So Brehs, I'm Trying To Make The Transition From "Player" To "Boyfriend Material"

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Might as well wait until you graduate because you don't want to fall in love with some chick and than after graduation move away from her or vice versa for a job opportunity. This happened to me when my ol lady moved to fukking Minnesota for a job. :damn:
 

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if im in your position id just lay low and focus on myself...a whole lot of "nah not tonight..."

I try to do this a lot :ld: But it still does not work out greatly, because if I happen to go to a party, or I see someone on campus, I'm always catchin' flack for being a flake or whatever. :ld:

Ocmf is right as corny as it may sound. You need a woman such as the one you described to come into your life and make you want to change so badly that without even realizing it you will push all that extra shyt to the wayside just to make sure things work out with your new girl

I don't want to "change" because of a woman though. :noah: I don't think that would work.

I just wanna be ready for that already. :noah:

I warned you about this and you brushed me off.

Old habits die hard. Even when you're with a girl and being faithful, dumb shyt from your past gonna pop up out of nowhere and gonna fukk your relationships up. One of my best friends is going through this now.

What's really gonna fukk you up is that you'll realize you won't be able to escape your social circle or your rep.

:merchant: Breh, don't wish this shyt on me. :heh:
 

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I don't want to be any woman's "boyfriend" per se, but this shyt is hard brehs. :ld: At this point, I'm just fukkin' out of boredom/routine. :yeshrug:

I've been settled on this decision for a couple of weeks, but I'm discovering that it's not very easy to break out of a lifestyle you've been living for around 7 years.

I am annoyed with random women hitting up my phone, I'm annoyed with random women knowing me before I know them, I am annoyed with the angry texts/phone calls, I'm annoyed with silly rumors. I'm just :ld: all around. I could never have a girlfriend and manage to keep her around in the midst of all of this so I have decided that I am going to make some lifestyle changes, just trying to figure out how to properly strategize these moves right now.


I've had the same number since 8th grade and from like second semester freshman year (college) up until this summer, I decided it'd be smart to just hand out hella business cards to people (females) so I have an assortment of females I don't really fukk with like that hitting me up (big fukk up). I would like to change my number, but I also do not want any good contacts losing my information plus, I am in the midst of a job search. The cards also had my main email on them as well. Also, I know that even if I changed it, the new number would still manage to find it's way around anyway. I don't give people my AIM screen name and even that shyt be findin' it's way out. Low key thinking about changing that as well.

I even started a new Facebook, but that one got swarmed within a matter of days as well, but not as bad as the old one. I reached past the limit some kind of way on my first Facebook. I would delete it, but again, that's too many contacts to lose and it is a great tool for promotion. My Twitter is pretty straight. I have a lot of followers, but I'm not on it enough to the point where it effects anything.

Not really interested in dating females on campus. At this point I can't tell if most are genuinely interested or if they are looking for a status come-up or because they think I have some kind of money, minus a few exceptions. I talk with this one girl from school, but she is not "black" and that kind of concerns me, so I don't think I will ever make it serious.

I'd actually prefer to date a woman who is not familiar with me at all. :leon: I'd keep a lot of things about myself private from her so as not to hype myself up or anything like that. I don't have any details about myself on my new Facebook and I can't add anymore people on my old FB with all the info, so there's no way she'd be able to see that stuff :mjpls:

My main problem is that I would very much so like to hold on to the social status I have right now, just without all of the added female drama from females who are not in my family. My mom and dad met in college and I feel like I have slightly disappointed them with my actions/behavior. :ld: My little sister goes to school with me and she is starting to give me the :sitdown: face because of the way other females treat her upon learning who she is :ld:

I can't wait 'til I graduate :noah:



all the signs of player denial

you aint ready breh
 

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I try to do this a lot :ld: But it still does not work out greatly, because if I happen to go to a party, or I see someone on campus, I'm always catchin' flack for being a flake or whatever. :ld:

you will always catch flack for de-programming of any kind...just ride that shyt out
 

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you will always catch flack for de-programming of any kind...just ride that shyt out

True :noah:

all the signs of player denial

you aint ready breh

You missed the point of what I'm saying. :noah:

I just don't believe in the terms of "boyfriend" and "girlfriend" or whatever. I have friends who have the same social status and they maintain perfectly good relationships so that is not a problem.

