Tanahashi Coates
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I'm not. Honesty, I'm beginning to see a small shift from when I first started reading the forum. I avoid the negative GMB threads cuz it doesn't line up with where I am at the moment
The happily married or in a relationship thread. (Positive posts only)
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I'm not. Honesty, I'm beginning to see a small shift from when I first started reading the forum. I avoid the negative GMB threads cuz it doesn't line up with where I am at the moment
factnotopinion
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Great to hear all of the Good relationships here. My wife and I have been together for over 17 years of bliss. I was ready to settle down and I remember telling my boy that it is about that time to get out the single life. He didn't believe me. I told him the qualities I was looking for in a partner, and to my surprise I saw her and exchanged numbers with her the next day. What worked for us was we both went all in. We both were healthy people who had a strong sense of our values, and we matched. I have been places where women literally throw the p at me and I give them the stiff arm. My wife was with me when I was a poor, no car or license having yout. She was down for me when lawyers, doctors and every type of cat with more than me were trying to holla. All her friends were like " why you talking to him, he ain't even have his license." Now they are all like " wow you are so lucky to have him."
It's funny because I am the lucky one. She is successful, beautiful, can cook,and is just a perfect compliment to everything I do. I would not be where I am now if not for her and her support. I am now a home body and I could not be happier living life with my family. All these anti relationship and anti Black women are missing out on something so special it is beyond words.
It's funny because I am the lucky one. She is successful, beautiful, can cook,and is just a perfect compliment to everything I do. I would not be where I am now if not for her and her support. I am now a home body and I could not be happier living life with my family. All these anti relationship and anti Black women are missing out on something so special it is beyond words.
I'm with you. I've been staying out of the fukkery threads and don't miss them one bit. There's a lot of nut cases on this board that use thecoli as their soapbox. Even getting deep in the negative threads here, it never effected me once I logged off, but I will say that it would consume more of my time than I'd like to admit. Once I started logging in with the primary intention of building with others it actually became a much more enjoyable experience being a member here.
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I'm a home body now too, which is crazy because I used to absolutely abhor being at the house for more than a couple hours.
Tanahashi Coates
Superstar
The Coli is what you make of it.
The negativity can be a bit
but I believe there are genuine posters who aren't trying to troll for shyts and giggles to pass time
the bossman
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Tenchi Ryu
Ashtray B!tch
All this positivity and love
#GMB had its use. Their are legit mufukkaz it applies to depending on the situation. Too many times cats choose poorly and act blind to situations where the evidence and signs were there that the person wasn't shyt to begin with
factnotopinion
Pro
The positive vibes in this thread are important. Over 70% of depictions of Blacks on tv and radio are negative. These messages take a toll on how we view ourselves and our people. It is no wonder we are against each other so much. If I don't think highly of myself, how can I think highly of another. We need to counteract this with positive relationships and positive stories of success. It feels good knowing that we can be healthy, successful, and happy. I value my wife and our beautiful new son and I honor them at every opportunity, as she does to me.
Values are so important to identify and internalize. When you put values first, you surround yourself with people who fit them. When you put people first, you make excuses when people violate your values because " I love them," or" I understand them," or "I would rather them than be alone." Additionally, healing ourselves from our trauma enough to be able to accept love from ourselves and another is such a key. Many people live and react off of hurting and insecurity in relationships. I was a guest speaker at a high school and I was talking to the boys group. I asked them would they rather sleep with 50 women once or 1 woman 50 times. A great majority said 50 women once. I then went to explore how this is tied to self esteem and perceptions of male identity. They didn't believe me until I pointed out that in both cases they had sex 50 times;and with the 1 woman their experience would more than likely have be more enjoyable.
Values are so important to identify and internalize. When you put values first, you surround yourself with people who fit them. When you put people first, you make excuses when people violate your values because " I love them," or" I understand them," or "I would rather them than be alone." Additionally, healing ourselves from our trauma enough to be able to accept love from ourselves and another is such a key. Many people live and react off of hurting and insecurity in relationships. I was a guest speaker at a high school and I was talking to the boys group. I asked them would they rather sleep with 50 women once or 1 woman 50 times. A great majority said 50 women once. I then went to explore how this is tied to self esteem and perceptions of male identity. They didn't believe me until I pointed out that in both cases they had sex 50 times;and with the 1 woman their experience would more than likely have be more enjoyable.
Aceofspades404
Superstar
you and your ex-wife got back together?
damn sounds like my girl