The Children of Upper Class Black Parents - Who do they end up with?

[Black Nate Grey]

you should. blacks don't have a proper community to receive these kids. if you're an affluent black family, there's a big chance you're raising your kids in a white community. this idea that they'll gravitate towards blacks, even though they're living in white neighborhoods and going to white schools, needs to be examined.

I agree 100% but it's the difference between Carlton Banks(fictional I know) and Jaden Smith or Barack Obama and Justin Combs.
The later group will likely never achieve 10% of what their fathers have the only one with a chance of success is Jaden and though he's very talented he doesn't have Will's charisma.
With the former there is a chance of benefit for all black people.
Black Judge>Black Singer
Black Professor > Black Athelete
Black Hedgefund manager > Black Actor
Black President > Black entertainer

If the children of the former are having kids with non-blacks partners then I would be more alarmed, Ideally both groups would marry mostly black (they do) they just might not date mostly black.

These are young dudes with inherited money having fun out here.
Fun includes cars of all types
Women of all types
Food and drink of all types
Clothing of all types
They are not interested in being pro-black or establishing a legacy. They wanna live now.

 

[Steve Piffler]

my sons grew up around and are friends with mostly white people. my oldest son's first girlfriend was a white girl with red hair. he is with a black and asian chick now . my youngest son's girl looks like miley cyrus . he's just starting with dating tho. he'll step his game up eventually. i'm well aware that you date what is in your circle. and unfortunately, they don't have many black people to interact with. i don't know if it's going to affect them in the future when it comes to interacting with black people. that's something i worry about all the time.

 

[.༼-◕_◕-༽.]

my sons grew up around and are friends with mostly white people. my oldest son's first girlfriend was a white girl with red hair. he is with a black and asian chick now . my youngest son's girl looks like miley cyrus . he's just starting with dating tho. he'll step his game up eventually. i'm well aware that you date what is in your circle. and unfortunately, they don't have many black people to interact with. i don't know if it's going to affect them in the future when it comes to interacting with black people. that's something i worry about all the time.

Did you ever network with other Black families so that your children could interact? Jack & Jill or Links?

 

[Steve Piffler]

Did you ever network with other Black families so that your children could interact? Jack & Jill or Links?

yep. but most of the time, those other black kids grew up around white folks too, so they get with each other and be like

i sometimes think i made a good decision by providing an opportunity for my kids to go to a diverse school. but i also shot them in the foot because unfortunately, a "diverse" school has little to no black people. and the black people that are there don't hang with each other. it's odd....

 

[Rekkapryde]

those nikkaz are RICH, not even upper class.

 

[Just like bruddas]

I would cut my kids off so fast if they brought a white person home.

 

[.༼-◕_◕-༽.]

yep. but most of the time, those other black kids grew up around white folks too, so they get with each other and be like

i sometimes think i made a good decision by providing an opportunity for my kids to go to a diverse school. but i also shot them in the foot because unfortunately, a "diverse" school has little to no black people. and the black people that are there don't hang with each other. it's odd....

Well if you gave them a good life that's all that matters. They don't have to be jaded. If they're happy and they're good kids, that's really all that matters.

 

[Rekkapryde]

The thing is there c00n black couples. Look at Ben Carson and his wife or Clarence Thomas and his wife.

Even though Ben Carson is on that super ultra conservative shyt, I can't call that man a c00n. He just an old conservative nikka (and please believe that there are MANY nikkaz like this).

But Clarence

 

[wickedsm]

Going to college really shook up my idea on how rich people and "rich kids" act.

What I realized the ones who are not well rounded are usually the stuck up ones, doesn't matter if they are white, black, or if they are from Qatar.

All it tells me is if you let your kids become superficial, you will have a kid who is only attracted to people and things for superficial reasons.

I think a parent lost if he lets his kids be influenced by their friends, you let the kid have fun up to the age of 8, then you restrict play time to the summer, holidays and weekend. At least if they pick a white girl or white boy, at least they are realistic and practical about love and life.

