So what part of the game is it to date multiple people?

[Slang]

They're free to screw who ever they want until they want to commit. This is the coli, girl. Men can lead women on, have sex with them then dump them, fukk multiple women at once and no one cares. But if a woman DATES (not have sex with) multiple dudes at once, she's a whore. We're supposed to date one dude and get wrapped up in only him so if he decides to use/play us/string us along for how ever long we'll be left out in the cold and he has 5 other women to fall back on. But men, they can do whatever without being judged.

Laws of the jungle bitch!

 

[Turbulent]

I think a lot of women to be exclusive but guys like to play too many games. You'll be all into one guy for months, then tell him you want something serious, then find out he doesn't give af about you.



Then the one guy that you've been spending most of your free time with, you've been rejecting other guys because you're into him, and have feelings for is gone and you have to forget about him and get to know another guy, do the same thing but hope for different results.

But I'm sure there are tons of people that only date one person at a time.

cool, do you but i feel sorry for the guy sharing you because he doesn't think he's worth more than 33% of a chick...

 

[BreezyH]

I think a lot of women to be exclusive but guys like to play too many games. You'll be all into one guy for months, then tell him you want something serious, then find out he doesn't give af about you.



Then the one guy that you've been spending most of your free time with, you've been rejecting other guys because you're into him, and have feelings for is gone and you have to forget about him and get to know another guy, do the same thing but hope for different results.

But I'm sure there are tons of people that only date one person at a time.

then that man wasn't properly evaluated by the woman. it's hard not to pick up on signals that they'd rather be elsewhere or they still like their freedom.

 

[The Devil's Advocate]

It's real simple. ASK!!!!!!!

I mean damn that's what the first date is about right? Getting to know them. "How many other guys you talking to?" "Are you dating anyone else?"

I take it like the sex/virgin thing. You didn't meet her on day one. So most likely she was already talking to someone else when you met. How you gonna blame her or expect her to cut them off on day one? She might have been with 3 dates with him but she ain't sure. Now you show up and demand she cut him off for you???

Ain't gonna happen. Same way you was prolly talking to a few girls when you met her. And you ain't cutting them broads off cause you had a date with another woman.

Now if you never asked, you just expected. That's on you. If you're the dumb ass taking her on 100 a plate dinners before you know her resume. That's on you.

 

[PartyHeart]

Sharing a man plays on women's insecurity and will make her want to commit.

yea i see where you coming from i can respect that

idk if im wrong...its just dont understand how a female can mess with multiple nikkas...then all of a sudden get on some serious shyt with one of em...

i think thats why i be wishy washy with these females out here

an exclusive broad is rare as hell nowadays ...seem like yall just all on display

Don't expect exclusivity from someone when you aren't giving or willing to give it.

I talked to more than one man (not 10 or whatever y'all are talking about. Ain't nobody got time for that) when I first met my current man. Casual texts, going out to lunch/dinner when invited, etc. and getting to know each other. When he let me know he wanted to make me his girlfriend and be exclusive and I knew I felt the same way, everyone else was cut off. He and I are engaged now.

If you meet a girl, hang out with her, and realize you want her to be exclusive to you (and you to her ) you need to have that conversation to ensure you're both on the same page.

 

[Ashley Banks]

cool, do you but i feel sorry for the guy sharing you because he doesn't think he's worth more than 33% of a chick...

If I'm not his, how is he sharing me? If he wants me to be exclusive with him, then all he has to do is say so. I'm only willing to go all in if the guy lets me know that he's doing the same.

then that man wasn't properly evaluated by the woman. it's hard not to pick up on signals that they'd rather be elsewhere or they still like their freedom.

It's easy to ignore those signals when you're really into someone. Kind of like when guys wife females then find out she's a hoe.

 

[☑︎#VoteDemocrat]

i'm too selfish to do this to other people or stand aside while its done to me.

I don't knock others for it, but i can't do it.

 

[Turbulent]

If I'm not his, how is he sharing me? If he wants me to be exclusive with him, then all he has to do is say so. I'm only willing to go all in if the guy lets me know that he's doing the same.

that's fair

 

[RealAssanova]

as long as i get mine, i cud honestly care less who she with every day of the week cuz best belee while she with another dude, i'm with another shorty.

only thing i seriously worry bout is if i'm touchin lips dat been on da mouth of a n!gga's pipe.

