"The only people who are moving out are broke people"

[Pineal Gland]

My parents were taxing me when I was only making 10.40 an hour. On top of that, I wasn't feeling their rules and had no privacy so I was out as soon as possible.

 

[BeeCityRoller]

I don't think there's anything wrong with staying with parents through college age/entry-level job years 18-23 as long as you keep an emergency fund. In our community what staying at home means is staying with mama 90% of the time.

I left my moms house briefly in my early 20's and came back a year later, then stayed until 27 which was too long because I outgrew my space. Too much of my own furniture, appliances, tools etc throughout the house. Always helped out with the mortgage monthly, financial emergencies, and lawncare/basic repairs around the house. Didn't really get laser-focused on getting my career and finances in order until 25-26 though. If you're young and living at home, run up those savings and investment accounts.

Crazy thing is back in my late teens people used to clown guys who lived at home even when we were in the middle of a recession and those $8-9 an hour jobs (if you could even get one) were not paying rent These days $15 an hour is not even 3x the rent for a $1000 apartment, and God help you if you have a unreliable car that can break down at any moment or a car note for $400+

 

[Wild self]

My problem are these extremes.

Really, sex and smoking weed? I understand why people leave, but, I don't wanna hear shyt like I saved $40,000.

I got a good job, fukk I look like staying with moms? You may as well stay til you 50--it saves money, right?

Again, if you can stay home til like 20, 21 years old, get work experience, deal with your parent/s treating you like a child, maintain responsibility as a man/woman, do it.

But, the reality is; most people are gone by 18, 19.

What year you live in? 1995?

And just because you left early, doesnt mean every black person gotta do the same. Ahit like that is why landlords take advantage and jack up the cost of living, which makes everyone suffer.

 

[Spence]

My sister turns 35 next month and has been in my parents house with her husband and 2 kids the last 7 years

I was booted at 18 my parents said “it’s time for you to be a man now”

I’m further along at my age than my older sister was at this age, and I might as well be on fkn Mars compared to my little sister because she’s the baby and my mom is soft on her. My brother in law always walking around mad as fk because he’s living under my pops roof and they not doing shyt about it

 

[International Playa]

Not everyones family is understanding. I had to pay rent & still abide by a curfew/rules under my mama house.

I couldnt sleep over at one of my females crib or my mum would have an issue. I packed my shyt up & moved in to my own studio apartment. That summer I had a roster of 3 women when I first had my own apartment

I didnt save much, but I wouldnt have it any other way, living with my mama was unbearable.

 

[buzzkill]

i probably wouldve saved hella money living with my parents

but my hometown is boring as fukk so fukk that

 

[BossmanChad]

Don't agree with everything the woman in OP says but in general her advice is sound.

My advice is to save 3-6months worth of rent and then move out. Personally, I don't agree with people staying so they can save for a deposit at the expense of living life. Not to mention the several life skills you learn living on your own.

It shouldn't be this way, people used to be able to move in with roommates or rent a small studio/1 bed AND save for a deposit. We should focus on the housing issue.

 

[Actually6Foot3]

Everyone's home situation ain't peaches. I needed to get tf out personally it wasn't healthy for my mental.

That aside, anecdotal of course, from my observations the ones that stayed home ended up lazier and more complacent than the ones that moved out

We don't have a "hustle hard while at home" mentality like folks from other places where they're banging out As, doing internships, saving money And pulling their own weight.

nikkas lollygagging through shyt cause mom is cooking every day. The lights are always on and your room is comfortable. A lot of folks that think they would've saved money likely would've just blown it on dumb shyt like most late teens and early 20s peopl. Some not all.

 

[MIKE SPLEAN]

I have no idea why Americans are this way and constantly put constraints on themselves. Putting themselves at a disadvantage for literally no reason. Bunch of people leaving home broke, crashing on a couch in a closet sized apartment with 2 other roommates just for some self perceived, “freedom”

 

[Roid Jones]

In many cultures people live at home and only move out when/if they get married.

In some cultures when you're of a certain age parents kick you out. As housing and rental costs continue to rise will be interesting for the next generation.

I know a lot of Asians both male and female that lived at home until marriage or still live at home, rent and major bills is paid by them

 

[African Peasant]

Young adults want their own space. This is not unusual.

Ask Baby Boomers how long they stayed home.

Babyboomers were an exception in history.
All that "everyone needs his own place at 18" is quickly getting out of the window.

 

[Leao2005]

I think people missing the point. Brehs I’m here saying they moved out at 18, that’s all well and good but they fail to mention they’re older. Wages have not gone up, these are facts

If people have less buying power now more than ever what does that mean for people out here tryna make something shake

nikkas on this site have a tough time grasping reality outside of themselves

 

[hatealot]

she sound like she don't want her kids to move out. Independence and self sufficiency creates a different kinda of comfort

Most mothers feel this way, subconsciously they don't want their kids to move on but they know they have to grow up.

So nikkas can’t get p*ssy cause housing prices too high

That shyt put a cold stop for me, moms let me bring whoever into the crib before 25. After 25. She said its time to move out. Wasn't making enough money to pay for hotels every weekend and like me , everyone still lived at home. shyt was wack

 

[UberEatsDriver]

How bout you show "move out" to a place with a a lower Cost of Living. Arkansas can give you a great job on $10 - $15 per hour.

So why is Arkansas a poor state if $10-$15$ an hour can give you such a great living?


No point in boasting about this if jobs that pay that much in Arkansas aren’t even that available.


We see Cali folks doing this to Texas and NYC people doing this to NC and now both locals in Texas and NC are bytching that their cost of living is rising because people came down with similar beliefs

 

[UberEatsDriver]

But why Arkansas and only $15 an hour? You think that low of black folks?

no that’s the issue with many people today. They really come at you with this methodology.


“Y’all can move to middle of PA and live god working for $12 an hour”. I’ve never made that low per hour in my life even at 17 so yea on one end people like that have a low ceiling as far as living.