STOP TALKING TO WOMEN. Don't say anything to Random women. #HOH

ellessij

All Star
Supporter
Joined
Sep 17, 2014
Messages
2,188
Reputation
3,020
Daps
9,051
A few weeks ago my friend and I were walking out of the mall and this guy yelled out "Miss World! Miss Universe!" and opened the door for us. It was ridiculously corny but really funny. My friend actually started talking to the guy and they're texting now. I guess it's all about your approach. I have encountered men that get RUDE af when you reject them or tell them no though, that's the worst. What is that about? Who hurt them?
 

PhonZhi

Veteran
Joined
May 20, 2012
Messages
24,040
Reputation
7,580
Daps
99,076
Reppin
Atl, Ga by way of Alabama
It's all about learning how to read social cues and non-verbal communication. I'm autistic and I have had lots of trouble in the past on picking up social cues, reading body language and other stuff. The whole point is to check for the ones checking for you. I don't just approach a girl because she looks good. I need more than that. I like a challenge, but that's not the kind of challenge I think is appropriate.

Learning to read people's behavior is like looking at patterns for me. If I see the right patterns, it's a green light. If not, most of the time I keep it moving. Since I adopted this way of doing things, I approach women far less than most normal rates, but when I do approach, it's 100% every time - because majority of the time it's been anticipated (correctly) that my interest is reciprocated. If it's not, I just apologize and keep it humble, regardless of the reaction.

I don't catcall, whistle or any of that shyt - I also don't touch girls I don't know (mainly because I don't always like being touched by people I don't know). I recognize because I've been disturbed on the few occasions I'm not interesting in socializing when I'm going about my business on the street (yeah, even by girls) so I know how annoying it is, but it can also be dangerous for women. Read #YouOkSis on twitter to see what I'm talking about. Not isolated incidents. Having more social awareness is usually the answer. Because it didn't come innate to me, I had to do the research and actually learn to read people (even people watch) to really get it down, so now I can easily mitigate these problems. The next step for me IMO is educating other men how to navigate these things and why a lot of stuff is problematic to women. I expect lots of ":cape:" comments along the way but you can lead horses to a trough - doesn't mean they'll drink. They'll continue to be thirsty :manny:

No offense but i stopped reading after the 1st paragraph. Yall make talking to another human being out to be like performing brain surgery. You see what u like? Step to her. Simple. Have confidence and look presentable. It REALLY boils down to not givin a fukk. The cats that ive known in my life that gets the most play are the ones that gives 0 fukks about a "rejection". Just step up, introduce yourself and tell her you just had to say something to her cuz you thought she was cute. Simple. :yeshrug:

After that its up to her. If she's not feeling you and not giving signs move on. If she's showing signs and entertaining convo, keep pressing and eventually ask for the number

Yall stay making talking to women out to be more complicated than it is.
 

Kenny West

Veteran
Joined
May 29, 2012
Messages
25,013
Reputation
5,982
Daps
92,026
Reppin
NULL
There's nothing wrong with approaching a woman even if she doesn't give you "signs" that she's interested, but if she says she isn't interested, just walk away.

@Matt504 something isn't right here. Did this female just agree with males invading their space?

Is everything you taught us a lie? :francis:
 

Juggalo Fred

Juggalo and horrorcore enthusiast
Supporter
Joined
Sep 15, 2014
Messages
32,708
Reputation
6,402
Daps
92,112
Reppin
Juggalo island
lol I knew him before he approached me but he just said hi and was like "Do you remember me" then asked me out.

I actually turned him down a few times because my ex knows him. :skip:

but I eventually gave him a chance because he's so sweet and cute :o:
So glad you gave me a chance
 
Top