As a man who has been said to "play women", honestly the woman usually played herself. Same goes for men who get played by women. It comes down to people's own inner self not being honest to themselves. Overthinking things, making things seem different than what they really are. If I give a woman no words or actions indicating im faithful to her, am i playing her if i date other women? If a girl makes every time i see her involve me spending money, did she play me if she leaves for someone richer?
A con can only work if the person is able to convince themselves that what is fake is really true. You cant con an idiot because they are too simple minded to deceive themselves. So any woman whose been played can say at least im smart, but next time look at things from a dumber perspective and you might not get played. This is game im passing down to my daughter.