anywhere near your ideal or expectation.

The vast majority said 35-60K. You're talking about less than 10 percent of the post in that thread referencing 100K.

You said the post about 100k.

 

[KenyaDoll]

You said the post about 100k.

What? I don't understand what this post means...

 

[KenyaDoll]

The only very unreasonable thing I think about some of the ladies that cited 6 figures is the age that they expect the man to already be earning that amount. I know quite a few men who are late 20s/early 30s who do not make 6 figures now but will eventually (by late 30s/early40s) because of their careers. My boyfriend is a resident and makes about 50K and will make about that amount for the next 4-7 years depending on if he specializes. However, by mid to late 30s, it is guaranteed that he will be making minimum $120K

 

[Remote]

Come on man...

Let's keep it 100

Just like we want women to be attractive, caring, intelligent and classy....women (some more than others) want a guy who got some money.
Yeah, sometimes there are women that are excessive with that gold digging shyt, but that's just how it is.

We as men just have to be mindful of certain signals so we don't end up in some Mel Gibson situation cuz some chics will ruin your goddamn life, and you don't have to be rich either.

The subtext here is that a lot of people feel that money gives you power in the relationship...and at the same time, a lot of women don't respect a man she has to maintain (perhaps on some level, rightfully so).

So if your woman is making 60 and you're pulling in 30...she might one day feel disgusted like she's got a child rather than a boyfriend. And she'll probably feel like calling all the shots...which given the traditional status of men in society and relationships...can be a bit of an ego check. And a lot of men won't handle that shyt too well.

 

[KenyaDoll]

Come on man...

Let's keep it 100

Just like we want women to be attractive, caring, intelligent and classy....women (some more than others) want a guy who got some money.
Yeah, sometimes there are women that are excessive with that gold digging shyt, but that's just how it is.

We as men just have to be mindful of certain signals so we don't end up in some Mel Gibson situation cuz some chics will ruin your goddamn life, and you don't have to be rich either.

The subtext here is that a lot of people feel that money gives you power in the relationship...and at the same time, a lot of women don't respect a man she has to maintain (perhaps on some level, rightfully so).

So if your woman is making 60 and you're pulling in 30...she might one day feel disgusted like she's got a child rather than a boyfriend. And she'll probably feel like calling all the shots...which given the traditional status of men in society and relationships...can be a bit of an ego check. And a lot of men won't handle that shyt too well.

Many men want traditional women but don't want to accept the traditional role of bread winner.

 

[Remote]

Many men want traditional women but don't want to accept the traditional role of bread winner.

I think given the rise of feminism (whatever that may mean, given that it's a muddled concept) it's probably the other way around.

I don't think men have issues taking on the responsibility of leading a household, being the breadwinner...etc.

But a lot of women today loathe any sort of traditional homemaker behavior.

 

[Desirous]

I think given the rise of feminism (whatever that may mean, given that it's a muddled concept) it's probably the other way around.

I don't think men have issues taking on the responsibility of leading a household, being the breadwinner...etc.

But a lot of women today loathe any sort of traditional homemaker behavior.

Ehhhh. I don't know about that.

I think it's fair that if the man is making all the money, the woman does all the work in the household. But, a lot of women (including myself) would like to do something more stimulating than just stay at home. Therefore, if we are also contributing equally to the household income, it's unfair to hold us accountable for 100% of the housework as well.

Relationships are more balanced now rather than 100% one way or another.

 

[Remote]

Ehhhh. I don't know about that.

I think it's fair that if the man is making all the money, the woman does all the work in the household. But, a lot of women (including myself) would like to do something more stimulating than just stay at home. Therefore, if we are also contributing equally to the household income, it's unfair to hold us accountable for 100% of the housework as well.

Relationships are more balanced now rather than 100% one way or another.

I agree.

 

[CouldntBeMeTho]

I just wanna know, where are all the average men and women at? Everyone's such a fukking narcissist these days. With this fake ass, social media, reality tv, celebrity culture we have. Every girl wants to be a Disney princess, and every man wants to be a rapper.

what the hell is so wrong with being average? this is why our families are falling apart, coz we're all full of shyt.