So what part of the game is it to date multiple people?

[jadillac]

Where I come from, if a woman says, "we're dating".....in my mind, it means we're exclusive.

But in the minds of some women I talk to nowadays it means, "You & I are dating.....but I'm also dating 2-3 other guys." The reasoning is(I'm assuming) to see which one she likes the most.

Personally, I find this DISGUSTING. And that's probably why I'm single at the moment.....you're not gonna be kissing me or whatever else we do.....AND 2 other guys at the same time. That's GROSS.....and ho-ish to be honest. You're not gonna go out with me Friday night, be all lovey dovey & me spending money etc, and then be with another dude the next night.

My brain doesn't work like that and I just can't comprehend it. And you should KNOW after no more than 2 dates if someone is cool for you or not....if not, move on and find someone else.

 

[Shameonyou]

Maybe I grew up different, but you "TALK" before you date. The talking phase is the noncommittal one you engage in. Dating is when you are not formally committed, but you are taking this one person out to see if they are worthy of long-term commitment. You aren't committed to them over the long-term, but you are committed to the extent that you aren't seeing other people.

Women wonder where 'dating' has gone and why men would rather 'hang out' or 'chill' than spend money. The woman in the video is the perfect example. What self-respecting man is going to pay money and give out free dinners to a woman is also seeing 10 other men?

If you're not feeling the person you're dating, you know what you do? You call it off... and THEN you talk to other men, and then you find one and then you date one of them... but if ya'll got this notion that men are cool with spending money and taking you out while 5 other guys are doing the same thing, then that's not a realistic perspective at all.

I dont know how many women I turned down because I knew I wasnt the only dude in the picture....fukk all that we not committed shyt...if you are taking time away from me doing other shyt in my life whether I knew you for a day, or for a couple months and I catch you with another dude...you are getting dropped. My time is too valuable, and there are too many women out there THAT WONT HAVE TO THINK TWICE about being with me that I can be spending my emotional energy on.

 

[Turbulent]

Maybe I grew up different, but you "TALK" before you date. The talking phase is the noncommittal one you engage in. Dating is when you are not formally committed, but you are taking this one person out to see if they are worthy of long-term commitment. You aren't committed to them over the long-term, but you are committed to the extent that you aren't seeing other people.

Women wonder where 'dating' has gone and why men would rather 'hang out' or 'chill' than spend money. The woman in the video is the perfect example. What self-respecting man is going to pay money and give out free dinners to a woman is also seeing 10 other men?

If you're not feeling the person you're dating, you know what you do? You call it off... and THEN you talk to other men, and then you find one and then you date one of them... but if ya'll got this notion that men are cool with spending money and taking you out while 5 other guys are doing the same thing, then that's not a realistic perspective at all.

that's the way i personally see it too but at the end of the day, everyone has their own rules and i respect it. I just try to stay away from those types of women

 

[Action Jackson]

So at what point do you ask her to be exclusive or your just assume the whole time?

Well lets be real that shouldn't need to be talk about if she wasn't a whore.

Once she lets my dikk in her coochie she should respect herself enough to only be letting my dikk in that coochie. If she can't why would I continue to waste time with a woman who clearly isn't GF material?

 

[BruhMayne]

Majority of ppl are whores. Embrace it or get burnt

 

[Rawtid]

Well lets be real that shouldn't need to be talk about if she wasn't a whore.

Once she lets my dikk in her coochie she should respect herself enough to only be letting my dikk in that coochie. If she can't why would I continue to waste time with a woman who clearly isn't GF material?

It most certainly needs to be communicated. Also are you having sex with just her or you're free to screw who you want until you committ?

Just becuse you're dating/hanging/chilling/talking to more than one person, doesn't mean you're fukking all or any of them. It also doesn't mean that dude has to spend any money on the woman. Men do that because they want to or feel the need to. It shouldn't even be a secret that the person is not dating your exclusively.

 

[jadillac]

@Rawtid



Sooooo, I call a girl(after a month of us "dating", we've gone out 5-6 times, talked on the phone hours on end, whatever else) and she doesn't answer the phone cause she's with another dude. Could be one of 2-3 other dudes.....and I'm supposed to be cool with it?

