"the median number of lifetime sexual partners for men is around 6.3"

[Shadow King]

The beautiful thing about life is, you don't have to actively seek out. Level up and they will come to you. That's half the battle.

I just hate to see folks give up and they're not old.

I don't really agree with this as an absolute rule. I've spoken on this in other threads.

 

[DetroitEWarren]

I guess I'm more introverted than I thought because, if yall are telling the truth about these numbers past 20 and all that, I can't even imagine even entertaining the amount of people yall talking about. I'd need some clones running around for all that. Or is it like yall just get on auto pilot until you get what you want

Man just having your own place early while being single (got mine at 19) will have women flocking to you.

Me and my closest nikkas were partying like a mfer. As soon as some chicks in that age range find out you have a crib, they are trying to pull up A LOT.

 

[Apollo Creed]

Man just having your own place early while being single (got mine at 19) will have women flocking to you.

Me and my closest nikkas were partying like a mfer. As soon as some chicks in that age range find out you have a crib, they are trying to pull up A LOT.

Man just having your own place early while being single (got mine at 19) will have women flocking to you.

Me and my closest nikkas were partying like a mfer. As soon as some chicks in that age range find out you have a crib, they are trying to pull up A LOT.

It could vary by city but I assume.you are in your 30s but game a little diff now. A lot of chicks we would run back in the day, their.current version getting flown out by tricks to go party in ATL Houston and Miami. That is eating in the young brehs pool.of chicks

 

[lib123]

I believe it to be true.

This is based on relationships, legitimate romantic partnerships, long-term dating, dating to marry, having a family, etc, types of scenarios, not linking up and fukking just to be fukking.

In other words, purposeful dating. Dating with a purpose and the intent of something serious down the line, y'know, as in settling down for good and hanging up the bachelor and bachelorette lifestyles and entering into that fiance-to-fiancee, husband-to-wife territory.

Most people, men, and women, who are conscious about their love life will never exceed a double-digit amount of relationships, the reason being that they're aware of not letting everyone and anything have access to them for numerous reasons.

Unless they're running themselves into the ground, as OP alluded to, being a hoe. Some people's idea of what truly counts as a relationship is skewed.

Facts. I’m sure the data reveals that the people with high body counts are heavily skewed towards those who come from privileged backgrounds, went to college and lived on campus or come from poorer racial demographics. White men in middle America and the South don’t go to college in large numbers and get married much younger, many of them probably to their high school sweethearts.

 

[Vandelay]

I don't really agree with this as an absolute rule. I've spoken on this in other threads.

There are no absolute rules in dating. Its a law of averages.

You want to give up, makes me no difference. But you're talking to someone who was legitimately hopeless and clueless with women in my teens and early 20s. It was and still is a running joke with my day ones to this day that I not only fukked up the ass that was evidently showing me some play, but I didn't even know how to talk to or attract women when the opportunities presented themselves.

While I don't believe in many inherent traits of the sexes, women can definitely sense the energy you give off way more than men can. They HAVE TO if we're keep it 100 about biology and history. Men don't have to be as discerning because half of us will literally fukk anything.

 

[DetroitEWarren]

It could vary by city but I assume.you are in your 30s but game a little diff now. A lot of chicks we would run back in the day, their.current version getting flown out by tricks to go party in ATL Houston and Miami. That is eating in the young brehs pool.of chicks

Oh definitely. I'm 38 so the Internet wasn't an EVERYBODY HAS IT type of thing when I got my first place (although I had AOL back then in 05). We was only competing with other dudes at the club and most dudes our age didn't really have their own places by 19 at that point.

Hell, it's worse nowadays. I'm pretty sure people from 18-21 right now, maybe about a 5-8% rate has their own place smh.

That's the only reason chicks are risking their lives to go meet nikkas hundreds of miles away.

 

[Shadow King]

There are no absolute rules in dating. Its a law of averages.

You want to give up, makes me no difference. But you're talking to someone who was legitimately hopeless and clueless with women in my teens and early 20s. It was and still is a running joke with my day ones to this day that I not only fukked up the ass that was evidently showing me some play, but I didn't even know how to talk to or attract women when the opportunities presented themselves.

While I don't believe in many inherent traits of the sexes, women can definitely sense the energy you give off way more than men can. They HAVE TO if we're keep it 100 about biology and history. Men don't have to be as discerning because half of us will literally fukk anything.

I understand all that. My point is "level up and they'll come" is generally about being demonstrative with what you have/are doing. If a man isn't doing that, the idiom doesn't ring as true as folks want to make it.

I'm glad you've improved this part of your life but I'm simply pushing back on the cliche.

 

[Belize King]

I know a girl that has 8 guys in a rotation right now. The Real number is probably double that

Bet all them dudes eat the cat as well.

You are who you eat Coli Brehs. Have standards cause these women are letting any ninjas skeet in them then call you the next day without cleaning up.

 

[Hacksaw Jim Thuggin]

He didn't post a source and everyone just rolled with it.

If over the span of 10 years you entered relationships that lasted an average of 6 months. You've easily passed that number.

