Should the fatherless blame their Mom for not being wise enough to choose a solid Man?

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@Stuntone

Would percentage of women would you say have had sex with a man before he physically put hands on her in an argument?


Isn't it plausible that men show women a certain face and something later could turn the woman off to the point where she couldn't possibly want to stay with him?

Exactly, but it's the woman's fault for getting hit, she should have chosen better

 

[Pure Water]

My cousin does. He does not have a good relationship with his mom at all and it all stems from him not really knowing his dad. He blames his dad too, but his dad isn't there to take care of him.

I can see why he feels like that, but he be getting disrespectful and I be having to check him sometimes.

 

[OliviaTwist]

And anyway, people shyt on single mothers all the time. But the reason that they don’t get the level of scorn as absentee fathers is because, while they made a mistake, they owned up and are paying for that mistake every fukking day by raising a child alone.

When does a deadbeat father own up and pay for his part of the mistake? When does he take responsibility? Never.

That’s the difference.

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[InfinateOpulance]

Why would you blame a gender known for making emotional over logical decisions for not making a logical decision?

My only issue is when women don't admit to not being logical.

As a female i can agree we don't always use logic, we make decisions based off emotion. Especially when it comes to men.

 

[AkilinaArina]

True. personally if I was to get any woman pregnant, i'm going to take care of that kids. Women i date know this. They should know the types that don't.

Any woman who heard you say things like what you said in the OP and actually brought forth a child for you would be begging to be a single mother. You literally see nothing wrong with a father leaving his kids and totally absolving him. You'd do that same thing to your own kids and absolve yourself for it. You literally have the type of deadbeat mentality that you're lamenting. You're not a dr.huxtable, you're a Tyrone breh.

 

[InfinateOpulance]

Running out on your kids because you’re angry you won’t have more time to sleep around IS emotional.

I think it's cowardly. Running and hiding is easy. Anybody can do that.

 

[InfinateOpulance]

Any woman who heard you say things like what you said in the OP and actually brought forth a child for you would be begging to be a single mother. You literally see nothing wrong with a father leaving his kids and totally absolving him. You'd do that same thing to your own kids and absolve yourself for it. You literally have the type of deadbeat mentality that you're lamenting.

I don't think he really believes all the bull shyt he posts. Lots of guys come here to say things they don't have the balls to say to some one's face.

 

[DPresidential]

Any woman who heard you say things like what you said in the OP and actually brought forth a child for you would be begging to be a single mother. You literally see nothing wrong with a father leaving his kids and totally absolving him. You'd do that same thing to your own kids and absolve yourself for it. You literally have the type of deadbeat mentality that you're lamenting. You're not a dr.huxtable, you're a Tyrone breh.

The breh is blatantly troubled.

He's contradicted himself numerous times and shows a real deep seated resentment towards women.

I wouldn't be surprised if he was over 30, had an overbearing mother who talked down to him and had an unsettling body odor, preyed on young impressionable girls and beats his women.

I'm probably bet money he has these characteristics.

He needs help.

 

[InfinateOpulance]

The dad earns 50% fault b/c he ran off. The mom earns 50% fault b/c she made a poor choice in choosing the father for her child. That's 50/50 fault.

So again, my question is why does the parent who chose to stay get seen in such a bad light?

 

[AkilinaArina]

, nikka most of these women know up front these men aint shyt. Why would a nikka who spends all day selling drugs, robbing, shooting, scamming, has gang tattoes all over his body, has no secondary education, never had a job, etc give af about raising a kid.


nikkas absolving both parents of blame is one of the main reasons the black community is so backwards.

Uhhh no nikka, I know guys who sell drugs that are at every football game, every ballet recital, every parent teacher conference and making sure their kid is getting straight As every marking period. What someone does for money in this country especially as a black man has no bearing on their fathering skills.

 

[kovi]

No way I’m excusing deadbeat fathers but at the end of the day you probably knew he was a fukk nikka and chose to breed with him.

 

[AkilinaArina]

I don't think he really believes all the bull shyt he posts. Lots of guys come here to say things they don't have the balls to say to some one's face.

Yeah I've come to realize this and I get it I mean it's an outlet but there's some real life dummies that do everything that they see on the web.

 

[WaveCapsByOscorp™]

So we just gonna blame people?

 

[AkilinaArina]

The breh is blatantly troubled.

He's contradicted himself numerous times and shows a real deep seated resentment towards women.

I wouldn't be surprised if he was over 30, had an overbearing mother who talked down to him and had an unsettling body odor, preyed on young impressionable girls and beats his women.

I'm probably bet money he has these characteristics.

He needs help.

Facts, straight bozo.

 

[Lamar Givens]

I came from a 2 parent household. Mom and dad were high school sweethearts.

However, Mom Dukes was always talking about chastity and no sex before marriage.


So one day when I came home from college I sat both mom and dad down and asked them both, did y’all wait till marriage?



Mom Dukes said , “I was a virgin on our wedding night , but your father wasn’t.

Pops was

At some point a man, especially if he has a preachy Mom or parents, has to ask them that ETHER and risk taking an L knowing ya moms was a hoe...

Some dudes can’t do it...they don’t want those Trick Daddy stories


To answer OP initial question, yes, some women are to blame...

I have female cousins who have multiple no good baby daddy’s that are absent in their child(s) life.

Most of them knew they were no good but couldn’t resist getting their guts being pushed in.