So what part of the game is it to date multiple people?

[Ashley Banks]

what would make you wanna stop messing with the other dudes?

is it a deciding factor? or is it a imma stick it out..... until i see who fits me best type of thing?

cuz honestly....i dog females who play the dating game with multiple nikkas

If the guy says he wants to be exclusive then I'll stop talking to other dudes.

and men dog females that don't date multiple dudes. I find it so weird how the dudes on here brag about playing women then get mad because women are going on dates with dudes other than them.

it's always one extreme or the other on thecoli.

-And if you're not dating multiple people at the same time then the only alternative is to "date one dude and get wrapped up in only him so if he decides to use/play us/string us along for how ever long we'll be left out in the cold."

That's not an extreme. If you're talking to one person, you're more than likey going to be really into them and men play women all the time (even the dudes in this thread talk about playing women all the time.).

 

[TooLazyToMakeUp1]

I was still fukking with my FWB while she was still dating . She was dating 3 fellas at one time and she cut me off when her and one of the guys got serious. She didn't let none of them hit except him........after 3 whole months of dating .

Let's be real; Who has time to wait for one person when it might not even pan out? You just wasted your time for nothing .

 

[Michael's Black Son]

thats what 30 year old women look like these days? No tanks.

 

[cleanface coney]

If the guy says he wants to be exclusive then I'll stop talking to other dudes.

and men dog females that don't date multiple dudes. I find it so weird how the dudes on here brag about playing women then get mad because women are going on dates with dudes other than them.



That's not an extreme. If you're talking to one person, you're more than likey going to be really into them and men play women all the time (even the dudes in this thread talk about playing women all the time.).

yea i see where you coming from i can respect that

idk if im wrong...its just dont understand how a female can mess with multiple nikkas...then all of a sudden get on some serious shyt with one of em...

i think thats why i be wishy washy with these females out here

an exclusive broad is rare as hell nowadays ...seem like yall just all on display

 

[BreezyH]

of course if it's just the first date, i cant hold you to any commitment. but once there are multiple dates and planning, i really shouldn't have to worry about the next man.

 

[Turbulent]

of course if it's just the first date, i cant hold you to any commitment. but once there are multiple dates and planning, i really shouldn't have to worry about the next man.

you should never worry about it because you will never own it. once we realize that, the feeling of freedom you experience is

 

[Coco Loco]

If yall arent in a relationship and only casual dating, why not date other people in the mean time? Dating does not always mean sexing, to me at least. Keeping options open until you are for sure feeling someone is cool with me.

I thought the majority of people did that...?

Too much logic in one post friend. As long as no one is expecting anything that's how it should be.

 

[Turbulent]

If the guy says he wants to be exclusive then I'll stop talking to other dudes.

and men dog females that don't date multiple dudes. I find it so weird how the dudes on here brag about playing women then get mad because women are going on dates with dudes other than them.



That's not an extreme. If you're talking to one person, you're more than likey going to be really into them and men play women all the time (even the dudes in this thread talk about playing women all the time.).

like i said, if you want to date multiple guys at the same time and play elimidate (lol, old school reference) while they might do the same (i'll give you that) that's your business. but let's not act like the only alternative is to wait at home by the phone while you're deeply under the spell of this one guy. Whatever happened to just talking to someone on the phone, getting to know them and their values, going on a date with them (while not seeing other dudes) then maybe going on a second date with them and if you realize you have certain feelings for him you just tell him how you feel and what you want and then let him decide if he wants the same thing. But i guess that would be too risky. what if he rejects you

 

[BreezyH]

you should never worry about it because you will never own it. once we realize that, the feeling of freedom you experience is

true, but then it's a shakier investment. can't throw my resources into something that really can't be mine. if i know upfront that there are other men, i'm less likely to invest. especially because we're not all investing the same. one man's gonna come out his pocket hundred of dollars and many hours of his time for a woman who'll lay with tyrone for nothing.

