The Nightly Show Panel - Black Women And Dating

[Yup]

And I just told you BM out earn BW. Government stats prove that. So if you can't find a BM earning more than you that sound like a personal issue to me.

Bm outearn yes but how many bm are in the work force vs bw? And those that outearn claim that they have their pick of women of all races. How many bm have married other races of women because they are not surrounded by bw? Are they also looking for the fastfood chick with a heart of gold or the chunky women with potential?

 

[MikelArteta]

btw stop mingling with thugs and a$$holes then crying out for a good man

80% of children are born out of wedlock, why the hell would any good black man want that excess baggage?

I always notice that good quality black woman have no problems getting good quality black men.

I see my sister with he accountant husband who makes over 125k a year, i see other quality women at my church with black husbands

its always these bottom barrel low quality black women, or these career orientated I dont need no man then at 35-40 crying cuz they have nothing.

 

[MikelArteta]

but what of the women who are laywers being told to give the bus driver/cleaning man a chance? Or a reformed criminal a chance?

My point is when does it stop being about potential and just picking up scrubs to say you have a man.

many bus drivers make 60-100k a year

same with many cleaning men

 

[Blackout]

Break it down for me? Are bm accepting that because bw must work that they can take on more domestic duties?

Your assuming that the bm doesnt work himself. Just because it doesn't pay more that doesn't mean that it's not work.

Just operate as if he is making more money than you. It's the same anyway.

 

[freetroit]

If a bm is making enough money to take care of himself with or without you @Yup

If he is also willing to cook most nights and help clean up

Is that good enough for him to receive love

Even though you make more than him

Or will you think less of him and emasculate him

 

[Yup]

That's why the two mates WORK TOGETHER, it Means SHARED BONDING and SHARED PROGRESSION....we seem to have adopted cacs greed and selfish mentality. It doesn't matter HOW MUCH each mate has....get that out of your head....it matters HOW MUCH each MATE is willing to put in to the partnership to love and care for each other and make the family unit work.

We come from a culture in the motherland where we believed in BUILDING WITH EACH OTHER......not these "levels" which creates the same arrogance and superior thinking that this devil has.

I am african. There has never been a culture in africa in which men are not providing for women.

 

[freetroit]

Obviously a man who is taking care of himself has to cook and clean his own house anyway correct?

So this while being the workhorse mentality is just an excuse

To be a white mans lapdog

 

[Yup]

Your assuming that the bm doesnt work himself. Just because it doesn't pay more that doesn't mean that it's not work.

Just operate as if he is making more money than you. It's the same anyway.

LOl smh.

 

[freetroit]

All I'm getting out of this is that love is very expensive

Maybe its not even worth it

 

[GodinDaFlesh]

most professional circles are filled with professional equals....check out the wealthiest men and most of them are not coupled with goddesses/models but attractive most importantly women who are the top of their field as well.

Those couples were probably together before they became wealthy. They grew with each other and stuck with each other through thick and thin. If a wealthy man didn't have a woman by his side during his worst times, that increases is chances of looking for a dime trophy wife when he makes it big. A lot of single professional black women are in denial, but unless you are willing to have realistic standards in choosing a man, you're going to continue to be single and featured on these type of panels.

 

[Yup]

Obviously a man who is taking care of himself has to cook and clean his own house anyway correct?

So this while being the workhorse mentality is just an excuse

To be a white mans lapdog

Are you going to advocate your fellow brehs to help women in the house hold? Cause thats jot what I heard said on here.

 

[Yup]

Those couples were probably together before they became wealthy. They grew with each other and stuck with each other through thick and thin. If a wealthy man didn't have a woman by his side during his worst times, that increases is chances of looking for a dime trophy wife when he makes it big. A lot of single professional black women are in denial, but unless you are willing to have realistic standards in choosing a man, you're going to continue to be single and featured on these type of panels.

How many bm are in college vs bw?

 

[Medicate]

So my reward is that I have a man that I can produce kids that I will mainly be raising. You have to be more specific on what bm atr bringing because I already know what the expectations of bw are supposed to be.

If be need not look at income what should they look at that ensures that men is pulling his weight in thr relationship?

You don't know what you should be looking for in a man other than money?

How about how much baggage he carries from the past with him, i.e baby mama drama if he has any others,if he even treats you right, how he communicates with you, gels with you in every day life, is he fatherly material, just as we look for BW that would be motherly material.....you can find out if he's fatherly material just by a few questions you ask and the answers given.....

As you're dating and dealing with a potential mate in a BM, you have to use your motherly instincts in deciphering if the man opposite you would be one that would try and take advantage of you or love you and has genuine interest in a life with you. None of these things has to do do with how much less or more money or education he has.

How he acts,talks, treats you, and how much baggage, i.e if he has been in and out of relationships and/or multiple marriages, baby mamas, is the barometer, not how much money, education or type of looks he has.

 

[freetroit]

It shows that the only man who can receive love from a black woman who earns more

Is a white man

Oh well

 

[Yup]

If a bm is making enough money to take care of himself with or without you @Yup

If he is also willing to cook most nights and help clean up

Is that good enough for him to receive love

Even though you make more than him

Or will you think less of him and emasculate him

If a man is not earning as much as me but is willing to lessen my burden in other ways and be a partner me. I don't have a problem. But frankly relationships where women earn more than men don't work out as much in my opinion.