There's so many single women out here

[mamba]

So, you believe bw want Mr. Perfect to sweep them off their feet in order for them to want marriage whereas ww and other groups just want to be married, period?

Yes. I think white women and other non-Black women understand the power of combined incomes and building wealth early.

Black women would rather wait until they are in their late 30s/early 40s to face reality and try to find a mate. Which results in a much later start in terms of building wealth.

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

Breh, if you live alone, have a mortgage, a car note and some student loans, $100K in Atlanta isn't a lot of money breh.

Edit: for the record when I say staying afloat I'm not talking about living paycheck to paycheck. I'm talking about you're earning a decent living but don't have a lot of splurge money to be balling. There is living paycheck to paycheck, staying afloat, comfortable, and balling. There are layers to the comfortable level so it depends on what YOU consider comfortable.

But I know a mofo living in Grant Park making $110K and getting his light cut off from time to time. It's definitely a money management thing in his part.but a lot of it has to do with having expensive taste too. Grant Park condos renting for damn near $2K, factor in his "Benz" because he has to "show n*ggas". His words not mine.

To me staying afloat means bills paid able to save a little while living a decent living

$100,000 【 Income Tax Calculator 】 Georgia - Salary After Taxes


$100,000 a year is $6000/month after taxes in Georgia.

What are you doing where $6000 a month isn't enough

If I was living in ATL I guarantee you I can save $2000/month after living costs and health insurance


https://www.zillow.com/homedetails/2924-Brookford-Ln-SW-Atlanta-GA-30331/69374591_zpid/

This house right here has a $1200 mortgage after 20% down. $1200 mortgage + 500 groceries + 300 utilities. Your living expenses is only $2000.

 

[CarmelBarbie]

Yes. I think white women and other non-Black women understand the power of combined incomes and building wealth early.

Black women would rather wait until they are in their late 30s/early 40s to face reality and try to find a mate. Which results in a much later start in terms of building wealth.

According to this article that isn’t solely why bw are less likely to marry.

Incarceration, unemployment, and the black–white marriage gap in the US | VOX, CEPR Policy Portal

Apples to apples, bw outnumber bm, compared to ww and other groups, and the article lists additional factors that contribute. All in all, I think what you say has merit, but I also think that there are other factors at play as to why other groups tend to marry more and marry younger.

 

[mamba]

According to this article that isn’t solely why bw are less likely to marry.

Incarceration, unemployment, and the black–white marriage gap in the US | VOX, CEPR Policy Portal

Apples to apples, bw outnumber bm, compared to ww and other groups, and the article lists additional factors that contribute. All in all, I think what you say has merit, but I also think that there are other factors at play as to why other groups tend to marry more and marry younger.

Yes. All of that is true and certainly contributes to it.

But, it’s also true that the Black woman wants a man to check off several “boxes” in her mind for him to be husband material. They’d rather be single than to “settle” in their minds.

White women and other non-Black women find a man they can build with and keep it moving.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

So, you believe bw want Mr. Perfect to sweep them off their feet in order for them to want marriage whereas ww and other groups just want to be married, period?

I don’t think this is the case. I think black women have always been more industrious than white women period, and the many racial realities in our community make it harder to find stable relationships than in white communities by design.

Blk women, much like black men have far more hurdles to clear on the path to matrimony due to living in a white supremacist society. In fact, by the age of 35 both blk men and blk women are married at rates comparable to other races.

But we as a people aren’t obsessed with marriage in our youth b:c we can’t afford to be. We have to grapple with shyt like poverty and mass incarceration rates. Also, ironically stereotypes about blk women being hateful, ugly, angry, aggressive, mean, hair hat baby mamas, who want perfection also contributes to these difficulties. Meanwhile white women out there taking trips to Africa killing thousands of kids, fukking horses, ur dad, ur mom, the family dog, falsely accusing people of rape, literally killing people in cold blood, yet still maintaining an image of pure innocent perfection, while blk women get raked over the coals for a lace front.

The impact of image can’t be overstated when it comes to relationships, especially with blks.

Hell even childbirth isn’t a 1:1 comparison for blk women as whites women, so ill never understand how people can sit there and wonder why relationships are a bit more difficult in our community. It isn’t because blk women have unrealistic expectations, because for all the shyt I hear people say, I see PLENTY of blk women with men who make less than them or aren’t as attractive as them. And non-blk women can be some of the shallowest gold diggers on the planet.

But the same disparities that impact our community in other ways affects our relationships or romantic endeavors. Poverty and money issues are the number one reason for divorce in the country so it’s no surprise we will have more difficulty in this area.

 

[Bledswole]

A lot of delusional people in this thread

Oh I forgot I’m on thecoli

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

According to this article that isn’t solely why bw are less likely to marry.

Incarceration, unemployment, and the black–white marriage gap in the US | VOX, CEPR Policy Portal

Apples to apples, bw outnumber bm, compared to ww and other groups, and the article lists additional factors that contribute. All in all, I think what you say has merit, but I also think that there are other factors at play as to why other groups tend to marry more and marry younger.

Just saw ur article. Good stuff.

 

[CarmelBarbie]

Yes. All of that is true and certainly contributes to it.

But, it’s also true that the Black woman wants a man to check off several “boxes” in her mind for him to be husband material. They’d rather be single than to “settle” in their minds.

White women and other non-Black women find a man they can build with and keep it moving.