Also if you know a woman who's single in her 30s and never had a relationship last more than 3 years, you know deep in your heart her body count is in the double digits so don't even bother asking unless you're ready to leave her.

yep....these chicks be in relationships 4 times a year for decades

 

[Apollo Creed]

Oh definitely. I'm 38 so the Internet wasn't an EVERYBODY HAS IT type of thing when I got my first place (although I had AOL back then in 05). We was only competing with other dudes at the club and most dudes our age didn't really have their own places by 19 at that point.

Hell, it's worse nowadays. I'm pretty sure people from 18-21 right now, maybe about a 5-8% rate has their own place smh.

That's the only reason chicks are risking their lives to go meet nikkas hundreds of miles away.

Yeah I left home at 18, but it's folks in the mid 20s to early 30s living at home lol times are diff.

To your point in past all you had to worry about was your city and if you in a major city maybe some tourist coming to trick. So everyone had their lane, but now the lid is blown wide open. the Bad chick ofthe city/town being tricked on globally,the cute chick getting chickd on regionally, and the local "top dude" running through the avg chicks and blowing up their heads now

 

[Hacksaw Jim Thuggin]

Honestly everything is if you look presentable. If you ain’t the most attractive man but you have style and fashion it will boost your appearance and attraction if your an average looking man.

A lot of men just make it hard on themselves and don’t want to do the work on there end to make themselves attractive or research what it is and find out what works.

yep....dudes dress like shyt....introverts...dont take care of themselves...and wonder why women dont bother

 

[Vandelay]

I understand all that. My point is "level up and they'll come" is generally about being demonstrative with what you have/are doing. If a man isn't doing that, the idiom doesn't ring as true as folks want to make it.

I'm glad you've improved this part of your life but I'm simply pushing back on the cliche.

The thing is, the only thing I'm demonstrating is a baseline of shyt women find attractive. I'm not a flossy dude at all. I'm short, bald, 40, a bad divorce, with bad razor burn on my neck. But I'm in shape, have a decent job, car, my own place. 80% of the clothes I own, no one...not even myself could tell you what I'm wearing. Everything else is disclosed in conversation and even then I keep most of what I have or aspire to hidden until I feel it's appropriate to talk about.

Not necessarily saying you, but a lot of dudes don't want to or can't meet that baseline of shyt that men think women stereotypically want.

I'm not even not saying that the dating game isn't fukked up right now, it absolutely is. Social media and out of control values or lack thereof has made dating ratios way the fukk out of wack. And I readily admit a lot of women's expectations are unrealistic. But every dude these women are fukking isn't triple-sixed up. 100% of women can't chase 5% of dudes in perpetuity.

And for what it's worth, I'd trade over half my bodycount if I could find 80-90% of what I'm looking for in a woman. I'm just playing the game for what it is right now. And honestly, if more dudes did that I think it would level out the playing field and ultimately make it better wholesale for dudes across the board. But dudes are choosing not to even play.

 

[Dave24]

The thing is, the only thing I'm demonstrating is a baseline of shyt women find attractive. I'm not a flossy dude at all. I'm short, bald, 40, a bad divorce, with bad razor burn on my neck. But I'm in shape, have a decent job, car, my own place. 80% of the clothes I own, no one...not even myself could tell you what I'm wearing. Everything else is disclosed in conversation and even then I keep most of what I have or aspire to hidden until I feel it's appropriate to talk about.

Not necessarily saying you, but a lot of dudes don't want to or can't meet that baseline of shyt that men think women stereotypically want.

I'm not even not saying that the dating game isn't fukked up right now, it absolutely is. Social media and out of control values or lack thereof has made dating ratios way the fukk out of wack. And I readily admit a lot of women's expectations are unrealistic. But every dude these women are fukking isn't triple-sixed up. 100% of women can't chase 5% of dudes in perpetuity.

And for what it's worth, I'd trade over half my bodycount if I could find 80-90% of what I'm looking for in a woman. I'm just playing the game for what it is right now. And honestly, if more dudes did that I think it would level out the playing g field and ultimately it better wholesale for dudes across the board. But dudes are choosing not to even play.

So the main keys to your success with women are being in shape, good job, car and your own place?

 

[Vandelay]

So the main keys to your success with women are being in shape, good job, car and your own place?

I'd say being relatively put together. I focus on my fitness because I can't be short AND skinny or fat.

I'd say gainfully employed, because yes...women want a provider. But it doesn't necessarily mean 6 figures. I read a study earlier this week, professions women find the most appealing are as follows; doctor, lawyer, businessman, cop, firefighter, military man.

Car, yes...unless you're in Manhattan, DC, Chicago or some shyt where you don't really need a car.

Your own place if you're 30+...but 2 of my OG's are roommates in their 40's and still get a fair amount of women.

I can't reiterate this enough. There are NO ABSOLUTES IN DATING, ONLY AVERAGES.

 

[lib123]

Facts...you don't even got have bread like that.

But the issue is that cats who SHOULD be focused on 5s, 6s, and 7s are pissed because they don't have access to 8-10.

I think the problem is dudes want girls on their level but when girls are young they can punch above their weight. Most young guys who are 6s and 7s would be content with hooking up with girls who are 6s and 7s. But many of those girls are hooking up with dudes who are 8-10s. A lot of young guys just aren’t interested in hooking up with girls who are 1-3 levels less attractive than them.