Shorty Just broke up with me (update)

[onelastdeath]

Alright... Finally read the entire thing.


First of all, some of you nikkas took this way too personal. Like seriously, some of yall sounded bitter af about this for some reason.

OP had a rookie mistake by not letting old girl know in the beginning what it was... Letting her know he was "hanging out" with other females as well.

Basically, she wanted to be exclusive and let her friend talk her into doing some stupid shyt she wasn't prepared to do.. Which was to give him an ultimatum or leave. Women give the worse advice to each other I swear...

OP seems like he's a nice person, but doesnt want a specific type of relationship (which is based off race... Which is stupid to me but aight). It sounds similar to me sometimes. I dont want to be pressured into a relationship that I don't want to be in.. which in my case it's long distance.

I was actually in his situation when I was younger too.. I let a girl know I was talking to other females and she tripped about it. I ended up in a relationship with her but I did like/love her. shyt went south eventually though.

But basically, what I said earlier still stands to me. Either wife her up or let her ride because if you doing this FWB shyt with her you gonna have this argument every month with her.

And just know, if its not gonna be with her its gonna be with the next chick.. Shorty from 5 guys might be next in 3 months after you volunteer to take her to her sisters wedding or some shyt ().

Or karma might hit your ass and the roles might be reversed next time. Time to make a decision pleighboi

You know what’s crazy? First date we went on we went out to see the shape of water in like December and the night ended with her asking what exactly I was looking for

And I swear to god I told her this

“ nothin too serious, jus tryna do my own thing, not in a rush to fall in love,”

AND THAT WAS IT

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

What happened here?

what didn't happen here? is the better question. even the cliff notes version would be too much.

 

[Geode]

BREhs in here talmbout I’m stringing her on

She said she wanted a future and a rela she cud Be proud of and certainty and all that and i told her that i cudnt supply it

then told her that I straight up cudnt handle a rela
and she said that “ i cud but didn’t but want to”

How much more straightforward could I be?

Y'all both were straightforward. So no problems there. But I guess some folks are trying to save you some aggravation by saying to stop dealing with her.

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

First date we went on we went out to see the shape of water

anyone?? anyone care to respond?? and the jokes keep writing themselves... (this shyt keeps pulling me back in..i'm trying to dead it, for real). Isn't that the movie about...ummm... nvm... just nvm. yeah....he's gone.. they got him.

 

[onelastdeath]

anyone?? anyone care to respond?? and the jokes keep writing themselves... (this shyt keeps pulling me back in..i'm trying to dead it, for real). Isn't that the movie about...ummm... nvm... just nvm. yeah,,.he's gone.. they got him.

My favorite director

 

[T'krm]

BREhs in here talmbout I’m stringing her on

She said she wanted a future and a rela she cud Be proud of and certainty and all that and i told her that i cudnt supply it

then told her that I straight up cudnt handle a rela
and she said that “ i cud but didn’t but want to”

How much more straightforward could I be?

You'd take money, or things from mentally handicapped people if they offered it to you, knowing they'll need it, later?!
At this time, you bullshyting, and knw it! You clearly get off on this drama/ convulted 'need to be' needed' & in control. Situation is unhealthy, all around ; and some find chaos entertaining, but the more you font and post txt msg, the more cringey it becomes.. think I met my limit of fukkery, today.

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

My favorite director

Breh... no comment. humans having sex with sea creatures.. do you breh, do you. I'm just an occasional lurker at this point. nothing to say.

 

[onelastdeath]

You'd take money, or things from mentally handicapped people if they offered it to you, knowing they'll need it, later?!
At this time, you bullshyting, and knw it! You clearly get off on this drama/ convulted 'need to be' needed' Situation is unhealthy, and others might be entertained, by chaos, but the more you font, and post txt msg, the more cringey it becomes.. think I met my limit of fukkery, today.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

You know what’s crazy? First date we went on we went out to see the shape of water in like December and the night ended with her asking what exactly I was looking for

And I swear to god I told her this

“ nothin too serious, jus tryna do my own thing, not in a rush to fall in love,”

AND THAT WAS IT

She heard you but she wasn't listening

Im actually shocked you never experienced this before. You can tell a chick you don't want nothing serious and think shyt is all good but a couple months of fukking her into her feelings then all that shyt is out the window.