 

[Dooby]

They're free to screw who ever they want until they want to commit. This is the coli, girl. Men can lead women on, have sex with them then dump them, fukk multiple women at once and no one cares. But if a woman DATES (not have sex with) multiple dudes at once, she's a whore. We're supposed to date one dude and get wrapped up in only him so if he decides to use/play us/string us along for how ever long we'll be left out in the cold and he has 5 other women to fall back on. But men, they can do whatever without being judged.

What are you talking about I never said that. I am not going to be dating multiple either. Catch the part about MAYBE IM OLD FASHION. I don't get it twisted sister I practice what I preach.

 

[Dooby]

I'm actually one of those females who dates one dude at a time. My feelings can't take talking to more than one dude because what if I start to get feelings for both and can't decide? Plus I'm the jealous, selfish type so if we've been on multiple dates and I catch you with another female, I would be livid so I wouldn't do that to another person.

There's still hope in this world

 

[Mr. Somebody]

Maybe I grew up different, but you "TALK" before you date. The talking phase is the noncommittal one you engage in. Dating is when you are not formally committed, but you are taking this one person out to see if they are worthy of long-term commitment. You aren't committed to them over the long-term, but you are committed to the extent that you aren't seeing other people.

Women wonder where 'dating' has gone and why men would rather 'hang out' or 'chill' than spend money. The woman in the video is the perfect example. What self-respecting man is going to pay money and give out free dinners to a woman is also seeing 10 other men?

If you're not feeling the person you're dating, you know what you do? You call it off... and THEN you talk to other men, and then you find one and then you date one of them... but if ya'll got this notion that men are cool with spending money and taking you out while 5 other guys are doing the same thing, then that's not a realistic perspective at all.

And sadly, these days, friend, the woman may not only be talking to a variety of suitors but she may be sleeping with 1 - a few of them as well.

Its so demonic, friends.

 

[drewbreez]

we apply the principals of capitalism to love/pleasure...and end up with possession masquerading as commitment.

women are just like us but have a social imperative (self-imposed) to make biological selection a priority instead of just getting a nut.

well, they WERE doing that until they realized they weren't defined by a) having children b) getting married.

and i will only fukk with someone who views herself as an equal to me, in all ways. she just has to know how i'm gon' do, which is honest libertarian style dating.

 

[King P]

Maybe I grew up different, but you "TALK" before you date. The talking phase is the noncommittal one you engage in. Dating is when you are not formally committed, but you are taking this one person out to see if they are worthy of long-term commitment. You aren't committed to them over the long-term, but you are committed to the extent that you aren't seeing other people.

Women wonder where 'dating' has gone and why men would rather 'hang out' or 'chill' than spend money. The woman in the video is the perfect example. What self-respecting man is going to pay money and give out free dinners to a woman is also seeing 10 other men?

If you're not feeling the person you're dating, you know what you do? You call it off... and THEN you talk to other men, and then you find one and then you date one of them... but if ya'll got this notion that men are cool with spending money and taking you out while 5 other guys are doing the same thing, then that's not a realistic perspective at all.

Somebody gets it. I'm not gonna waste my time on a women who's also dating other guys at the same time. Once we start "dating", we're exclusive until we decide to either enter a relationship or decide anything further isn't going to work out.

But if you're somebody who likes to date multiple guys at once, then *Big Pun voice* got that way

 

[BreezyH]

If I'm not his, how is he sharing me? If he wants me to be exclusive with him, then all he has to do is say so. I'm only willing to go all in if the guy lets me know that he's doing the same.



It's easy to ignore those signals when you're really into someone. Kind of like when guys wife females then find out she's a hoe.

But once again, there was no due diligence there. I'm not talking about any NSA stuff, but if I'm thinking long-term commitment, I'm doing what I can to see what red flags are out there. If she was/is a hoe, that means she interacted with quite a few people making it possible for me to do some six degrees of separation and figure out some things