Might as well wait until you graduate because you don't want to fall in love with some chick and than after graduation move away from her or vice versa for a job opportunity. This happened to me when my ol lady moved to fukking Minnesota for a job. :damn:

I did that (minus the "fallin' in love" cliche shyt) and am currently missing out on a good one. She was younger (just a year) and I would not do anything serious with her because I didn't want to hinder her from career opportunities or anything of that nature. She had so many dreams and ambitions, I did not want to stop her/make her re-think her decisions. :to:

:ohlawd:
 

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True :noah:



You missed the point of what I'm saying. :noah:

I just don't believe in the terms of "boyfriend" and "girlfriend" or whatever. I have friends who have the same social status and they maintain perfectly good relationships so that is not a problem.




I did that (minus the "fallin' in love" cliche shyt) and am currently missing out on a good one. She was younger (just a year) and I would not do anything serious with her because I didn't want to hinder her from career opportunities or anything of that nature. She had so many dreams and ambitions, I did not want to stop her/make her re-think her decisions. :to:

:ohlawd:

There in denial too , a lot of thos perfectly "good " relationships are a mess , reminds me of the thread dude made like two days ago here ,that his bisexual wife left him for another female

how old are you?
 

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There in denial too , a lot of thos perfectly "good " relationships are a mess , reminds me of the thread dude made like two days ago here ,that his bisexual wife left him for another female

how old are you?

Nah breh, their relationship is :ohlawd:. I can say this for sure for my LB who lives with me. Dude be :win:nin' with his lil Jamaican.

I'm 22. :whoa: I know that seems young, but I've pretty much done everything that most men want "sexually" when it comes to women. I've done all of that. I've been livin' since I was like 15/16, so I'm kinda old on the shyt I do. :ld:
 

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:merchant: Breh, don't wish this shyt on me. :heh:

I don't wish that on no man. shyt is stressful.

Even if you doing right by your chick, your old chicks will constantly tempt you and they will not respect whatever relationship you in. You think your old chicks wont say slick shyt to your girl?

Now imagine your girl assuming every female you know is someone you've smashed in the past. You think that's gonna be easy to deal with.

And you can't even place the blame on anyone else, you made this bed. :snoop:
 

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chill out, when you find that one, youll probably chill and with your luck the bytch will piss you off because youll put your attention into her and she will just neglect it...not knowing your background
 

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Nah breh, their relationship is :ohlawd:. I can say this for sure for my LB who lives with me. Dude be :win:nin' with his lil Jamaican.

I'm 22. :whoa: I know that seems young, but I've pretty much done everything that most men want "sexually" when it comes to women. I've done all of that. I've been livin' since I was like 15/16, so I'm kinda old on the shyt I do. :ld:

:huhldup:

Dam breh you only 22


You dont need to stop being a player for at least another 5 years , trust me on this.
 

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I don't wish that on no man. shyt is stressful.

Even if you doing right by your chick, your old chicks will constantly tempt you and they will not respect whatever relationship you in. You think your old chicks wont say slick shyt to your girl?

Now imagine your girl assuming every female you know is someone you've smashed in the past. You think that's gonna be easy to deal with.

And you can't even place the blame on anyone else, you made this bed. :snoop:

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Dam breh you only 22
You dont need to stop being a player for at least another 5 years , trust me on this.

Nah breh, I'm literally old as fukk on this shyt. I be like :why: when chicks hit up my phone. I been in the game too heavy too long.

chill out, when you find that one, youll probably chill and with your luck the bytch will piss you off because youll put your attention into her and she will just neglect it...not knowing your background

That's another thing I worry about. :pachaha: I don't wanna go "good" and then have my girl thinking I'm some sort of super simp. :damn:
 

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i feel you my nikka
get you a old chick
or get a girl you wouldnt usually fukk wit
like a off brand type chick
 

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Im in a relationship now and my only rule is I wont cheat unless the girl im cheating with is finer than wifey. Its hard to change but fukk it im 24 and not trying to be tied down to these hoes yet. I think after a while all that playing around trying to be the man gets tiring and a dude can only handle one womans bullshyt as oppose to a bunch of womans bullshyt. Men dont commit they just change their mindset and see things differently.
 

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Im in a relationship now and my only rule is I wont cheat unless the girl im cheating with is finer than wifey.
:dead: But yeah, I'm genuinely tired. I never thought it would happen but :manny:

i feel you my nikka
get you a old chick
or get a girl you wouldnt usually fukk wit
like a off brand type chick

I be tryin' breh. They don't really fukk with me. :heh: I think if I lied about my age, I'd have more success. I've done that before and it worked. :ehh: I can be pretty mature for my age. :ld: But that was just for fukkin'. That lie couldn't hold up in a relationship. :heh:

What do you mean by "off brand"? :whoa: There are some chicks I would never take home to my mama.
 
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