No, don’t get me wrong- of course that’s the natural course of things.
My issue with KS’s message was focusing on which women deserve what, and what women need to do to secure a “HVM”.
Regardless of race, there aren’t enough of them to go around. The focus should’ve always been on creating and maintaining healthy relationships and families where neither party feels used or abused.
If he’s making videos telling every childless woman 18-30 (whose looks are 8+, which we know isn’t the case looking at many successful men’s wives) to be fit, feminine, maintain a certain look, etc and she’s in the running for a “HVM” and EVERY SINGLE WOMAN does it- they all won’t be getting the man he is describing. THEN WHAT?? MOVE THE GOALPOST?
As a woman, I have my role, and as a man you have your role.
We have to have some serious conversations about why people do not want to play their part anymore.
No man wants to be unappreciated or used and solely desired for his money, just like no woman wants to contribute to a household financially, do all the housework and still have to worry about infidelity. Burnout is real on the job AND in the household. No one wants to feel like they are getting a raw deal.
Sometimes you get a raw deal if you don’t know how to pick the right partner, but that’s why the focus should’ve been on finding the right partner and not why you aren’t good enough for a “HVM”.
Yes, there are definitely some selfish people in the world, but there are people holding out because they are scared of the possible negative outcomes.
Your conflating several issues here. HVM are extremely limited in supply, if you focus on finances (magical $100k) it's roughly ~12% of American men. In a capitalistic system, where labor is exchange for profit this is not easy to obtain for long strides. Let's control for marriage, sexual preference, racial preference and/or what women deem important today - height and/or looks. What does that number look like now?
Ask yourself, why do most women feel entitled to one. (Something, something guarantees and freedom from working to survive)
KS shows has exposed women of several backgrounds from respectable backgrounds to less desirable what we men known all along - roughly 80% of women desire / want and realistically believe they can obtain the top ~12% of the men (from an income perspective). They came on his show, and we *found out* they did not want average men and/or men in the lower 80% by their answers about lifestyle. If they don't have one of these top men, they feel as if they settled. If they felt that way, then the men there are with tend not to be respected and held in high regard because she thinks she can do better. Divorce stats, looking at you right now. Outside from those in upper income, divorce for women negatively impact their finances - look at debt, and dire retirement accounts.
Imagine what that does on the mind of a man - wait most don't care about men issues. If a man told a woman, you know I could be with more attractive women, they would go crazy (hyperbole).
You did not settle as water seeks its own level. Women / men are with what they can get / retain.
That aside, most HVM are older (it's take time to acquire resources + establish a network) and met their spouses at a younger age when they were building. Your judging their spouses physical appearance as of today. Contrary to popular belief, men are not as heartless with women as women make them out to be. By your logic, those men should simply divorce and seek younger women. That would indeed fall into your narrative right?
Put it this way, men generally cherish women who were with them from the mud. However enter our lives when we are HV, then the price is significantly higher. You will overwhelmingly find the beauty requirement met (the age difference pronounced too). Also beauty from women in today's market is heavily inflated (makeup, surgeries, etc) and not worth the same as yesteryear while the income from these men is damn near at an all-time premium. You can easily fake one, and not necessarily the other (pandemic exposed most fragile lifestyles - a symptom of hyper capitalism in US).
It's no longer enough to be single, childless, and 8+ and there are no guarantees you'll be on HVM radars since most are married. Unless you want them to cheat with you for access to resources or worse leave what they have for you. This has been done before by hyper intentional women and it does take two to tango.
Infidelity is one issue that I struggle to understand from a women's point of view. As long as a man is not bringing outside children, diseases and public embarrassment (if few know, it is a nothing burger), is it the sharing of resources which you desire to horde for your and yours that is insulting to you. And no exercising options don't go both ways as double standards exists and are generally accepted.
Men don't like women infidelity because the chance of children not being his and the violation of his women, which we are seeing from these DNA tests is much higher than previously known. Women grasp at infidelity as if that is equal to be a man being used for his money. Roughly ~40% of men reproduced in human history. Surely infidelity from women ran rampant and some of these children are not by the men they proclaim. I find this personally to be extremely insulting and disrespectful.
A better equivalent is men desires sex + power and women want attention (received mainly from looks) + appreciation.
In any relationship (personal, financial, etc) power dynamics are at play. Someone (person, entity, etc) always have more leverage than the other. I don't understand why you think it has to be neutralized, this is the way of the world. Also, this reflects a possible underlying fear of yours in a relationship that you will be used and abused - whatever that means and you want a guarantee. You revealed that fear in your last sentence. Please ask yourself why are you in a scarcity mindset. What's the underlying insecurity, because something(s) is there where you feel as if you don't measure up to other women to retain the attention / appreciation from a man you deem worthy. Women or men that are competitive fret about such issues at a significantly lesser occurrence as they know they can attract + retain another man and make more money, respectively. We know most are not and prefer security - let's say men marry for guaranteed sex and women marry for guaranteed resources. Case in point, employees are used / abused on the daily. However, the outcome is compensation to offset it, right?
Men of a certain status can get the raw deal from relationships as marriage has been the greatest wealth transfer for women. Imagine that, not their own careers, investments and businesses. An association with the right man is how most wealth (I'll gander 95%+) is obtained for women. The problem is that there are few of these men and this is by design.
TLDR: There are few guarantees in life outside of death and taxes. Be competitive at all times to thrive or let's make a deal to survive.
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