I think I can concede to most of your points. However, I think it's a matter of perspective and when considering the alternative, a society where most women chase after a small percentage of men is a recipe for collapse. Believe it or not...this has happened before historically and in multiple societies. It's part of the reason marriage developed as an institution.
I don't think we'll get to that point; the zeitgeist will change inevitably as it always does every 20 or so years, when even women realize this isn't sustainable for relationships or honestly, even their very own mental health.
I just don't think dudes should wholesale start to give up. I had some goofy bytch last week tell me I wasn't on her level, just from looking at my IG...meanwhile she's a single mom. I had to tell her, I think your basis for comparison is flawed and I can assure you whatever level you think you and I are at isn't the same. bytch blocked me. I just kept it moving; I can't even remember her name.
This is a case of us battling an overarching theme, not each other...but we're definitely divergent lol. Because if we did use the 20 year metric (2020//2000//1980//1960//1940 etc), I think we're gonna deal with that alternative being the zeitgeist much more likely than the ship correcting itself in the 23rd hour. 2040 is not that far away just like 2010 isn't.
My thing, this doesn't improve unless women improve it. Yeah I know everyone things men have to pick up every societal weight, but we didn't change gender roles over the course of a century, we, outside of the male lawmakers, simply adapted to them as the initiators/"hunters" who have to understand what "works". Two men born in 1935 and 1995 did not and cannot approach dating and women the same way.
The grand societal council women have to have is:
"We've fought for equality. We have it. But we pick and choose when it applies, especially financially. So, there are three umbrellas categories we look at: physical attraction, interior compatibility (personality/intellect/spiritual/morals), and finance. Which one of these 3 are we willing to place 3rd or disregard for the sake of the other 2 giving us a realistic and healthy path towards long-term partnership?
Can I deal with Diet Morris Chestnut the grade school gym teacher having the personality I need and not wanting to become the next millionaire fitness king/personal trainer? Am I good with Great Value Will Smith M.D. needing me to conform to his opposing philosophies and family ethics to get the middle/upper middle class life without chipping in? Does it matter that the lawyer willing to do the same and is the man on the inside that I asked for, is Jordan Peele instead of Michael B. Jordan?"
But we know they won't do that anytime soon. So brehs "give up" in the sense of leaning into themselves and what they're interested in...cats hate the term but "MGTOW" has become much more pertinent than they want to admit.
They don't say "I'll never touch a woman (again)!" but prioritize other things. And at 31 I'm on that boat because I have wayyyy more important shyt to focus on than ways to have the the same interaction you just described, or worse, a broken condom and "I'm late" text.
