Such A Beautiful Light Skinned Woman :wow:

[Theraflu]

So breh's what we doing

Would we wife a chick that bleaches her skin as long as she was 'fine'

 

[Jone2three45]

This is a very sad, sad thread.

Brehs, please raise you're daughters.

 

[Theraflu]

This is a very sad, sad thread.

Brehs, please raise you're daughters.

I dunno. some brehs seem comfy with the fact she bleaches

is it me or is a chick who bleaches automatic bushes status

or are times changing

 

[pike]

[QUOTE="*F*U*N*E*R*A*L*, post: 7736660, member: 3701"]Black men just tend to grin and bear it. Let's not act like it doesn't affect us though.

Growing up in Western PA, even I had a moment (when I waas much younger) when I wanted straight hair and tried to bleach my skin. But then again, that area is 12% non-white and has a huge colonial influence (it was one of the first...THE first...American colony!!!). Plus I went to predominantly white schools where there were less than 20 black people (I sadly attended college in Western PA/Pittsburgh too).

I had people make fun of my fro wanting to touch it all the time and make jokes. I had people make jokes about my skin color (talking about "we couldn't see you except your eyes in this picture"). Cause I was black and wore glasses people called me Urkel. Cause I didn't play sports I was invisible in the eyes of many cause black people in America are seen as freaks...per say, if they don't like rap or play sports...or are academic. I was always hesistant trying to talk to women I liked, non-black women and even black women cause black women be on that colorism shyt too ("oh he fine but he too dark...")in this country so I went long periods (I'm talking years) without even approaching women. Still getting over it cause I spent a long time in that environment (over 20 years)...I probably may never will completely but I'm trying dammit. That shyt is REALLY mentally trying and can lead to depression, low self-esteem, and other issues...especially topped off with dealing with coming from a different culture, trying to "assimilate" in American culture/society, and belonging to an already disadvantaged and marginalized group of people.[/QUOTE]






Dude dont take this the wrong way but you sound extremely bytch made. You're not one of them homosexuals are you?

 

[Jone2three45]

So breh's what we doing

Would we wife a chick that bleaches her skin as long as she was 'fine'

So my child can come out as her original color that her mother despised before she bleached? Nah.

 

[*L*E*G*A*C*Y*]

Well that's the thing, it goes back to what I was saying. The extent of that pressure comes at least in some part from the fact that culturally speaking what African emigrees are coming from isn't really all that concrete otherwise there wouldn't be so much shame associated with it.

I'll explain the assimilation thing further in regards to Africans and African-Americans.

African-Americans...they came here as slaves, had their culture completely destroyed and replaced, were separated from their familes, sold to other slave owners, given anglicized names, denied educational opportunities, and everything else.

Fast forward to the present. Africans that come to America (besides everything you have mentioned) have families, family structure, heritage, culture, and everything else. So, since that can't be removed from us forcefully like it was removed for African-Americans, it is up to us to destroy our own culture in order to "assimilate" in American society and be "accepted". (This is what I was trying to elaborate on).

When we wear our traditional dresses and garb to work or other functions, we're told that it's "too ethnic" or that it's "loud and distracting". They don't have the gall to say it makes them uncomfortable.

We're constantly being told by so many people how to act, who to associate with, how to think, who to date, where to work, what to listen to, etc...it's really easy to see the difference between black, white, and American, when you're not American. Therefore, you'll have native born Americans (I'm talking generations deep) telling you how to conduct yourself and remove your own autonomy simply because they feel as if they are your "tour guide" to American culture.

Even Black Americans tell us we aren't Black...when we are Black. Simply because we don't fit their definition of "black" to them. As if Black American identity revolves around sports, entertainment, and the hood.

Most Africans don't date or really associate with Black Americans just due to cultural differences (and a slight disapproval of African American culture/inability to relate to it).
Africans are pretty much told by and large in regards to their families to marry African.

 

[Theraflu]

So my child can come out a color that her mother despised before she bleached? Nah.

I've noticed a big trend in Nigerian women where both the mum and daughter bleaches their skin

 

[*L*E*G*A*C*Y*]

Dude dont take this the wrong way but you sound extremely bytch made. You're not one of them homosexuals are you?

I'm not afraid to speak the truth...does the fact I'm speaking about my personal reality and offering to share my insights with people to learn from offend you?

 

[Elle Driver]

For real tho @Theraflu I didn't wanna be the one to say it but I've noticed it's a big problem with West Africans (I can't say much for my mother's people since I don't know enough about them to say anything about that). I go to African malls every now and then and they have the most toxic bleaching creams on their shelves and try to encourage me to buy them. It's actually quite sad.

 

[MostReal]

lupita is not fine or Gorgeous either

see... make Lupita lightskin & put some weave on her head this nikka would be drooling

Blackmen we gotta stop this crap breh

the last few pics show the girl is fine body wise, but it didn't matter...she was 'too dark'
now this broad has lightened up & she has 20,000 followers...they aren't all women either

 

[JBoy]

man that bleaching shyt must make your skin feel terrible, how do people stand that mess

 

[Theraflu]

For real tho @Theraflu I didn't wanna be the one to say it but I've noticed it's a big problem with West Africans (I can't say much for my mother's people since I don't know enough about them to say anything about that). I go to African malls every now and then and they have the most toxic bleaching creams on their shelves and try to encourage me to buy them. It's actually quite sad.

it is a huge, huge, problem with West African women. Nigerian and Congolese especially. There's literally generations of women mum, daughter, granddaughter like this girl who all bleach.

The side effects of the chemicals are devastating.

 

[pike]

see... make Lupita lightskin & put some weave on her head this nikka would be drooling

Blackmen we gotta stop this crap breh

the last few pics show the girl is fine body wise, but it didn't matter...she was 'too dark'
now this broad has lightened up & she has 20,000 followers...they aren't all women either

lupita has no breasts and is build like a 6th grader get the fukk outta here with that bullshyt

 

[Theraflu]

see... make Lupita lightskin & put some weave on her head this nikka would be drooling

Blackmen we gotta stop this crap breh

the last few pics show the girl is fine body wise, but it didn't matter...she was 'too dark'
now this broad has lightened up & she has 20,000 followers...they aren't all women either

LOL breh

which black men r these

 

[Camammal]

dat generational self hate...... shyt is basically a self hating plague