No it's not. There are kids out there who were beaten, molested and raped by their parents who are alive, can fend for themselves, are not pieces of shyt, and are even financially successful.
You got where you are because you overcame your weaknesses, including many weaknesses that were instilled in you by assertive parents.
It sounds like your self esteem isn't where it should be. If you internalized all that "you are where you are because of ME" BS you were told by your mom seek a therapist. I mean no disrespect by that.
I sense a lot of projection from this post. Sorry you didn’t have the same stable household I did. See how easy it is to make assumptions about someone you don’t know?
On the one hand, you say those who become successful in spite of their dysfunctional homes, did it due to self determination. Ergo, according to your logic, parenting is ineffective because a child’s fate is predetermined?
Make it make sense.
I am the person I am today because of the principles and hard work ethic my parents instilled in me. My parents have never had to pat themselves on the back for their parenting, I’ll happily pat it for them. They gave me the tools and I built from that.
I will always be indebted to my parents because I see so many shytty ones. I won the lottery having my mom and dad and I’ll never be ashamed to say it, despite what self esteem issues you assume I have.
) and she said she didn’t know where they came from but since I found them they were mine 
