Whats the ideal salary you want your man to have before you will get married on LSA...

[mamba]

So if a man makes twice as much as you, he has the right to reject you because you aint on his level and therefore cant help him live within his means?

That's a fair question! @Desirous

 

[KenyaDoll]

Past a certain point, it is totally unreasonable for a woman to expect her man to be "on her level".

If you make over 80k a year, it is totally unreasonable for you to expect anyone, man or woman, to do the same, because such a small fragment of society does that. Therefore you exclude well over 90% of the populace due to your own proclivities and aversion to spending your own money. A mathematical figure defining who your life partner may or may not be is the apex of narcissism, lady friends. A man can be on "your level" without a dollar in his pocket and I think you need to consider that. People are worth a lot more than money.

People are worth a lot more than all of the characteristics and numbers that we prefer in a mate. Isn't it peculiar that the only dating/marriage standards that are ridiculed are those that apply to men?

Again, that thread included all types of answers. I only looked at the first two pages but the majority was 50K or below. Why are y'all so focused on the few people whose standards y'all don't meet?

 

[KenyaDoll]

So if a man makes twice as much as you, he has the right to reject you because you aint on his level and therefore cant help him live within his means?

Yes, everyone has the right to reject people they don't want to date (for whatever reason). People aren't REQUIRED to date other people.

 

[Broke Wave]

People are worth a lot more than all of the characteristics and numbers that we prefer in a mate. Isn't it peculiar that the only dating/marriage standards that are ridiculed are those that apply to men?

Again, that thread included all types of answers. I only looked at the first two pages but the majority was 50K or below. Why are y'all so focused on the few people whose standards y'all don't meet?

We're focused on the delusion of the women in the thread whose selection of a mate depends on a graduating scale of wages ranging at the low end from 140k

To you is that not thread worthy? Or perhaps we're being picky and hypocritical here, men do the same . Is it this difficult to accept that maybe women have some flaws in our society that are unique to them alone and cannot be mirrored by a similar flaw seen in men, and vice versa?

 

[Desirous]

It would bother you and the opposite of it being "nice" would mean it's not nice :Guidedtoislam:

Wouldn't be as nice

You know that you didn't marry your wife ONLY for her personality. There are other things that come to play. You're always posting about a certain standard of woman (age, looks-wise, body-wise), so I'm sure if she didn't meet those standards, it doesn't matter how great her personality is, you'd prefer that she did. The fact that she makes half of what you make isn't a big deal to you because she meets your other requirements, and clearly, money isn't one of them, so she is still the "full package" for you.

 

[mamba]

Exactly man real black men with these jobs know there aint that many nikkas like me out here. Maybe 20-30 where Im living. These women thinking theres enough of these men going around are naive.

If you got one of these jobs u know u the shyt

I work in corporate America. I make $100K+. Not your average Coli nikka telling

I rarely see Black men at work and other professional events. Average American is making nowhere near $80K/year. Most Black women and men aren't making above $50K, even with the explosion of "degreed up" folks in the community. So, all these Black women talkin' about a dude having to make $100K+ is hilarious.

Where are they going to find these men?

 

[KenyaDoll]

We're focused on the delusion of the women in the thread whose selection of a mate depends on a graduating scale of wages ranging at the low end from 140k

To you is that not thread worthy? Or perhaps we're being picky and hypocritical here, men do the same . Is it this difficult to accept that maybe women have some flaws in our society that are unique to them alone and cannot be mirrored by a similar flaw seen in men, and vice versa?

I think we are looking at two different threads. Let me go back and click the thread again...

 

[Warren Moon]

I work in corporate America. I make $100K+. Not your average Coli nikka telling

I rarely see Black men at work and other professional events. Average American is making nowhere near $80K/year. Most Black women and men aren't making above $50K, even with the explosion of "degreed up" folks in the community. So, all these Black women talkin' about a dude having to make $100K+ is hilarious.

Where are they going to find these men?

Yeah man I work in high finance and I know most if not all 300-500 nikkas in it. Literally there are maybe 500 nikkas like me making 100k. Yet all these women think they going to find dudes like this. Its crazy

 

[Malta]

Wouldn't be as nice

You know that you didn't marry your wife ONLY for her personality. There are other things that come to play. You're always posting about a certain standard of woman (age, looks-wise, body-wise), so I'm sure if she didn't meet those standards, it doesn't matter how great her personality is, you'd prefer that she did. The fact that she makes half of what you make isn't a big deal to you because she meets your other requirements, and clearly, money isn't one of them, so she is still the "full package" for you.

