Essential The Mental Health Thread

[Neuromancer]

Weird State find myself in currently, been dealing with a breakup/Family issues past 6-7 months & just feel empty now that everything starting to open and and starting to hit the bars/clubs. Like I don’t enjoy any of it at all which I did just 6-7 months ago. Just something off

I'd say find a hobby or a passion something you love and want to do with no one else needed. I think it will help.

 

[Slic Ric]

I'd say find a hobby or a passion something you love and want to do with no one else needed. I think it will help.

Its hard man, especially with COVID lockdowns, I tried focusing on work 24/7 but I have no passion or will for it, I just sign in and out. I tried recently going out with friends after not seeing them for months but that void just isnt going away at all, its just growing bigger and bigger

 

[Neuromancer]

Its hard man, especially with COVID lockdowns, I tried focusing on work 24/7 but I have no passion or will for it, I just sign in and out. I tried recently going out with friends after not seeing them for months but that void just isnt going away at all, its just growing bigger and bigger

Hobbies are easy to find. What do you enjoy doing?

 

[Mr Rager]

Breh last post was in november

 

[semicko82]

People are fukking liars bro. Liars and fakes.
Not to mention people get one leg up and think they can look down on everyone else. They lie about caring for you just so they can feel superior to you and gaslight you. nikkas who would be right where you are if not for a lucky break. Which I’m not hating on, but don’t act better because of it.

these nikkas won’t call and ask how you doin for a week, but they tell you to reach out to them. But when you do reach out they act you’re bothering them and you’re crazy when you bring it up.

I’m on my fukking own in this shyt. fukk men and women. I just don’t fit in this shyt

I feel the same especially since I’m a thorough dude.
I got my faults, but if anyone needs or wants anything I’ll try my damn best to help others
It sucks that some people don’t reciprocate the love, but life doesn’t work way
If you a thorough man keep being that type of man.
Real stand up dudes don’t worry about validation from others

 

[semicko82]

This has been my problem over the years...Although not as bad as I used to be when I was younger.

I think I dont care but I do care...
I notice this with how I move on social media, I dont really show my personality and interests much.
In the back of my mind theres always that thought of what will people think.

Where as some people just do and post what they want and carry on their day without worrying about that.

Definitely a reason why I dont really interact with a lot of people.

I'm a big overthinker I notice all the small shyt people say and do.
I like being black and white and people being black and white with me.
So I know where I stand with them otherwise I just overthink things.

Same here
I think I let shyt get up under my skin easily, but it’s something I’m working on

 

[semicko82]

Came back in this thread and remembered this post I made

Wanted to give yall a quick update

I have a Bachelor's in Psychology

I now have a residential specialist job at a local homeless shelter, the same shelter I spent 8 months in when I was a toddler

I plan on getting my Masters in Social Work within the next 3 years so I can continue to work my way up to be a full time therapist

My network is continuing to grow and I have connections that will lead me to success in the field

My dream is to have my own private practice in Psychotherapy somewhere in the DMV area that promotes and emphasizes the treatment of minorities (mainly black men and women). I'm learning on the fly and winging it right now but I know that this is what I was meant to do. Ever since I was 5 I wanted to change the world. I've grown to realize exactly how I can help make that lifelong desire a reality

My depression is pretty much non existent now. Last time I cried was after DMX passed away. I grieved but I was able to pick myself up and not fall into depression

My anxiety is so much better now than it was 3 years ago. I feel like I can finally be my authentic self. Being social and spending time outside in public places isn't something that cripples me anymore

I still have racing thoughts at times but I'm able to use healthy coping skills to ease it now like meditation

My ADD I was diagnosed with early last year is now something I have control over. When I get into my hyperfocus modes, I channel that into productive things like getting my house together, taking care of my finances, researching the stock market and what stocks to buy, and reading books. ADD can be a superpower when you have it under control. Medication isn't the end all be all but it's helped me tremendously

Generally speaking, I feel the happiest I've felt since I was 6 years old. I'm at a place in my life where I'm glad and grateful to be in the position I'm in. And my vision for the future is brighter than it was when I was little

I typed all this to say life can change in 3 years. Your life can change tremendously in a month from now. A day. Dont give up. No matter how hard life is right now, there is always better days ahead for you. You will find your purpose and happiness in your life soon enough no matter how the present looks right now. Keep fighting the good fight

Everything gets better with time. I'm living proof. It all starts from within. Love

Dap and rep

 

[semicko82]

Has anyone ever had to "no contact" any of their family, and if so, how has that impacted your life?

I had to cut off some friends and family
To be honest I feel guilty about it even if I’m not the one in the wrong

 

[semicko82]

Bump

 

[Monsanto]

I feel the same especially since I’m a thorough dude.
I got my faults, but if anyone needs or wants anything I’ll try my damn best to help others
It sucks that some people don’t reciprocate the love, but life doesn’t work way
If you a thorough man keep being that type of man.
Real stand up dudes don’t worry about validation from others

Barriers. It will be hard to say no and to look out for yourself when you are a fixer and go all out for others, but you need to learn to create barriers before the burnout hits.

As for you cutting off friends and family, you will feel guilt, it was a long term relationship so you will succumb to those feelings. Focus on why you did it and how it will eventually improve your life. It is not an easy choice to cut people out of your life, but I'm sure the poison has stopped reaching you so easily.

 

[Dave24]

@semicko82 in terms of mental health does the air force let you get on anti depressants once you get in the air force and see a therapist or you can't do that??

 

[semicko82]

@semicko82 in terms of mental health does the air force let you get on anti depressants once you get in the air force and see a therapist or you can't do that??

Yes

 

[King]

Serious question:

Where can I find good black therapists/psychologists for black men?

Preferably online. I am ready to spend money on this and work some things out.

Not looking for psychiatrists because I’m not interested in being prescribed medication.

 

[semicko82]

Serious question:

Where can I find good black therapists/psychologists for black men?

Preferably online. I am ready to spend money on this and work some things out.

Not looking for psychiatrists because I’m not interested in being prescribed medication.

Are you using insurance

 

[King]

Are you using insurance

Maybe, I asked for a referral but my doc only wrote me one for a physiatrist. I’m just not interested in being prescribed medication because of the side effects and withdrawal.

So most likely no.