I’m six year and two kids in. Sh-t is hard. From new born to 5 can make or break a marriage. Everything is about them, the have to dos become overwhelming, and you can lose yourself and each other.
Bring in unresolved childhood issues and that tinder for a fire.
My wife is a pessimist, home body, loves hard, and has a tiny circle. I’m an optimist, enjoy exploring, loves everybody and can make friends with anybody. I grew up a military brat and was “abandoned” by my parents. I don’t let anybody in and don’t make emotional connections. My Wife yearns for that deep connection.
We do the marriage therapy and both have therapists as well. Through God we are together. She dwells, has intrusive thoughts and creates whole stories. She’s working on that. I’m working on becoming more emotionally available. I love my Wife and will never cheat nor leave her.
I can’t imagine going through life alone. It’s too hard but finding the perfect one is difficult as well. You have to be self aware and willing to sacrifice.
Marriage is hard and many people don’t want to do the work. If we don’t make it, I would never do it again.
Women be crazy.
GMB