The "other" things for me aren't 401ks and pension plans, my "other" things are basically what anyone is looking for in a mate, you know attractive, sweet, intelligent and nice to be around. My standards are about as basic as it gets, and how much she earned didn't matter and isn't 1/10th as important as who she was and how she thought. You want someone that is attractive, sweet, intelligent, nice to be around and they have to make 90% of what you make with quarterly profits trending upwards so you can get that unnecessary 4 bedroom condo, you can't turn this around on me brehette this is a drag strip with no curves :DaGoat:

 

[mamba]

Yeah man I work in high finance and I know most if not all 300-500 nikkas in it. Literally there are maybe 500 nikkas like me making 100k. Yet all these women think they going to find dudes like this. Its crazy

How many are actually African American men? I know a shytload of Nigerian American brehs are makin' moves on Wall Street these days. Nigerian brehs aren't typically wifing up African American women like that.

There aren't that many non-entrepreneur/non-athlete/non-entertainer young Black men making $100K+ in America relative to the rest of the population.

Most don't reach that salary until mid career, when they're in their 40s.

So, if you're a young breh in corporate America, making $100K+, you're truly a rare gem outchea.

 

[Warren Moon]

How many are actually African American men? I know a shytload of Nigerian American brehs are makin' moves on Wall Street these days. Nigerian brehs aren't typically wifing up African American women like that.

There aren't that many non-entrepreneur/non-athlete/non-entertainer young Black men making $100K+ in America relative to the rest of the population.

Most don't reach that salary until mid career, when they're in their 40s.

So, if you're a young breh in corporate America, making $100K+, you're truly a rare gem outchea.

African or west indie people probably are 1/4 to 1/3 of the dudes im talking about. I see them with white women more than anything

 

[Desirous]

The "other" things for me aren't 401ks and pension plans, my "other" things are basically what anyone is looking for in a mate, you know attractive, sweet, intelligent and nice to be around. My standards are about as basic as it gets, and how much she earned didn't matter and isn't 1/10th as important as who she was and how she thought. You want someone that is attractive, sweet, intelligent, nice to be around and they have to make 90% of what you make with quarterly profits trending upwards so you can get that unnecessary 4 bedroom condo, you can't turn this around on me brehette this is a drag strip with no curves :DaGoat:

Of course the money isn't AS important. I never said it was. And, for the fourth or fifth time, no one said they HAVE to make a certain amount, it's just something that I would appreciate.

I call bullshyt on her just being attractive, sweet and intelligent...a lot of women have that. You know you have other things on the list beyond the basics because lots of women have those basics. What makes her the one for YOU? Say she was a single mother, or 40 lbs over what you usually find "attractive" ...maybe she would still be the "one," maybe not as you may not have considered her.

Every person's standards start with the basics...who's going to go with someone they find ugly, mean-spirited, stupid and they can't stand to be around? We all have standards beyond just the basics, and like I said, yours may have been relating to other things that other people may not find important, but to you they were (race, weight requirement, no makeup, no fake hair, no kids, the list can go on - but miss me with the "I only care about basics and that's it').

 

[mamba]

African or west indie people probably are 1/4 to 1/3 of the dudes im talking about. I see them with white women more than anything

Doesn't surprise me. At most software/tech companies, when you really break down the numbers, the real number of African Americans is basically insignificant.

Which is why I remain confused about where Black women plan to find all these $100k+ dudes who are marriage-minded and are looking for Black wives!

 

[KenyaDoll]

We're focused on the delusion of the women in the thread whose selection of a mate depends on a graduating scale of wages ranging at the low end from 140k

To you is that not thread worthy? Or perhaps we're being picky and hypocritical here, men do the same . Is it this difficult to accept that maybe women have some flaws in our society that are unique to them alone and cannot be mirrored by a similar flaw seen in men, and vice versa?

So yeah, I just went back through the first 120 posts (first two pages) of that LSA thread and out of those post only 10 seriously referenced a man making 100K (or any figure over that). Many of those women qualified it by saying that they are in medical school and hope to marry doctors, another woman said she lives in NYC and makes the same, and a few of those 10 women just sounded like princesses (I will admit).

However, the VAST majority of the women were saying 35-50K, some 60K, some stating that it depends on where you live, others stating that they just wanted a man to meet them half way, and etc, etc, etc.

Just skimming page 3 (starting at post 121), it seems to becomes a discussion about standards in general. You are basing your entire argument off of a thread where the majority of women are NOT citing 6 figures as their standard.

Again, it's okay when y'all have standards, but women should just accept anything that comes their way. I'm guessing that $0.00 should be minimum to satisfy y'all?

 

[Warren Moon]

Doesn't surprise me. At most software/tech companies, when you really break down the numbers, the real number of African Americans is basically insignificant.

Which is why I remain confused about where Black women plan to find all these $100k+ dudes who are marriage-minded and are looking for Black wives!

They dont exist, Im starting to think its just a coping mechanism for women who cant find anyone at all. I really dont think these women are that stupid