After watching the video, and all the facts available to me, Ray Rice was wrong in this situation, i believe a Man or Woman have a right to defend themselves but what i saw was Ray Rice spit or yelled something in her ear first before they got in the elevator, and she slapped him with her backhand and walked in the elevator, then again inside he said something or spit again which cause her to react and come after him.
Not knowing what happened before all this i have to say from what i see the situation was escalated by Ray and its sad but he made that bed and he got to deal with the consequences. I believe in forgiving us black people because of what we been thru i'm not quick to judge my own kind with a heavy hand of jump unless it's something like senseless killing etc , but i'm not in charge of the case so whatever they do i'm cool with it.