What's the biggest lesson you've taken away from a relationship?

[Max Goonberg]

way more than this but here go some gems

1.be spontaneous(being predictable make the p*ssy dry playa).2.silence is golden(shut the fukk up sometimes keep her guessing and give space).3.control your emotions my nikka.4.apologize sparingly.5.shyt is never 50/50 ,more like 60/40. be the nikka giving 40

honorable mention:only give her what she earns.(gifts, commitment etc)
never underestimate her ability to get a new nikka especially if shes official.(anybody can take loss)
never slack in the bedroom;atleast not until you officially lock her down.

 

[Turbulent]

better to stay silent than to bluff.

 

[Mr.Plan B]

Never been in one to know................

 

[AZBeauty]

Have activities you do outside of each other.

 

[Mr210]

Communication!!!!

Don't argue...discuss. People don't hear you when you are being combative.

Cosign, I have a tendency to argue more than a i discuss, because I tend to wait until Im pissed to finally want to talk. Another thing I learned is pay attention to her actions more than her words early on

 

[Swirv]

i know it was my fault... i dont blame her.... i was an evil homey (the white definition)..... i learned a lot of real shyt.....
she was my lover, my best friend, mother to my kids, support system, my lust for her is outta control... i need her back...

this is where i fukked up....

It happens. I felt like my ex was smothering me. Calling me all day to tell me every little detail about her day & checking in on me. I told her to find other friends so I could get a breather. Not knowing I was sending her into the arms of her future husband. You live & learn, sometimes the hard way.

 

[Steve Piffler]

When people show you who they are believe them. Nobody changes all of a sudden signs are always there.

biggest lesson that I have learned. people don't change. they may straighten up for a minute, but the old ways always show up again.

other lessons that i have learned (the honorable mentioned list):

• don't ignore red flags
• shut up, listen, and watch.
• draw a line in the sand and don't allow ANYONE to cross it. if she does,
• if she ever breaks up with you, stay gone.
• don't ever cheat. you can't expect her to be faithful if you aren't
• be thoughtful, loving and attentive
• no social networks
• call, text, send flowers to her job, and take her out at random times, just because you love her
• lead by example
• never yell unless ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY. it loses it's effectiveness if you do it too much.
• say i love you everyday
• hug and kiss frequently
• spoon at night
• run/exercise together
• never disagree in front of the kids. they learn that they can play you against each other if you do.
• have date night at least once a week
  
• vacation without the kids once a year
• pillow talk. you can learn a lot about a person during that post nut clarity
• make love frequently and not always in the bed. be adventurous.
• ladies, giving your man head in the car will put a cease to almost any argument

 

[Raava]

biggest lesson that I have learned. people don't change. they may straighten up for a minute, but the old ways always show up again.

other lessons that i have learned (the honorable mentioned list):

• don't ignore red flags
• shut up, listen, and watch.
• draw a line in the sand and don't allow ANYONE to cross it. if she does,
• if she ever breaks up with you, stay gone.
• don't ever cheat. you can't expect her to be faithful if you aren't
• be thoughtful, loving and attentive
• no social networks
• call, text, send flowers to her job, and take her out at random times, just because you love her
• lead by example
• never yell unless ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY. it loses it's effectiveness if you do it too much.
• say i love you everyday
• hug and kiss frequently
• spoon at night
• run/exercise together
• never disagree in front of the kids. they learn that they can play you against each other if you do.
• have date night at least once a week
  
• vacation without the kids once a year
• pillow talk. you can learn a lot about a person during that post nut clarity
• make love frequently and not always in the bed. be adventurous.
• ladies, giving your man head in the car will put a cease to almost any argument

These are really good.

The only thing about changing is I think a person can change. You can't change them, and they won't change just for you. They have to really want to change for themselves and that is a long process they have to do. People thinking they can make someone, or love someone into changing live in a fantasy world and will be hurt every time.

 

[MikelArteta]

Somewhat people settle.

On the other side however nothing can come a between someone in the honeymoon stage. Its why someone married for 20 years will leave their partner for some dude or woman they just started smashing after a few weeks.

Side bar...

Do you think the older men and women get....that after the honeymoon phase wears off...that people force themselves to stay together because getting back into the dating game is not an enticing option?

Like if you are in the honeymoon phase at 25 and it's getting ugly...you might break out, right?
But say that happens at 35? Do you think people break it off and date others? Or just stick through it because 35 is a tough age to meet a good partner?

 

[Steve Piffler]

These are really good.

The only thing about changing is I think a person can change. You can't change them, and they won't change just for you. They have to really want to change for themselves and that is a long process they have to do. People thinking they can make someone, or love someone into changing live in a fantasy world and will be hurt every time.

people can change. but it's never permanent. it may take years, but the old behavior will return...

 

[Remote]

biggest lesson that I have learned. people don't change. they may straighten up for a minute, but the old ways always show up again.

other lessons that i have learned (the honorable mentioned list):

• don't ignore red flags
• shut up, listen, and watch.
• draw a line in the sand and don't allow ANYONE to cross it. if she does,
• if she ever breaks up with you, stay gone.
• don't ever cheat. you can't expect her to be faithful if you aren't
• be thoughtful, loving and attentive
• no social networks
• call, text, send flowers to her job, and take her out at random times, just because you love her
• lead by example
• never yell unless ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY. it loses it's effectiveness if you do it too much.
• say i love you everyday
• hug and kiss frequently
• spoon at night
• run/exercise together
• never disagree in front of the kids. they learn that they can play you against each other if you do.
• have date night at least once a week
  
• vacation without the kids once a year
• pillow talk. you can learn a lot about a person during that post nut clarity
• make love frequently and not always in the bed. be adventurous.
• ladies, giving your man head in the car will put a cease to almost any argument

 

[thedeaux]

Spending quality time is a very important factor in a relationship.

 

[Raava]

people can change. but it's never permanent. it may take years, but the old behavior will return...

 

[AllHolosEve]

Damn.
I dunno if you can get her back, but at least you can bring those lessons to a new woman.
Good luck, bro.
Long as she raises your kids right, that's what matters.

not my bm... she just loves my kids like her own & is a overall better chick.... just got off the phone with her, i got to prove myself & she wants me back..

It happens. I felt like my ex was smothering me. Calling me all day to tell me every little detail about her day & checking in on me. I told her to find other friends so I could get a breather. Not knowing I was sending her into the arms of her future husband. You live & learn, sometimes the hard way.

her husband... mine said i treated her like a possession & not a person & she gonna move out of state soon...

 

[Texas2step]

biggest lesson that I have learned. people don't change. they may straighten up for a minute, but the old ways always show up again.

other lessons that i have learned (the honorable mentioned list):

• don't ignore red flags
• shut up, listen, and watch.
• draw a line in the sand and don't allow ANYONE to cross it. if she does,
• if she ever breaks up with you, stay gone.
• don't ever cheat. you can't expect her to be faithful if you aren't
• be thoughtful, loving and attentive
• no social networks
• call, text, send flowers to her job, and take her out at random times, just because you love her
• lead by example
• never yell unless ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY. it loses it's effectiveness if you do it too much.
• say i love you everyday
• hug and kiss frequently
• spoon at night
• run/exercise together
• never disagree in front of the kids. they learn that they can play you against each other if you do.
• have date night at least once a week
  
• vacation without the kids once a year
• pillow talk. you can learn a lot about a person during that post nut clarity
• make love frequently and not always in the bed. be adventurous.
• ladies, giving your man head in the car will put a cease to almost any argument

absolute gospel