The happily married or in a relationship thread. (Positive posts only)

[Rue]

Felt so warm and fuzzy in here, wish it could be like this all the time

 

[TheNig]

Married 3 years and some change. shyt is getting better everyday. Going to Hawaii in April for the anniversary.

 

[Tanahashi Coates]

#GMB had its use. Their are legit mufukkaz it applies to depending on the situation. Too many times cats choose poorly and act blind to situations where the evidence and signs were there that the person wasn't shyt to begin with

I agree but I think we have a bunch of impressionable young men on here who internalize those posts and use them as confirmation bias.

 

[TheNig]

I agree but I think we have a bunch of impressionable young men on here who internalize those posts and use them as confirmation bias.

True on both ends. There are some cats out there who's hearts have been figuratively broken. It's understandable to have the guard up.

Then you have the other nikkas who have never even seen the poon judging that guy who was in a fukked up situation.

 

[mcdivit85]

I left my girl who was perfect for me bc I wanna fukk other bytches

That strange though

Peace

 

[Throwbacksample]

I am a happy relationship. I am with a chick who adds value to to my life and makes me smile. She has a a great sense of humor. And she also has social anxiety so she doesnt go out clubbing or on social media so I dont have to worry about guys trying to get at her.

 

[Stir Fry]

The Coli is what you make of it. The negativity can be a bit but I believe there are genuine posters who aren't trying to troll for shyts and giggles to pass time

There's plenty of genuine people here, I just don't think they're making their voices heard enough. Hopefully more of us will start making a more conscious effort to start making ourselves present here. There's gotta be some balance because I noticed up until just very recently that I could not find one positive thread in the first two pages of TLR, it was literally just a subforum of trolling, negativity, and sad current event reports. Now that I've found positive threads to participate in, I have lost the desire to even bother opening 95% of the new topics that are posted in here.

The positive vibes in this thread are important. Over 70% of depictions of Blacks on tv and radio are negative. These messages take a toll on how we view ourselves and our people. It is no wonder we are against each other so much. If I don't think highly of myself, how can I think highly of another. We need to counteract this with positive relationships and positive stories of success. It feels good knowing that we can be healthy, successful, and happy. I value my wife and our beautiful new son and I honor them at every opportunity, as she does to me.

Values are so important to identify and internalize. When you put values first, you surround yourself with people who fit them. When you put people first, you make excuses when people violate your values because " I love them," or" I understand them," or "I would rather them than be alone." Additionally, healing ourselves from our trauma enough to be able to accept love from ourselves and another is such a key. Many people live and react off of hurting and insecurity in relationships. I was a guest speaker at a high school and I was talking to the boys group. I asked them would they rather sleep with 50 women once or 1 woman 50 times. A great majority said 50 women once. I then went to explore how this is tied to self esteem and perceptions of male identity. They didn't believe me until I pointed out that in both cases they had sex 50 times;and with the 1 woman their experience would more than likely have be more enjoyable.

I know a couple womanizers, and now that they're older, all of them have said that that they're not happy with the lifestyle but don't know what to do with themselves atthis point in their lives. In short, they're admitted that they're damaged goods, just like the same females that get chastised for being the same way.

 

[Stir Fry]

I am a happy relationship. I am with a chick who adds value to to my life and makes me smile. She has a a great sense of humor. And she also has social anxiety so she doesnt go out clubbing or on social media so I dont have to worry about guys trying to get at her.

My wife too. She's totally secure in who she is, but doesn't put herself out there. When we first got together, I would wish that she would dress up a little more because I took it as a sign of insecurity, but now that I'm older, I have learned to appreciate this trait of hers.

 

[Throwbacksample]

My wife too. She's totally secure in who she is, but doesn't put herself out there. When we first got together, I would wish that she would dress up a little more because I took it as a sign of insecurity, but now that I'm older, I have learned to appreciate this trait of hers.

Exactly- the only reason i got her is because we worked together and I had to email her to get to know her.

 

[Scarface sniffin cocaine]

While I was married it was incredible because i'm a romantic at heart. I wasn't even going to post because i'm single now but I decided to show love because I once knew the joys of marriage. I was married for five years to a beautiful, insecure, smart, witty, funny, and super attractive sister. It's ironic how your life resets, like a video game, to your last save point before your marriage. Fortunately, I was one of the few men who went through the pitfalls of divorce and didn't wind up bitter. True love is the closest thing to Godliness on this temporary Earth. To affix deeply to the soul of another and have that same energy returned is the utmost intoxication one could ever feel. Blessings to you guys and well wishes from Scarface

 

[mcdivit85]

Been with my current chick for over 2 years....longest relationship I've ever maintained

She's great....takes care of my place like her own, cooks, cleans, buys me stuff, hangs on my every word, treats me like I'm "that n#gga"

We're moving in together in the next month or so

She wants to get married and talks about it like it's inevitable

Not sure if I'm mature enough for marriage

Peace

 

[Tanahashi Coates]

True on both ends. There are some cats out there who's hearts have been figuratively broken. It's understandable to have the guard up.

Then you have the other nikkas who have never even seen the poon judging that guy who was in a fukked up situation.

That's why I wouldn't be surprised if those posters screaming GMB are the same ones in the notch thread saying they haven't been with anyone.

There's plenty of genuine people here, I just don't think they're making their voices heard enough. Hopefully more of us will start making a more conscious effort to start making ourselves present here.

Hopefully we can. It seems like the mods are trying to clean up the bait threads on here also.

When we first got together, I would wish that she would dress up a little more because I took it as a sign of insecurity, but now that I'm older, I have learned to appreciate this trait of hers

Same here. She's pretty open to dressing up in the bedroom though

 

[Action Mike]

with this woman only for a minute but I ain't complaining.

iron sharping iron everyday, we'll see how it goes.

most of my fav brehettes in here too

 

[Action Mike]

Wow that us freaking crazy! Weddings are beautiful, but not for me lol. I'm going straight to the courthouse. Maybe a little ceremony...maybe...

your Nigerian, your seeing uncles and aunties on that day you ain't seen in decades whether you like it or not

 

[Stir Fry]

Hopefully we can. It seems like the mods are trying to clean up the bait threads on here also.

Honestly, the mods here are quite often instigators of the fukkery and they have lots of the trolls on their ignore lists. They've been doing a great job cleaning up the race bait threads, but the gender ones are still going on unchecked, and honestly I think those are actually much worse. Race threads get people together while gender ones tear each other apart. I've been saying for a long time that a lot of the stuff that gets posted in TLR really should be in JBO instead.

There needs to be more self/community policing of the stuff that goes on in here. This means not feeding into obvious troll threads, and trying to steer discussions back on track before they devolve into whatever beef is going on between a handful of posters here. At the end of the day it's not the mods job to be everybody's parent, and it's up to us to start being more responsible in what gets contributed to TLR as well.