Should the black community adopt arranged marriages (patriarchy)?

[africngiant]

feminists gonna have you sleeping with one eye open

poisoned spaghetti

 

[Chrishaune]

What they make you do? Kill a Lion?

Niikas always want to joke.

 

[number21]

That's not what it means, but go ahead. "Irreconcilable differences" encompasses nearly anything dysfunctional in a relationship besides physical abuse and proven infidelity.

Just say it, you want women to be forced to stay in dysfunctional marriages.

Its okay breh. You can stay in la-la land.

 

[Adeptus Astartes]

Its okay breh. You can stay in la-la land.

It's not that hard, nikka. Say you want to force women to stay in dysfunctional and abusive marriages. Be a man and stand on your square.

 

[Black Mamba]

Wtf is this thread this is some pure uncut incel shyt tryna decide for women. Especially when some might get stuck with piece of shyt ass dudes.

Ayo wtf is this backwards ass mentality we in 2022 man

 

[number21]

It's not that hard, nikka. Say you want to force women to stay in dysfunctional and abusive marriages. Be a man and stand on your square.

I want people to stay together if it's anything outside of physical abuse.

Damn near everything else can be worked on. Those other things leads to an end because of the woman's whims and not wanting to work through it for the most part.

 

[Neuromancer]

We need return to old cultural structure, word to Amos Wilson. If this were to be implemented then it would need to put rules in place that heavily punished infidelity and abuse from either side. You want kids raised in as healthy a house hold as you can get. Arrangements shouldn't be made based on money but on values.

Also mental health counseling needs to more readily accepted and acceptable in our community. Black therapist, nutritionists and psychiatrists.

 

[Dafunkdoc_Unlimited]

But their divorce rates and amount of broken homes are nowhere near what's going in the USA.

Because they CAN'T get divorced or they starve/become homeless.

Like when hostages don't try to escape.

Marriage, in those countries/cultures, is about survival.

We been off that for 2,000 years.​

 

[FromStLouis]

You'll always get pushback on this topic but an alternative would be elevating Matchmaking to a true profession on par with therapy or marriage counseling.

An accredited 2-4 year degree, a fee and license to practice, an office and thorough regulation of the industry.

Instead of craiglist ads and palm readers.

 

[RareHunter]

Why is it that countries that have arranged marriages are also the absolute WORST for human/women's rights?

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What rights don’t women have?

 

[RareHunter]

Because they CAN'T get divorced or they starve/become homeless.

Like when hostages don't try to escape.

Marriage, in those countries/cultures, is about survival.

We been off that for 2,000 years.​

So that’s not women roles and they have choice in arranged marriages. The U.S. is finished anyways. It’s amazing how comfortable some of yall got.

 

[RareHunter]

When divorce is illegal, you get fewer divorces.

But I forgot, women losing their autonomy and civil rights is but a small price to pay for your authoritarian dream.

I mean they don’t have the might for autonomy. To pretend they are the same as men is just stupid. A women is equally valuable when she’s in her role as a helpmate. Outside of that, they have little value in a marriage, which is why almost all
black men and women come from dysfunctional single parent homes, and it’s working out terribly.

 

[number21]

Because they CAN'T get divorced or they starve/become homeless.

Like when hostages don't try to escape.

Marriage, in those countries/cultures, is about survival.

We been off that for 2,000 years.​

To maintain order, it could be brutal.

Rather marriage be about that than vain and fickle things about how fat her ass is, how cute he is, or how entertaining they are.

Making it about survival and honoring your GOD will make the relationship as real as it can be and totally about maintenance of it. Not wondering how to keep up that spark you had or keeping apperances.

 

[Amestafuu (Emeritus)]

Easy answer NO.

The only thing that keeps arrange marriages together is social pressure. The same communities that have them also have shaming culture. So people live miserable lives together.

I have know so many people in arranged marriages who are unhappy but not divorced. Try talking to people in cultures that do that. A lot of them.are trying to escape that culture. You have to be naive to think it s the way to go.

Only way to institute that now would be to literally take away rights from women like most of the countries where arranged marriage is common...

 

[RareHunter]

Its okay breh. You can stay in la-la land.

Isaiah 4:1​

“And in that day seven women shall take hold of one man, saying, We will eat our own bread, and wear our own apparel: only let us be called by thy name, to take away our reproach.”

The problem with our community is our women and alot of the men they raised are just str8 up simple minded only think about sex. Both need to be silenced. Correction is coming regardless, because when turmoil hits the earth and these bum nikkas aint prepared, these women aint gon have no protection. In previous times men had morals and were in good standing with women. Imagine now, with the gender war? These women gon need protection from men who feel ”slighted” and even to survive, because they end up selling box for Ramen with no water to cook it.

The verse is in the context, that by the end of all of this, Israelite women (Negro women), will have no choice but to go back to their role.

Isaiah 4:1​

“And in that day seven women shall take hold of one man, saying, We will eat our own bread, and wear our own apparel: only let us be called by thy name, to take away our reproach.”