Huh?

 

[Drew Wonder]

Cube's son: Hey Becky, you wanna listen to my dad's old albums?
Becky: sure

*plays this*


Becky:

 

[Jimi Swagger]

Hollywood kids need their own separate category. They're living in an alternate realty that other well-off people aren't, one where bank accounts and notoriety supersede the traditional classist criteria of education/upbringing, family, networks, etc.

The more "old money", multi-gen African Americans of upper-middle+ backgrounds have networks, organizations and traditions that provide their children with exposure to other people who share their SES background that are also black. So even if their kid is the only black student in AP English they can hang out on the weekend with kids that share that experience and they're never completely isolated in a lily white existence.

Black folks with serious money but didn't grow up in that kind of situation, don't share a background or know people from boarding school, frats, prof orgs etc are probably more isolated. Some dr who is a fifth generation Morehouse to Meharry graduate, with a house on The Oval, and sends his children to Choate and Philips Exeter (or any east coast boarding schools and Country Days to an extent) is not going to introduce his daughter to a kid whose father is a functional illiterate with baby mama drama and a flock of birds and grandfather/great uncle are beyond street. It just is what it is.

Other well off black folk with different roots run into issues with their kids being isolated because they themselves don't have the same identity and sense of community, plus natural networks and communities that many Aframs have.

You got a lot of people that don't want to make their special little snowflakes take part in organizations and activities where they'd natural meet/befriend other blacks. Or don't like certain groups because they seem too "bourgeois" or they don't like race based organizations and making their kids feel racialized or different from their school buddies. But then sit around looking perplexed when their kid comes out their neck about 'those other kind of black people', feeling like a white kid in brown skin and wants to join SAE , thinks we'd be post racial if blacks could just stop talking about race, their daughters never have prom dates (black girls just go as a group)/sons never have black (or even non-white) girlfriends and they never get a single solitary black grandchild.

At least know what you're going into and not sitting around dumbfounded that your child who was always the one raisin floating in the bowl of cornflakes grows up to have only white social networks, white educational and professional contacts, memberships in predominantly white organizations and activities, talks/dresses/acts like they have a yardstick impaled in their lower digestive tract, lives in only the whitest suburban enclaves, lives an excessively white bread existence and only ever has white lovers/partners/spouses.
They need to decide if having a whitewashed child is something that'll bother them before hand and create more experiences and opportunities to diversify their life but don't wait and get irrationally pissed at their offspring for being exactly like one would expect given their background.

God bless Jack &Jill and Jabberwock Cotillions.

 

[13473]

jaden looking like

her pale makeup got on his face when they kissed.

 

[Formerly known as...]

I'm guessing you tend to gravitate to what you're usually surrounded by....so upper class black children are usually educated in wealthy schools and they are filled with more white people than other races so they tend to gravitate to them?

If you're always around black people etc it's easier to date other black people but for this kids they spend most of their time around other races and plus if a upper class dude hooks up with another black girl then she is probably from a wealthy background also....sometimes it's the 'world' you come from not the race.

 

[Originalman]

OP these aren't upper class blacks. These are rich black folks.

I grew up in the second most affluent neighborhood in Chicago.....nothing but yuppies and white folks with money. However I married black and dated black. Though one advantage I had is that Chicago is one of the most segregated cities in America and blacks and Latin kids were bused to my high school.

So I was able to interact with black folks besides the couple that were in my neighborhood.

Also my mom (along with my dad) was very specific about me dating and marrying a sista. As a brotha I believe that a mom (or women in their life) has the most influence on a son when it comes to the women he chooses as a mate.

I have ran into countless black men (who were married to sistas) over the years who have said their mother (or aunt or grand mother) would have had a fit if they brought a non black women home.

I think a lot of these rich black folks have traded in their blackness for money.

 

[Originalman]

These Kardashians get thick soon though

You mean get plastic surgery soon.