 

[Arishok]

I'm actually one of those females who dates one dude at a time. My feelings can't take talking to more than one dude because what if I start to get feelings for both and can't decide? Plus I'm the jealous, selfish type so if we've been on multiple dates and I catch you with another female, I would be livid so I wouldn't do that to another person.

 

[Action Jackson]

It most certainly needs to be communicated. Also are you having sex with just her or you're free to screw who you want until you committ?

Just becuse you're dating/hanging/chilling/talking to more than one person, doesn't mean you're fukking all or any of them. It also doesn't mean that dude has to spend any money on the woman. Men do that because they want to or feel the need to. It shouldn't even be a secret that the person is not dating your exclusively.

If I spend more than a few weeks of my time with a chick then she made it to the next level. It usually doesn't take me much longer than that to realize what type of girl I'm dealing with. I think its mostly unspoken words but if a girl needs to communicate that we are exclusive then I'm definitely cool with that. So yea at that point she'll become the only chick I'm fukking.

If she is dating/hanging/chilling/talking with me and a few other dudes and I know that but she's fukking me.. I'd be naive as fukk to believe she isn't fukking them too.

 

[Diondon]

I'm actually one of those females who date one dude at a time. My feelings can't take talking to more than one dude because what if I start to get feelings for both and can't decide? Plus I'm the jealous, selfish type so if we've been on multiple dates and I catch you with another female, I would be livid so I wouldn't do that to another person.

Good girl.

 

[Turbulent]

true, but then it's a shakier investment. can't throw my resources into something that really can't be mine. if i know upfront that there are other men, i'm less likely to invest. especially because we're not all investing the same. one man's gonna come out his pocket hundred of dollars and many hours of his time for a woman who'll lay with tyrone for nothing.

I don't like the investing analogy because when you invest in stocks you actually own part of the company and can expect a return on your investment if the company is profitable.

You don't invest in women. Cause if you do then you start thinking you own them and expect a return from them, that's when you set yourself up to get played (but really you're playing yourself). If you do something for someone (giving them time, energy, paying their way for something, etc) it should be because you feel like doing it (maybe because they made you feel like doing it), not because you expect a return on your investment.

 

[BreezyH]

I don't like the investing analogy because when you invest in stocks you actually own part of the company and can expect a return on your investment if the company is profitable.

You don't invest in women. Cause if you do then you start thinking you own them and expect a return from them, that's when you set yourself up to get played (but really you're playing yourself). If you do something for someone (giving them time, energy, paying their way for something, etc) it should be because you feel like doing it (maybe because they made you feel like doing it), not because you expect a return on your investment.

i hear you. but honestly, i can entertain myself. if we're sitting down to eat, or do some kind of date, i think enough of you to invest my time, energy, finances into it. that guarantees NOTHING, but if it fails let it be for something other than the other dude you were seeing while seeing me. you can't own a woman, but i have expectations of anybody who is in my life - meet them or get out and I'm not giving out prizes on the way out.

 

[Ashley Banks]

yea i see where you coming from i can respect that

idk if im wrong...its just dont understand how a female can mess with multiple nikkas...then all of a sudden get on some serious shyt with one of em...

i think thats why i be wishy washy with these females out here

an exculsive broad is rare as hell nowadays ...seem like yall just all on display

I think a lot of women to be exclusive but guys like to play too many games. You'll be all into one guy for months, then tell him you want something serious, then find out he doesn't give af about you.

like i said, if you want to date multiple guys at the same time and play elimidate (lol, old school reference) while they might do the same (i'll give you that) that's your business. but let's not act like the only alternative is to wait at home by the phone while you're deeply under the spell of this one guy. Whatever happened to just talking to someone on the phone, getting to know them and their values, going on a date with them (while not seeing other dudes) then maybe going on a second date with them and if you realize you have certain feelings for him you just tell him how you feel and what you want and then let him decide if he wants the same thing. But i guess that would be too risky. what if he rejects you

Then the one guy that you've been spending most of your free time with, you've been rejecting other guys because you're into him, and have feelings for is gone and you have to forget about him and get to know another guy, do the same thing but hope for different results.

But I'm sure there are tons of people that only date one person at a time.