TK Kirkland "The worst thing you can do is to raise another man's child, its mental illness"

[Nigerianwonder]

If you enjoy being a worthless excuse of a man that abandons his children then say that you fatherless fakkit.

Yeah keep dreaming simp. That will never be me. But it's clear your mad cause your a cuck raising some losers kids. Just know that no matter what.. deep down they will always choose their biological dad over you. Good luck chump.

 

[horizon]

Yeah keep dreaming simp. That will never be me. But it's clear your mad cause your a cuck raising some losers kids. Just know that no matter what.. deep down they will always choose their biological dad over you. Good luck chump.

You grew up without a male influence in your life, so talking to you is like talking to a child or a woman. You'll never understand it and I don't have the patience to teach you how to master your emotions and stop thinking like a bytch.

 

[Uachet]

I raised my sister, I would have considered a good woman who was married and her husband died under honorable circumstances. The former was already family, so I was just doing my duty as a family member. The later would be the child of an honorable woman who chose well, but her husband unfortunately died.

I would not raise the child of another man who was known to be a criminal, known to be a player, known to have multiple children by multiple women, i.e. known to be an unfit for fatherhood male. It would be silly of me to come in and seek to fix a problem that the woman created by choosing to procreate with such a man.

Her poor decision making on the most important decision she can make in her life, whom to choose as the father of her child, would express itself out in many other ways. You would more than likely be dooming yourself, instead of saving the child if you choose such a woman.

 

[Nigerianwonder]

You grew up without a male influence in your life, so talking to you is like talking to a child or a woman. You'll never understand it and I don't have the patience to teach you how to master your emotions and stop thinking like a bytch.

My parents been married over 50 years. Try again muddasucka.

 

[Stuntone]

@Stuntone ! He speaking facts?

In most cases he's right.

If you're an older man and/or a man with no kids or can't have kids, you can't get a good bargain on a gently used baby-mother. But she has to be on point looks wise and personality wise. And the kids need to be well behaved. And father has to be out of the picture or very cool. That's a lot things that have to go right, so it's rare, but possible.

Another thing i've realize is things are different in small towns and area where most people dont earn a lot. Women are most appreciative of hard work men, with stable average jobs.

 

[Ozymandeas]

You know being told “you’re not my daddy” after doing a lot for that child has to be soul crushing.

Exactly why I would never do it.

I agree with TK 100%. It's not about sh*tting on women either but, why should a man be second best in his own house?

The problem here is single mothers don't want to date single fathers when that would solve this issue.

You got baggage. He got baggage. Yall got baggage together. But these women wanna date men with no kids and it's not fair.

 

[MikelArteta]

big difference between a 21 year old single mom of two and a widow and a divorcee.

 

[Ozymandeas]

When you take care of another man’s kid, you’re basically accepting that you will never come first, second, third or fourth…. Youre gonna be an afterthought for the rest of your days… you’re gonna be emotional support for the mother, a wallet for the kids and a resource… you’re gonna go to work and bust your ass to support a kid who might not even respect you all while you risk having your woman cheating on you with her kids REAL father (if he’s still in the picture)

No thanks


Of course there are exceptions to this, but it plays out this way in many cases more than you think

Absolutely not. May this life never find me.

 

[Cryptocurrency Scarface]

was raised by his stepdad and turned out very successful

 

[Fanservice]

I feel like once you get a woman pregnant you and the child’s mother have to put y’all bullshyt to the side to raise that child. It’s not about what you want anymore. It’s about the kid. As long as I’m alive and breathing and healthy no other man is raising my kids, no other man is gonna have my kids sitting on his lap or calling him “dad” or “daddy”.

Imagine letting another man spank your kids, kiss them and tuck them in at night. And then you got the Rodney from Baby Boy type nikkas

 

[Gator48]

Gangsta/ Comedian/ mental health professional

 

[Eternally Jaded]

Initially I didn't agree with him saying its mental illness. But reading your post got me reconsidering. You have normalized dysfunction to the point where you wear it as a badge of honor. That is indeed mental illness. Have some respect for yourself.

There is no honor in raising another mans responsibility (assuming he is still alive). And low key your women doesn't respect you for doing it either but that's another thread.

You have almost no rights as a step parent over the step kids but they will be living in your house taking up your time and energy and draining your bank account. You got no legal rights, no rights to how they are educated, no medical access rights etc. The biological parent retains all that even if they are a deadbeat. And if your dumb enough to marry a woman with kids even if you raise them from babies, if yall ever divorce you get no custody or visitation rights. all risk. no reward. No thank you.

You're literally talking just to talk with no actual reality in there.

Plenty of people formalize those relationships by adopting their step children.

Happens every day.

Especially when the children realize that someone really loves them and puts them first, showing that through thick or thin, this person is gonna be in their corner.

Go outside and then return to this discussion breh.

 

[Kasgoinjail]

I wouldn't do it if I was a dude
I dont even really let anyone I'm dating meet my children, because they will go bk and tell their dad, so good luck with that

I'd be a stepmother tho
I met my stepmother when I was around 8, and being over a decade younger than my dad, she was so much fun and good vibes.

 

[Eternally Jaded]

I notice a lot of y’all are saying “what about the kids?” And “why should the kids have to pay?” And “if you feeling a chick and she got a kid, why not be a positive male influence to him?”



Y’all say it like it’s just so simple



Raising another mans kid (or any kid for that matter) is hard fukking work and you gotta be a different kind of patient, tolerant and selfless in order to do that and most men just don’t have that in em… y’all sound goofy tryna slander TK for saying what he said and y’all even goofier tryna convince nikkas on the coli that there are situations where it’s cool to be a single dad…talking about “it will be yet another black boy with no father figure”

If someone WANTS to do that, then okay. But don’t try to make me sound like I’m a weirdo or a selfish piece of shyt because I choose to avoid single moms like the plague.

It's not about criminalizing anyone who rather not step into that kinda setup, but pushing back on the hateful rhetoric that TK himself just put out there, calling it mental illness.

Especially considering he himself has a glut of kids he can't possibly be giving his all to.

Dude is broken and nothing he says outside of a joke should carry ANY weight with healthy balanced people.

It's said "that a society becomes great, when men plant trees they'll never sit in the shade of", which is generally applied to visionary policy but it also very much applies here.

I'll let you decide how.

 

[Uachet]

You're literally talking just to talk with no actual reality in there.

Plenty of people formalize those relationships by adopting their step children.

Happens every day.

Especially when the children realize that someone really loves them and puts them first, showing that through thick or thin, this person is gonna be in their corner.

Go outside and then return to this discussion breh.

"About 5% of children in stepfamilies have been adopted by a stepparent. Adopted stepchildren have an increased risk of negative outcomes in the area of behavior and emotional problems."

https://paa2007.populationassociation.org/papers/71568#:~:text=About%205%25%20of%20children%20in,of%20behavior%20and%20emotional%20problems.

So I would say using the word plenty is quite a bit overstating the actual prevalance of stepparents adopting their stepchildren.