Could it be that some bw genuinely don’t know? I have a few friends that were raised in single parent households. They don’t know what husband material is, or how it’s a way to build wealth. Bw aren’t taught the same things by their mothers and fathers that other groups are taught. From my experience that contributes to the differences too. For instance my mom and dad never once had a talk with me about the importance of marriage, seeking a husband, etc. I was told I need to be strong, love myself, go to school, and put myself in a position where I can take care of myself. I was told I would have to work harder than ww and others, too. In fact they discouraged me from dating, and getting too serious, telling me to focus on education, career, etc. I grew up in a white area so I noticed this was a difference. White parents loved when their kids got in relationships and encouraged them. White women were taught to look for husbands in college. And wm were told to marry Kaitlyn, etc.

I do think your right that there are some bw that are very superficial. Focusing on things that aren’t as important as others, a black female matchmaker even stated as much. I did read a study a while ago that stated that a lot of educated bm and bw get married later, so I think that’s something else to consider.

 

[mamba]

Could it be that some bw genuinely don’t know? I have a few friends that were raised in single parent households. They don’t know what husband material is, or how it’s a way to build wealth. Bw aren’t taught the same things by their mothers and fathers that other groups are taught. From my experience that contributes to the differences too. For instance my mom and dad never once had a talk with me about the importance of marriage, seeking a husband, etc. I was told I need to be strong, love myself, go to school, and put myself in a position where I can take care of myself. I was told I would have to work harder than ww and others, too. In fact they discouraged me from dating, and getting too serious, telling me to focus on education, career, etc. I grew up in a white area so I noticed this was a difference. White parents loved when their kids got in relationships and encouraged them. White women were taught to look for husbands in college. And wm were told to marry Kaitlyn, etc.

I do think your right that there are some bw that are very superficial. Focusing on things that aren’t as important as others, a black female matchmaker even stated as much. I did read a study a while ago that stated that a lot of educated bm and bw get married later, so I think that’s something else to consider.

I agree with everything you stated here. Many Black women just don't know any better. By the time they figure it out, they are at a clear disadvantage in the dating marketplace.

Similarly, a lot of Black men aren't taught to value marriage and to see it as a wealth-building vehicle.

Ultimately, Black men and Black women lose by not settling down earlier. We miss out on a lot of opportunities to build wealth waiting to get married in our late 30s.

 

[intruder]

$100,000 【 Income Tax Calculator 】 Georgia - Salary After Taxes


$100,000 a year is $6000/month after taxes in Georgia.

What are you doing where $6000 a month isn't enough

If I was living in ATL I guarantee you I can save $2000/month after living costs and health insurance


https://www.zillow.com/homedetails/2924-Brookford-Ln-SW-Atlanta-GA-30331/69374591_zpid/

This house right here has a $1200 mortgage after 20% down. $1200 mortgage + 500 groceries + 300 utilities. Your living expenses is only $2000.

You are delusional as fukk obviously.

#1 After taxes, health insurance, 401K and other stuff taken out you'll get about $2,600+ per paycheck as a single person with no dependents

The mortgage amount you are seeing does not include taxes and Insurance, clones. You ever bought a house, breh? Try adding say least another $400 to $500 to that number you see in your link. Them mortgage calculators on real estate don't include Taxes and insurance. Find your own online. Put it this way a house costing half that's mortgage can cost you $1200 a month. So just imagine how much this one will.

My car payment and car insurance alone are $262 and $167 a month respectively

I have flat billing on my electric bill which is about $90+ per month. In the winter I have gas service which runs on average about $100.
Cable/internet service about $120

Now I know I overspend s lot eating out and that's my weakness. I love fine dining and when I go out to eat even alone I'm looking at about $45+ for dinner sometimes on the high end. Your grocery estimate can use some work too.

Again when I say staying afloat o didn't mean paycheck to paycheck. I mean you are able to live decent, save a bit. THAT IS NOT WHAT I CONSIDER COMFORTABLE

 

[OfTheCross]

You are delusional as fukk obviously.

#1 After taxes, health insurance, 401K and other stuff taken out you'll get about $2,600+ per paycheck as a single person with no dependents

The mortgage amount you are seeing does not include taxes and Insurance, clones. You ever bought a house, breh? Try adding say least another $400 to $500 to that number you see in your link. Them mortgage calculators on real estate don't include Taxes and insurance. Find your own online. Put it this way a house costing half that's mortgage can cost you $1200 a month. So just imagine how much this one will.

My car payment and car insurance alone are $262 and $167 a month respectively

I have flat billing on my electric bill which is about $90+ per month. In the winter I have gas service which runs on average about $100.
Cable/internet service about $120

Now I know I overspend s lot eating out and that's my weakness. I love fine dining and when I go out to eat even alone I'm looking at about $45+ for dinner sometimes on the high end. Your grocery estimate can use some work too.

Again when I say staying afloat o didn't mean paycheck to paycheck. I mean you are able to live decent, save a bit. THAT IS NOT WHAT I CONSIDER COMFORTABLE

If you can cover practically all your bills with 1 check, your comfy

 

[intruder]

If you can cover practically all your bills with 1 check, your comfy

Guess I didn't mention the $613 student loan payments

 

[OfTheCross]

Guess I didn't mention the $613 student loan payments

nikkas better put that degree to work

 

[mamba]

Guess I didn't mention the $613 student loan payments

What’s the outstanding balance on the loan?

 

[kej718]

Most people in this country make less than that. The numbers are probably worse for people of color.

America’s Middle Class is Vanishing. Nearly Half of Workers Earn Less than $30,000