The Struggle of Black Boyhood

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sidenote: Will Smith is just a portion of the videos content

Might to post this the other day after I finished watching it. I think this doubles up well with a previous thread I made with his video about the exploitation of black male sexuality: https://www.thecoli.com/threads/the-stigma-pressure-objectification-of-black-male-sexuality.927963/

Black childhood trauma is still something that we need really start addressing because it is something that we internalize and try to justify if the contributor to that trauma is someone we love. That internalization can lead to health and mental problems down the road, or us repeating that trauma to our children.

 

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For the few non-c00n black men here this also ties into the topic with how black boys are commodified for their bodies to play sports

 

[Prynce]

Lol black boys have it hard as hell

If I shared my trauma people wouldn’t even care, they’ll tell me man up and it’s in the past

It’s a lot of pain I had to swallow and just deal with …

 

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Lol black boys have it hard as hell

If I shared my trauma people wouldn’t even care, they’ll tell me man up and it’s in the past

It’s a lot of pain I had to swallow and just deal with …

And that's the damn problem: we can't even unpack amongst each other without the fear of being clowned. The crazy thing is that the same ones that are clowning also got trauma

 

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https://www.thecoli.com/threads/what-pissed-you-off-the-most-as-a-child.949061/

Going through that thread you can see examples like this:

Being held accountable for shyt I didn’t do but unable to articulate that

got my ass beat for being accused of scratching ps2 discs when the system was malfunctioning


my dad also sent my friend to check and see if I was cleaning my room….I was pretty much done and just inspecting my room when I saw that nikka and waved…he went back and told my dad I wasn’t cleaning, he beat my ass for it


also anytime my parents gaslit me or lied about some dumb shyt I couldn’t articulate wtf they were doing, frustrated the fukk out of me

 

[Dameon Farrow]

Lol black boys have it hard as hell

If I shared my trauma people wouldn’t even care, they’ll tell me man up and it’s in the past

It’s a lot of pain I had to swallow and just deal with …

Man it's so bad for us though. Leads to what I call slow suicide. We drive too fast on the highway. Drink to excess. Smoke too much. Get into dangerous unnecessary conflict.

But because it's not a dude putting a loaded gun to their heads minus the safety people don't take it as seriously. We all know somebody on the slow suicide tip. I personally got out of it. Some never do until they succeed. Most frustrating part is I don't even know how to help anybody.

 

[RickyDiBiase]

I prefer someone other than that particular youtuber touching on these topics

 

[King Sun]

Lol black boys have it hard as hell

If I shared my trauma people wouldn’t even care, they’ll tell me man up and it’s in the past

It’s a lot of pain I had to swallow and just deal with …

What kind of family members y'all have

 

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Man it's so bad for us though. Leads to what I call slow suicide. We drive too fast on the highway. Drink to excess. Smoke too much. Get into dangerous unnecessary conflict.

But because it's not a dude putting a loaded gun to their heads minus the safety people don't take it as seriously. We all know somebody on the slow suicide tip. I personally got out of it. Some never do until they succeed. Most frustrating part is I don't even know how to help anybody.

Man you are absolutely right. He don't even really realize we are just trying to mask the pain into it's at a fever pitch, and at that point a lot of brothas end up committing suicide. Just talking to someone can help out a whole lot

 

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I prefer someone other than that particular youtuber touching on these topics

What's your issues with him? I've been watching a few of his videos and I haven't come across anything crazy. I'm sure theres other YouTubers touching on these issues but I haven't come across them

 

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Interesting topic. Much rather hear it broached by members, than random YTer.

 

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Interesting topic. Much rather hear it broached by members, rather than random YTer.

That's why I made the thread but it seems the interest are in other things. Look at posters that claim they are protecting black men rather post in silly back and forth threads than discuss actual black issues

 

[get these nets]

That's why I made the thread but it seems the interest are in other things. Look at posters that claim they are protecting black men rather post in silly back and forth threads than discuss actual black issues

I think it's an important topic, but since I've been here a lot of the commentary in threads are people rehashing/parroting words of takes of other people rather than their own thoughts and words.

On topic, I think in our teens and early adulthood we separate ourselves physically from negative environments where the trauma occurred. Being a child, you live where you live and attend school in your neighborhood. Stuck in the places where the trauma might occur.

After the age where you can extract yourself from that environment and have a choice for new environment, time to work on yourself and your development.

 

[Neuromancer]

I feel like this is talked about but often shouted down.

 

[Complexion]

This is a generational trauma thing. I call it the wounded womb because it will hurt the seeds it births, whether it wants to or not. Will was a good example of that:

Why Will Slapped Chris + What it says about You

A man murders another in ancient times. The only witness to the crime is an actor. The courts of the day shake their head and say “Nay, for he is a professional liar and we can’t be cer…

willhelp.me

"In many ways the entire world lives like this because you’ve been told since you were a kid, in ways both brazen and indirect, that you aren’t any good as you are and for acceptance you should be like this.

There is the first brick, usually instilled by parents which swiftly chips at your innate “I Am-ness” as it now has to justify its existence whereas before it was never even a question as my radiance is testimony to my alignment as evidenced by my innocence as I’m fully connected to my inner sense. This is the great secret of why children are born shining and become as dim as their parents only to do it all again and why everyone feels like something is missing from their lives that was once present but they can’t quite put their finger on it or say what it is. It’s the Process, as designed by the System. What you think the Game of Souls doesn’t have a vested interest in managing your perceptions and how you think? Why wouldn’t it be? After all it all takes place in your awareness so one divided against Self can never truly rise nor become a threat and thus you’ll spend your life investing in a range of foolish things designed to distract yourself from looking the only place it can begin and end:


The awareness of your awareness."

The rest of the article goes into more detail about this using Will as an example:

"Will didn’t slap Chris because of what he said. He slapped him because of what his Father did and the immense discomfort this brings raging up to the surface causing the mask he’d worked so hard to build to slip, which isn’t surprising because for the few its been open season on Will as the clown prince of cuckness as the whole world has been up in his biz and all the dirt that got dished as the world “entanglement” entered the collective consciousness."

As well as reference why MJ suppressed his masculine in an effort to totally distance himself from Joseph. A lot of men born without a stable male influence will do the flip and go hyper aggressive both as a vent and pastiche of what they think they're missing and rap definitely feeds into this as it pours negative impressions into the urban youths head with abundance which leads to pain, jail, death or addiction.

It is, quite literally, deeper than rap and its all interconnected.

The wounds of childhood weep silently within almost all of the populace and people will go to great lengths to hide this fact from themselves as they invest in a fable that doesn't serve their best interests and often isn't what actually happened. Read the article, if it makes you feel something mention and I'll help. Also check out this thread:

https://www.thecoli.com/threads/therapy-for-black-males.844616/

I'll swing back through with a little something something later as I just peeped this thread.