OR what if I go out randomly or something and see them on a date holding hands, kissing, etc., and I'm supposed to be like...."Oh well, shucks.....I guess I'll wait my turn to have her tomorrow night."

Sorry, but that is bass ackwards no matter HOW you try to justify it.

 

[Dirty_Jerz]

after the first date delete her number


@His_Excellence_Reincar these simps was questioning your wisdom

pawgs using algorithms to justify their personal quest for peen

 

[Rawtid]

@Rawtid



Sooooo, I call a girl(after a month of us "dating", we've gone out 5-6 times, talked on the phone hours on end, whatever else) and she doesn't answer the phone cause she's with another dude. Could be one of 2-3 other dudes.....and I'm supposed to be cool with it?

OR what if I go out randomly or something and see them on a date holding hands, kissing, etc., and I'm supposed to be like...."Oh well, shucks.....I guess I'll wait my turn to have her tomorrow night."

Sorry, but that is bass ackwards no matter HOW you try to justify it.

I didnt' say you had to be cool with it but I don't understand how you expect someone to be exclusive with you if you haven't had a conversation about it. Most people aren't going to tell you they are dating more than one person, but I think it should be a conversation to be had from the jump and up to you if you want to continue with them.

 

[1ncognegro]

"I dont love em, I don't chase em I duck em. Smoke some'n. Go to a new state soon as I fukk em. nikkas be pressed for p*ssy, it ain't nothin. Instead of worrying bout who dat bytch fukkin why don't you get some money"

Yall out here actively tryna wife hoes who don't wanna be wife'd and blowin bread on dates

 

[MikelArteta]

:obama;

after the first date delete her number


@His_Excellence_Reincar these simps was questioning your wisdom

pawgs using algorithms to justify their personal quest for peen

 

[MikelArteta]

The funny thing when I said don't pay for a first date or don't pay at all till your exclusive I'm a women hater

When I said delete her number after the first date and if she is interested she will get back to you I'm a women hater

 

[Raava]

Where I come from, if a woman says, "we're dating".....in my mind, it means we're exclusive.

But in the minds of some women I talk to nowadays it means, "You & I are dating.....but I'm also dating 2-3 other guys." The reasoning is(I'm assuming) to see which one she likes the most.

Personally, I find this DISGUSTING. And that's probably why I'm single at the moment.....you're not gonna be kissing me or whatever else we do.....AND 2 other guys at the same time. That's GROSS.....and ho-ish to be honest. You're not gonna go out with me Friday night, be all lovey dovey & me spending money etc, and then be with another dude the next night.

My brain doesn't work like that and I just can't comprehend it. And you should KNOW after no more than 2 dates if someone is cool for you or not....if not, move on and find someone else.

Dating to me doesn't equal sex, just like sex doesn't equal dating. What about men who talk to multiple women and sleep with them, then say, "Hey we aren't in a relationship I can do what I want." Dating is to get to know someone. that can take more then 2 dates. It should be something fun and casual. People confused dating with things that should be happening in a relationship.

 

[SNG]

That's why you do the same date other women until she says she's exclusive with you. I keep my options open and I don't blame women for doing the same just don't let a nikka find out how a nikka dikked you down on friday and I won't tell you about the chick that gave me that wet wet on Sunday. What you don't know won't hurt you





But real talk I ain't down with that shyt especially if a nikka taking you taking on a nice dinner date and you swallowing another nikkas kids for dessert

 

[jadillac]

I didnt' say you had to be cool with it but I don't understand how you expect someone to be exclusive with you if you haven't had a conversation about it. Most people aren't going to tell you they are dating more than one person, but I think it should be a conversation to be had from the jump and up to you if you want to continue with them.

And why not? Because they know that's shady, that's why.



Persoanlly, I think you can tell if a person is the type to date multiple people after a couple dates or a couple weeks. If she's always out, never at home, always on the phone, etc., then she's probably the type to date multiple people and not think anything of it. She probably doesnt value your company exclusively.....there's men like that too. Those men and women should date each other. A one woman man/woman and a person who is a serial dater are NOT compatible.

I dont agree that the convo should be had from the jump b/c that's weird, but after a month, if y'all are cool then it needs to be had.