Should the fatherless blame their Mom for not being wise enough to choose a solid Man?

[*Angel*]

I hate claims like the OP. It suggests people have intelligence but don't use it.

 

[southern.girl]

So again, my question is why does the parent who chose to stay get seen in such a bad light?

Again, because the mom chose an unfit parent as a father. The signs are always there.

Again, b/c there is no extra credit for bare minimum actions (i.e. The mom sticking around for a kid she chose to have).

 

[UncleTomFord15]

Uhhh no nikka, I know guys who sell drugs that are at every football game, every ballet recital, every parent teacher conference and making sure their kid is getting straight As every marking period. What someone does for money in this country especially as a black man has no bearing on their fathering skills.

 

[Lamar Givens]

Again, because the mom chose an unfit parent as a father. The signs are always there.

Again, b/c there is no extra credit for bare minimum actions (i.e. The mom sticking around for a kid she chose to have).

It’s obvious @SonyaBlade was emotionally hurt by OP question. She’s doing too much projecting. His statement hit close to home with her.

 

[InfinateOpulance]

Again, because the mom chose an unfit parent as a father. The signs are always there.

Again, b/c there is no extra credit for bare minimum actions (i.e. The mom sticking around for a kid she chose to have).

You can't speak for every person's situation, only what you have seen in your own life.

And you're right, mothers don't get extra credit for doing what they should.

But for every action there will be a reaction. This is why the government had to step and create something called child support.

 

[InfinateOpulance]

It’s obvious @SonyaBlade was emotionally hurt by OP question. She’s doing too much projecting. His statement hit close to home with her.

You don't know me. I negged you cuz of that dumb ass statement you made.

 

[Lamar Givens]

You don't know me. I negged you cuz of that dumb ass statement you made.

It appears my comment burned your soul.

If you are a woman who makes poor decisions it’s okay to own up to them.

You’re only lying to yourself if you choose to ignore and acknowledge stupid decisions.

 

[queenblaq]

No, you can't there's just too many variables to that general situation on how that single mother came to be

 

[The Odum of Ala Igbo]

I hate claims like the OP. It suggests people have intelligence but don't use it.

 

[The Odum of Ala Igbo]

Most single mothers I've met wanted to be mothers. They had a void in their life and they though they'd fill that void with a child. Having a man or drama with a man who fathered their child created the 'struggle' which added meaning to their sad, sad lives.

 

[Brolic Scholar]

Generalize brehs.


Nope. I wasn’t fatherless.

 

[BLΔCK⁂W⊙LF]

I have seen people that come from two parent homes do the exact same thing, blame others for their problems (check White people).

OP doesn't really believe that himself though, he just wanted to take shots at @KTP

 

[MooseMouthMthafuga]

It sounds like two broken people got together & created a child. Too many times, they haven't properly healed themselves to raise the kid in the best environment. This is a 50/50 fault split between the mom & dad.

That's all it is in most cases.Make of it what you will, but a lot of black folks in this country suffer from a sense of depression/hopelessness.

We've always felt a lack of value/restrained.Fukking without a rubber is a twisted, psychological way of dealing with that.

The condom only represents your oppression.Nikkaz wanna feel free some times! Sex is like a drug.Escapism.

A lot of us go into relationships carrying that lack of value.For the most part, it's just fukk buddies trying to get a nut.

Once the baby's on the way, all of a sudden, we try to turn "serious", but it doesn't work that way.

The two people making the baby don't even value their own lives.Women suffer the brunt of it because they carry the baby for 9 months.

They basically get stuck with the kid.It would be wiser for women to be extra cautious.Nikkaz can bust a nutt and get up.Woman takes

a nutt, and her life's in recline for the next 9 months.Females have more to lose.Become the lock that every key can't open.

I know it's easier said than done.Folks are seriously fighting against hopelessness, but cotdamn, I don't know what to tell ya

 

[TheDarkCloud]

@KTP

Keep ya head up breh

 

[Henri Christophe]

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