So Brehs, I'm Trying To Make The Transition From "Player" To "Boyfriend Material"

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I've never been a player of any sort but I'll say this. Once you graduate college the doors open like :krs: to all types of women. Educated, black men seem to be on every chick's 'bucket list'. I've always been repping that borderline dork/nerd status and after college even I had to start telling women (from all walks) to fall back.

That is with basically zero game, a decent joke repertoire, and a strong hold on the English language...THAT'S IT. Kinda pathetic when I think about it but its the truth.

I can understand what you want to do and I can imagine your conscience is eating you up. Just wait it out and play it by ear.


:salute: at the intentions though.
 

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This nikka here :comeon:


We makin threads about how we fukk too many bytches now :usure:


You 22 breh. Even if you got in a relationship you would get sick and tired of it after the honeymoon phase is over. Relationships are hard fukkin work, you gotta deal with a person on a consistent basis and learn to adapt and deal with change and evolution of said person.



Honestly nikkas shouldnt get into a relationship if you are trying to make big moves in ya 20s, shorty jus gon hold you back, either that or you ambition will take its toll on your relationship. You in ATL n shyt, now imagine if you get a big time gig in LA or New York. You think ya shorty gonna be cool with jus packing up all her shyt and bouncing off with you :usure: , or better yet do you think you would be able to maintain a long distance relationship? Would you even want too?? These are the type of questions and scenarios you face when you a young black man fresh out of college in a real relationship with a woman. Its hard b.


Thats the type of shyt im going thru right now :beli:
 

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I've never been a player of any sort but I'll say this. Once you graduate college the doors open like :krs: to all types of women. Educated, black men seem to be on every chick's 'bucket list'. I've always been repping that borderline dork/nerd status and after college even I had to start telling women (from all walks) to fall back.

That is with basically zero game, a decent joke repertoire, and a strong hold on the English language...THAT'S IT. Kinda pathetic when I think about it but its the truth.

I can understand what you want to do and I can imagine your conscience is eating you up. Just wait it out and play it by ear.


:salute: at the intentions though.
:obama: Thanks breh.

Even if you got in a relationship you would get sick and tired of it after the honeymoon phase is over.

Let me live breh. :heh: I been single for +3 years now. I can try my hand at something new. :smugbiden:

I'm a people person. I can deal with people changing/attitudes/etc. I get along with people easily. And I'm not jumping into a relationship right now. Just slowing it down and getting myself together.
 

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Let me live breh. :heh: I been single for +3 years now. I can try my hand at something new. :smugbiden:

I'm a people person. I can deal with people changing/attitudes/etc. I get along with people easily. And I'm not jumping into a relationship right now. Just slowing it down and getting myself together.



Even tho we beef, we are similar you and I :smugfavre:. So I know what you are going thru. What your going thru is not really wanting a relationship or wanting to slow down. You jus a hot boy on campus and are getting sick and tired of the shyt it entails.



I used to be one of the biggest party promoter on my campus. And my campus was voted the biggest Party School in the east coast. So you can only imagine the fukkery I got into. You jus tired of the mass amount of popularity you got in a confined social enviroment. It becomes sickening, cuz you start to feel trapped, like you are a mini celebrity out in ya parts. I kno brezini, my Senior of college I couldnt take the shyt no more. So I jus deleted my facebook, cut off more than half my circle and switched phone numbers.


shyt has been :ahh: ever since.



Me and my current girl jus had a fukkin 2 week fallout cuz of sum shyt I did my sophmore year of college with this one chick who is now trying to be a AKA with my shorty. When you fukk too many bytches in a confined social atmosphere its gonna be fukkery. Like 3 of your old bytches becoming line sisters with ya girl, or ya old jumpoff becoming roomates with ya ex, jus silly shyt like that.


Its like WTF, bytch that was 3 years ago, what does that have to do with now :mindblown:, but stuff you do in the past always comes full cicle :manny:



Trust me man I know where you coming from, u jus dealing with the negative sides of being too popular. Thats why I be feeling sorry for celebritys, cuz that shyt gotta b 100x times worse :bryan:
 

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I'm not tired of being popular. :heh: I've always been a more popular guy, ever since I was a kid. That's not a problem for me. I love hanging out with my friends, meeting new people, and being social.

I graduate in 4 weeks by though. :skip: :smugfavre:

I'm honestly not excited about meeting new chicks. Going through that whole process is :scusthov: I wish I would have just gotten over with :snoop:
 

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There is nothing much you can do to be "boyfriend material" aside from treating a woman the way you would want to be treated if you were in a relationship with her.


When you find a woman that you want to be committed and faithful to, you will. You will feel it, you will know it and hopefully she knows and feels it too. If fukking out of sport makes you feel bad, then stop. Changes always start with you, avoiding or changing the environment rarely helps, imo.
 

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I'm saying.

You won't even realize it breh. One day you'll be all saying wildly soft shyt for no reason. You'll look back and be like :damn:.

Never thought it would happen to me so quickly. :wow:

Cosign. I went to a party on saturday with my girl and after we got home my shorty was like "people kept asking me what's it like being with you...." She said "they were shocked to hear I'm happy and we have a great relationship."

At the end of the day, having a good broad on your team is a good thing. Only if you're ready though. I'm 30 so it was time for a nikka to get up out the game. I'm just happy that I ain't catch the monster or have a kid during my hoeing days :whew:
 

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There is nothing much you can do to be "boyfriend material" aside from treating a woman the way you would want to be treated if you were in a relationship with her.
When you find a woman that you want to be committed and faithful to, you will. You will feel it, you will know it and hopefully she knows and feels it too. If fukking out of sport makes you feel bad, then stop. Changes always start with you, avoiding or changing the environment rarely helps, imo.

You tryna :cape: me Retta? :ahh:

I'm just happy that I ain't catch the monster or have a kid during my hoeing days :whew:
I been too lucky. I know my time is comin' soon. I'm gettin' out while I can. Player game like the crack game. :myman:
 

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I'm not tired of being popular. :heh: I've always been a more popular guy, ever since I was a kid. That's not a problem for me. I love hanging out with my friends, meeting new people, and being social.

I graduate in 4 weeks by though. :skip: :smugfavre:

I'm honestly not excited about meeting new chicks. Going through that whole process is :scusthov: I wish I would have just gotten over with :snoop:


Shoulda got a good girl by the end of ya Junior year b. Thats what mos playas do.


You telling me, you've jus been stragging out bytches for ALL of your 4 years in college. :damn:
 
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