Hmm, bar is too light for deads/squats and I bench with dumbbells - I'm not new to lifting, just been more on a moderate weight high reps (20) regimen, keeping the HR up to help burn more cals. So while that has definitely helped me preserve lean mass while losing weight, my next step is lifting heavy for strength...by the end up the year i wanna be able to do a pull-up dammit
That's fine but remember with strength training, never compromise form for ego lifting(adding more weight).
If you can complete the full range of motion, with perfect form then feel free to add more weight to your comfort.
I forgot to add, let's say you find a comfortable range of weight to load on to bar, after you've gone through your final set, now you can add a little more weight like 2.5 -5 pounds, then try for a one rep max. If you do this once a week, you muscles will begin to build tolerance for more.
Example:
bar is 45lbs
You add on 50 pounds as a comfortable range /working set.
So now you're lifting 95lbs
For your final set / one rep max, you add 2.5 pounds to each side.
Your final set weight for the one rep max is 100lbs....
Also don't worry about gaining massive muscles like a dude, when you see women with muscles like men its because they're on something, that's causing a hormonal imbalance. Your natural body fat range as a woman won't allow for your muscles to grow too defined, just toned up at best.
Oh yeah pullup are the goat exercise.
I would definitely see if your gym has a pullup assist machine and start with that.
But if you're going do pullups you should do dips as well. Alternating sets is