Not to mention, you met the fam. Not only that, you met the fam on some personal shyt.

Meeting the fam of a fukk buddy is a no-no. Now if yall were just actual FRIENDS at first who happen to start fukking then thats ok, because yall both got the same mindset (but eventually someone catches feelings).

Just know, with damn near any female you fukk for a long period of time, feelings are going to get caught by somebody. Some females are going to try and trap you into a relationship as well (have you meeting family/kids on some spur of the moment, guilt, reverse psychology, etc.)

Ive even seen nikkas do this by getting a chick pregnant on purpose

Its a part of life honestly


Make a decision about her in the next few months AT THE MOST. No harm in dating her foreal because she sounds like she loves your dirty draws but if you still playing the field then fukk it, let her ride. Just letting you know, it will probably be the same with the next chick afterwhile if she really wants to be with you. If you don't want to be with her then let it burn

 

[onelastdeath]

Breh... no comment. humans having sex with sea creatures.. do you breh, do you. I'm just an occasional lurker at this point. nothing to say.

It’s a movie, and fantasy, does going to see the shape of water make me a c00n?

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

You'd take money, or things from mentally handicapped people if they offered it to you, knowing they'll need it, later?!
At this time, you bullshyting, and knw it! You clearly get off on this drama/ convulted 'need to be' needed' & in control. Situation is unhealthy, all around ; and some find chaos, entertaining, but the more you font, and post txt msg, the more cringey it becomes.. think I met my limit of fukkery, today.

Perfectly stated...(dap and rep) that's exactly where I'm at with this. Glad my situation is NOTHING like this and I know to avoid all signs of dysfunction. I can't deal- shyts fukking up my whole disposition, that when I know it's time for me to log off for the entirety of the rest of this day. (Like I don't have a job and other responsibilities but still messing around with this).

 

[O.T.I.S.]

Breh... no comment. humans having sex with sea creatures.. do you breh, do you. I'm just an occasional lurker at this point. nothing to say.

You really gonna judge him on watching a movie

Even I seen the movie (didn't care for it)... But so did hundreds of thousands of other people.

There's a whole thread on it in The Film Room

 

[onelastdeath]

She heard you but she wasn't listening

Im actually shocked you never experienced this before. You can tell a chick you don't want nothing serious and thibk shyt is good but a couple months of fukking her into her feelings then all that shyt is out the window.

Not to mention, you met the fam. Not only that, you met the fam on some personal shyt.

Meeting the fam of a fukk buddy is a no-no. Now if yall were just actual FRIENDS at first who happen to start fukking then thats ok, because yall both got the same mindset (but eventually someone catches feelings).

Just know, with damn near any female you fukk for a long period of time, feelings are going to get caught by somebody. Some females are going to try and trap you into a relationship as well (have you meeting family/kids on some spur of the moment, guilt, reverse psychology, etc.)

Its a part of life honestly


Make a decision about her in the next few months AT THE MOST. No harm in dating her foreal because she sounds like she loves your dirty draws but if you still playing the field then fukk it, let her ride. Just letting you know, it will probably be the same with the next chick afterwhile if she really wants to be with you. If you don't want to be with her then let it burn

I have dealt with this before, but not with someone like her. If I was looking for a rela right now, she’d Be ideal. Literally. But i been practicin self love and practicin being content with being alone

i really dont neeed her in my life as a gf and thats real . I don’t need no woman right now . I’m good on my lonesome . I’m Gud wakin up alone in my own bed . I’m gud with dinner for 1 watching Da game. IM comfortable As fukk.

and i get my intimacy needs taken care of my casually Datin and fukkin

she even said the first time we fukked that I fukk with passion and that’s on purpose to emulate the real thing. that’s jus where i am I want the best of both worlds . fukk settling down rn

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

It’s a movie, and fantasy, does going to see the shape of water make me a c00n?

... not necessarily. But meshing fantasy with reality is why you have the problems that you do. *ends my role in thread* *logs off*

 

[onelastdeath]

... no comment. But meshing fantasy with reality is why you have the problems that you do. *ends thread* *logs off*

Faux deep quote of the day