What can be done so that black men are less commitment-phobic?

[DrX]

the problem is BW...at some point they turn into a crazy bytch that'll put u through hell so brothers say fukk that shyt

 

[Reece]

Also money is a big part of it

Young men cant take care of a family with loads of college debt & working a 40k a year job

And the average broad wont wanna build w him either

Economic stability is a huge one

Sad thing is they could. If he makes $40,000 and she makes $35,000...that’s a $75,000 household. That’s more than the median household income. A few degrees and a few job title changes and they at $125,000 then $170,000 then maybe $220,000 combined if y’all both upgrade high enough, maybe more. But the average chick just wants to find the nikka making $220,000 instead on his own so she can be a housewife (which isn’t wrong) but complains when he plays her ass like she didn’t know a man at that income level would be very rare and have hella options

 

[ignorethis]

I don't know why OP singled out black men when stats show men of all races are slowly shunning marriage.

Society changed, a lot of men don't see the value in marriage, and honestly marriage probably won't enhance a lot of their lives or make them happier.

I wouldn't be surprised if older generations of men felt the same way but social pressure kept them in line.

If men aren't committing and are happy what's wrong with that in this solipsistic "pursuit of happiness" culture.

 

[Solo ✧✦✧]

Maybe try rewarding the minority amount of men that embrace monogamy.

According to simps and women "women don't owe you anything" so my motivation to commit to any woman is low.

 

[semicko82]

There's a lot of scared, insecure little boys running around here.

Some mask it with violence, some go the path of least resistance and PAWG/PAAG, and others wallow their own self pity and die alone.

At the end of the day you need to commit to have somebody. Not saying get married, that ain't for everyone, but you do need to have a ride or die in your back pocket...which 9 times out of 10, results in marriage

Depend on another person for happiness brehs

 

[El negrito de tejas]

commitment for What?

I get everything I could possibly want out of just being friends & dating to commit

When women collectively as a whole decide you can't get

sex
Home cooked meal
Intimacy
Back Rubs
Facial Grooming(I like a woman to pick at my face)

unless you commit to them that's when things will change with courting & the dating realm

Otherwise Imma keep doing what I've been doing cause it works & I still get what I want

 

[Taadow]

But that argument gets detonated when it shows that married men have MORE sex than single men, married men are HAPPIER than single men, the combination of income brings in MORE money for you, and you're supposed to look for a pleasant, COMPATIBLE woman so you won't have to worry about getting divorced anyway.

Where is your documentation to prove all of this^?

I mean, I cling devoutly to my Christian beliefs so I guess I probably look upon marriage more favorably than the average, but still. If you do your due diligence and search for the right woman whose morals/beliefs match up with yours, marriage is basically having an irresistibly sexy best friend that doubles your income every month

Remember this: Shared joy is DOUBLE the joy, and shared pain is only HALF the pain.

The Bible says it's a good idea not to get married, and many of my married Christian friends have told me the same...

 

[Dad]

How can you be with someone on any level worth a damn and not be committed?

Because some people don’t feel the need to be dependent on another person . I’m around great women but realize that being committed offers few benefits and a high cost which results in less motivation to commit.

 

[Originalman]

Why is it just black men?

Every black dude I know that isn’t single is married

Cause its the internet and we like to say dumb shyt and pretend that we know everything when we really dont then play it off as the truth.

 

[FeverPitch2]

You serious with this Waiting To Exhale shyt, breh?

I'm asking because you're laying the destruction of Black family over the last 50 years solely at the feet of Black men.

And that is unquestionably ludicrous.

 

[semicko82]

the problem is BW...at some point they turn into a crazy bytch that'll put u through hell so brothers say fukk that shyt

All these hos the same no matter the race. I don't put any woman on a pedestal

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

if they dont want to they dont want to. commitment being forced is part of the problem, and leads to lies and deceit

I ain't gon' hold you, I ain't gon' press you, never control you

 

[semicko82]

Maybe try rewarding the minority amount of men that embrace monogamy.

According to simps and women "women don't owe you anything" so my motivation to commit to any woman is low.

 

[The ADD]

You can’t really legislate if someone want to be married, we have free will and at a base level that decision doesn’t harm others.....

 

[MaxPain]

Sad thing is they could. If he makes $40,000 and she makes $35,000...that’s a $75,000 household. That’s more than the median household income. A few degrees and a few job title changes and they at $125,000 then $170,000 then maybe $220,000 combined if y’all both upgrade high enough, maybe more. But the average chick just wants to find the nikka making $220,000 instead on his own so she can be a housewife (which isn’t wrong) but complains when he plays her ass like she didn’t know a man at that income level would be very rare and have hella options

EXACTLY

A lot of women dont wanna build. They just want a finished product.

If I was a woman, if there was a man with atleast some ambition and a plan id stick by him. I can understand a shiftless loser but dam.