Emperor Sol
Knowledge and Wisdom
Poor Knowledge. Nobody is going to read any of that and I can't say I myself am eager to read it either...
"It is not what I am saying that is hurting you; it is that you have wounds that I touch by what I have said.
You are hurting yourself.....
There is no way that I can take this personally, because I know that you see the world with different eyes, with your eyes. You create an entire picture or movie in your mind, and in that picture you are the director, you are the producer, you are the main actor or actress. Everyone else is a secondary actor or actress. It is your movie.
The way you see that movie is according to the agreements that you made with life. Your point of view is something personal to you. It is no ones truth but yours.
When you take things personally, then you feel offended, and your reaction is to defend your beliefs and create conflicts. You make something big out of something so little, because you have the need to be right and make everybody else wrong. You also try hard to be right by giving them your own opinions. In the same way, whatever you feel and do is just a projection of your own personal dream, a reflection of your own agreements. What you say, what you do, and the opinions you have are according to the agreements you have made.
Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves. All people live in their own dream, in their own mind; they are in a completely different world from the one we live in. When we take something personally, we make the assumption that they know what is in our world, and we try to impose our world on their world.
Others are going to have their own opinion according to their belief system, so nothing they think about me is really about me, but it is about them. Whatever you think, whatever you feel, I know is your problem. It is the way you see the world. It is nothing personal, because you are dealing with yourself, not with me.
You are never responsible for the actions of others; you are only responsible for you. When you truly understand this, and refuse to take things personally, you can hardly be hurt by the careless comments or actions of others."
The Four Agreements
~*Don Miguel Ruiz