Jamie is in a fukked up spot. At this point, the nikka might as well work shyt out with his wife. Her comments about where Jamie grew up were
and
but, she did help him get established, despite her bougieness and stuck up attitude, clearly loves him and they got a family together. Jamie's problem is he grew up in the ghetto, wanted to get out, married the first pretty lightskin girl from a well to do family that he could. But after years of marriage, he feels like he sold out. Cheryl doesn't understand that side of him (nor does his son to be honest), looks down on him for it and he feels out of place in his own house. That whole dynamic reminded me of Chalky White's family in Boardwalk Empire. His wife treated him the same way, like the uncultured lower class nikka she married eventhough his money paid for everything in that house. Funny enough, the girl Chalky was fukking on the side is Nola's friend. Bad bytch
So he seeks out Nola because she does understand that side of him and she does make him feel reconnected to his blackness/upbringing. But at the end of the day, they wouldn't work either because he was trying to wife her and Nola is a thot. They clearly had different outlooks/worldviews. He's an uptown Upper East Side lawyer, she's a polyamorous cisgendered (whatever the fukk that means) Brooklyn artist. When he took Nola out to eat, he was clearly uncomfortable being seen with her. Smashing in her brownstone is cool but, her walking around his coworkers/friends in a freak dress is embarrassing to a nikka like him. Which is why Cheryl or another woman like Cheryl is who he will always end up with. And then, there's the dilemma of if he really wanted Nola or if he was just looking for any escape he could find because he was at such odds with his wife at home? Like Cheryl said, there had been tons of girls before Nola.
Cheryl is a hypocrite. If he was so ghetto and ratchet, why did you marry him?
You could've had ANY brother in New York City. There are TONS of Jack & Jill/Boule/Howard/Morehouse type nikkas up there who came from money and "good" backgrounds like she wanted. But she wanted that exciting nikka with some street in him. She probably thought them Fonzworth Bentley nikkas were cornballs back in the day but, now it's a problem. Her comments on his background turned me off because it had some real
vibes but, I'll give her a pass because she did help him get started. He stay cheating on her. And, by the time of the shower scene, she does show some vulnerability in that she does care for the nikka. They're in that space where they probably shouldn't have got married because they were just from two vastly different backgrounds but, at this point, they should just work through it.
Greer is self centered/narcissistic/arrogant/in love with himself. I don't know what nikkas in here are talking about. He was clearly fukking mad bytches. In the bar scene half of them hoes were on him. He's only interested in Nola because she wasn't interested in him. It was a challenge. Borderline sociopath to be honest. Maybe that's too far. He's just very in love with himself. Their relationship is just about sex, because A) Greer just wants to get her to fall for him like the other chicks B) Nola knows he's completely full of shyt so she doesn't develop feelings for him. If she ever did date him, he would lose interest in days. I did appreciate his take on his upbringing in France. Probably the only part in the show where he came off like a real genuine person and not a massive dikkhead. When Nola tried to speak French to him it was kinda fukked up how he mocked her accent. I might be reading more into that than I should but, it felt like him saying she wasn't that cultured. Talking down to her. Wasn't the first time either as he mocked her art career or lack thereof.
Mars was mad extra but, funny. He seemed to be about 2-3 years younger than her. Their relationship didn't seem unrealistic to me. He made her laugh. Nola was stuck in a state of arrested development. She didn't know whether she wanted to be grown and sexy, and date an older cat like Jamie. Or to be young and irresponsible and date a nikka like Mars. Or to date a nikka that was as fukked up emotionally as she was in Greer. Mars probably had the most love for her out of everyone but, they wouldn't work because he don't got his shyt together and even though his fun and carefree nature gave her an escape from the real world, he was too dumb to stimulate her intellectually, which is what she got from Greer and Jamie.
I don't really get Opal's attraction towards Nola. A woman like Opal wouldn't want someone irresponsible like Nola. She would want a girl like Nola's friend (lightskin broad) that ran the museum. She even said herself that she was never as flighty/flaky as Nola so I don't know how she saw herself in her. Plus, with as many nikkas as Nola was juggling, I don't see how she'll be satisfied with a woman long term. If she was straight though, Opal would've been a good choice for Jamie.
I watched the show because it was intriguing. Digged the NYC/Brooklyn background. The hip hop/r&b vibe. Love watching shows about young blacks in their 20s/30s but, I didn't see much growth in Nola. By the end of the season, I really couldn't honestly say who she was supposed to end up with. And maybe that was the point. But I could easily see Season 2 starting and Nola being EXACTLY the same as she was in Episode 1. Nothing happened. No growth. She didn't learn anything. At least in Insecure, Issa has some sort of growth in each season or some sort of consequence for her actions. Maybe Nola should've gotten pregnant or kicked out of her apartment or had a public altercation with Cheryl. Something. I'll still watch it next season but, that irritated me. Also, all them nikkas having dinner together and dancing afterward was straight
status. I also dated a chick that looked just like Nola so it was very weird watching her at points. Crazy how people have these doppelgangers out in the world. Sometimes Nola would make a facial expression and would have me like
because it felt like I was watching my ex on television.