I am mixed. Dad is black and moms is white. When I was a child I knew a few other mixed kids , but not a lot. Now, I see mixed kids everywhere.
My kids school looks like that generated picture Nat Geo released of how kids will look in the future. Everyone in the school mixed.
I'm always interested in mixed blacks background...
Do you consider yourself black? Did you have your kids with a black woman? Also how old are you, where are your parents from, and where are you from? And your social circle, are the people closest to you black?
1. My two oldest daughters, their mother is 27, born and raised in North Carolina. Her parents were high school sweethearts both from NC. White mom, black dad, she considers herself
biracial BLACK. Emphasis on "black" because she does not fukk with not being considered a black woman---->she doesn't consider herself biracially "white" or identify with whiteness at all. If you ask her if she's "mixed", she's just as likely to say yes, as say "no, I'm black"...
That said, you can tell in certain aspects that she was raised by a white mother, it is what it is. she has 3 other sisters who have white moms (two by the same white mom), and she looks the closest to white of them all, if you saw my BM in passing, like at a stoplight or in a store, you'd probably take her for white. She has that Mariah Carey thing going on, you gotta be up on her to really see the blackness (she does have a typical wide black nose and dark freckles that black folk with freckles get, unlike the red or pink or orange freckles most white freckled folk have)...
In addition to her three sisters who also have white mothers, she has two sisters who have black American mothers, and two brothers and a sister who have a Belizean black mother (the Belizean chick looks like a dark Mexican but she definitely acts black
)...
BM's social circle, she's tightest with her mom. One of her sisters from her white mom is her tightest sibling, abd that sister "looks" more like a redbone sister but she married a white Puerto Rican, so she finna have some white ass kids. BM has a white homegirl she really tight with, and at least one other white friend, but the rest of her friends are black and her best friend from childhood is black. She been with a black dude for almost 4 years, both her kids are from me obviously, and in her own words she's never dated anything other than black men. Mentioning social circle and where she lives because I also think who people choose to live around and associate with has a ton of bearing on identity...
BM has more black homies than white homies, dates black, is closest to her black grandparents than white ones, and lives in an area that has plenty of blackness around her...
As for my kids with her, my girls live in a neighborhood that is about a third black (low-50s% white, 10% Hispanic) in Southeast Raleigh, and my daughter's elementary school is 50% black, 32% Hispanic, 14% white. If you just take away the specific neighborhood the girls live in, their general area is about a split between us, whites, and Hispanics, so my kids are growing up with exposure to alot of shyt. South Raleigh in general is 40% black (61% black in the Southeast, 21% black in the Southwest), so there's plenty of black culture around them. I live in North Raleigh, which is around 19% black, definitely more white people, fewer pockets of blackness. But not worried about my kids not growing up knowing people and culture that look like them. And their schools, I haven't seen this larger increase in "mixed" black kids than from when I was younger---->and I wasn't educated in NC...
I do think like everywhere else, in NC, my girls and their generation will date who they are around...
2. My youngest daughter's mom is 29, born in Brooklyn, went back and forth from NY to NC from 7 to 12, and has been in NC permanently the last 17 years, hasn't left. Her dad was born and raised in the Dominican Republic, immigrated to Harlem when he was 18 in '81; her mom was born here in NC in '65 but moved to Harlem when she was like 5, and spent all of her life in NY until she started coming back to NC in the early 00s and stayed for good in '06...
Her mom is regular black American. Her dad looks like Ice-T, slick back ponytail and all, basically like an old school high yella brother. He had her and 4 of her siblings with her black mom, and two of her siblings with a Mexican chick who looks typically Mexican...
BM identifies as black first, but will tell you she's "Dominican" or "mixed" if you catch her at the Spanish markets or of you ask her
but she doesn't lead off with an identity that she's "mixed', and in general she's pretty pro-black when I consider her opinions on various topics...
She also looks much more black than my first BM. She's red, but red like Beyonce and Solange, you couldn't really mistake her for anything other than black if you saw her in passing though her hair texture and certain lighting probably hint at Hispanic ancestry too. She definitely ain't got that Mariah, white-passing shyt my first BM has...
Her social circle is almost exclusively black. She has a white step-grandmother she tight with, as well as the white mom of one of her friends, but her friends her age are all black, and she says she's only ever dated black men (her two oldest kids are with a brother too). She has two aunts on her dad's side that she's tight with, older bright Dominican chicks, abd she has a homegirl she tight with who also a light bright Dominican but married a white boy. But everybody else around her is black...
She lives in North Fayetteville which is 51% black, and the general neighborhood BM lives in is like low-70s black, 20% white. My daughter goes to a daycare that is almost exclusively black, and BM's sons go to a school that is around 70% black. Like everything else I think mf's in my daughter's generation will date who is around them, but she's growing up in a smaller city in an almost entirely black world. The most white or Hispanic people my daughter see are when she's in Raleigh with me. Granted, this is the blackest part of Fayetteville, Fayetteville itself is 35% white and 13% Hispanic, so should BM ever move to a different area of town it could drastically change the faces and culture my daughter grows up around...
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I have an interest in this though, as growing up, I always saw mixed black kids gravitate more into blackness. As an adult jumping around I saw more of mixed black folk dating and socializing non-black, but it's always interesting to me to hear how and why mixed blacks identify as they do. The mixed blacks in my family kept it black (uncle who had all his kids with black women, he has a white mom; aunt with a white mom who had her son with a brother; etc)...