Try to make it big with your music. Just because. If you don't want to be a label slave then don't but go all in for yourself. Maybe you need to really try at something to give you purpose. The outcome for better or worse
This is so important. I noticed OP said he loves music but doesn't believe he will "make it big."
Forget that OP. The point isn't to become rich and famous, it's to live with pride and purpose. Pick up an instrument, learn production, study your favorite artists, and bust your ass every day to be as truly great as you've always dreamed. You may never get signed to a big label or anything like that, but the point is that you're doing something for YOU and giving every day of your life meaning and visibility again.
Like I said earlier bro, I sketch as one of my many hobbies. I got into it when I was in a place of suicidal ideations and heart pounding episodes I don't even wanna think about. And I'm not talking some bullshyt ten minute notebook doodles, I'm talking Marvel, DC comics, manga level refinement and craftsmanship. Every single day I sit down and I study human anatomy, I watch countless youtube videos from other regular folks just sharing the craft as well as from guys like Jim Lee and David Finch, I sit down with a cup of tea and I spend sometimes hours--sometimes a full day--putting my heart and soul into a sketch and when I'm done I just look at my work with almost tear jerking happiness and pride. It is such a fun hobby and an incredible talent that I am truly happy to have in my hands. The ability to instantly delve into my soul, tell a story, create, express myself, and to take true pride in being me in this world.
Not to mention it's the most kick ass ice breaker out there. ("ZOMG YOU'RE...LIKE...A REAL ARTIST!!!?? OMG THAT LOOKS SO COOL!! CAN YOU DRAW ME?? CAN YOU DRAW MY FRIEND??"
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It is now my purpose and my pride to be a great sketch artist. The thought of hurting myself doesn't cross my mind because the excitement of someday becoming truly masterful at this keeps me going without a second thought, even through the toughest moments. I may never make a career out of this but it doesn't matter. It is part of me. It gives me joy, pride in myself, meaning to be here in this world beyond working a job and having sex, and it gives me purpose in life.
Don't reduce your life and your existence to girls and money. You gotta get cocky again lil bro. You gotta find something new that genuinely excites you and you WANT to be good at. Something that makes you think "damn I wish I could do that. " I don't care if it's art, magic tricks, fashion design, fine photography, or stamp collecting. Then, go be good at it. Get cocky. Feel good about yourself again. Show off this talent. Take pride in your talent. Be seen and heard. Live with pride and meaning again!
You got this young bro! All these things you think is urgent--having a girlfriend and shyt--is not as urgent as you think. Love yourself, feel the blessing of life and existence, and everything else--healthy companionships, reliable friendships, security, lasting happiness--will fall into place. You will find meaning, pride, fun, and purpose in life again.
I understand the absolute terror of depression, and I understand the relief in just being seen and heard. Please don't hesitate to reach out privately if you have to. I'm here for you man.