Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[WIA20XX]

Think the problem is that I give off a corny vibe, I have kind of a monotone voice. Ngl, I say basic shyt like “yo how’s your night going”/ “you’re cute, I like your outfit”/ “yo I’m X what’s up” / “happy friday” shyt like that.

Compared to your boy who's bringing the party, it's easy to see why you're failing.

If you can't engage these broads on an emotional level, all you can do is "be yourself" and hope some broad understands your story (c) Nas.
Cats who do that end up with the mediocre chicks they work with, or are in their classes. Not the hot ones they work with/school with, the mediocre ones that get a long time of exposure. And by get, I mean girlfriend, not straight up sex, but all the baggage that comes with being a boyfriend to a 6.

Newsflash - You're already "being yourself" - and you're not getting the results you want.

YOU HAVE TO CHANGE.

You have to change who you are as a person.

I know cats don't want to hear it.
I know cats just want to keep saying the same BS that society tells em.

But you HAVE TO BECOME A DIFFERENT AND MORE INTERESTING PERSON.

Cats always want tweaks, tips, tricks, hacks - naw B, you gotta do the deep work necessary to get with these broads reliably.

I don't mean putting on an act, I don't mean pretending - I mean CHANGING.

Reliably starting good conversations is not some God Given Gift. It's a skill set, one that you have to learn. It's not a skill set most people have, but a lot of people do.

I'll give you one insight - chances are that you are an interesting and engaging person - you just don't know when and how to convey that, or how to do deal with people's reactions when you start being real. It's why you stick with BS like "How's it going, and Cute shoes". That safety first steez is not good. If you see guys doing that boring stuff - they have something else going on that engages chicks. Tall, Handsome, Dancer, Great Voice, Status, "Vibe" (which is his nonverbal body language and its effects on those around him), etc.

If boring conversation worked, everyone would be swimming in hoes.

Without more data, analyzing your general approach

• Nothing is wrong with your first couple of words
• What is wrong is YOUR EXPECTATION THAT SHE'S GONNA BE FEELING YOU FROM JUMP, that she's gonna want to chat from jump.

That's like dude at the sales lot saying, "Hey you like Camry's?"

FOH

A few chicks might be polite, might be cordial, some might humor you a bit by responding a little - but what you're saying and how you're acting isn't ENGAGING. And that's why you're failing.

You're not emotionally engaging - because you are stuck in particular mindset, which results in boring behaviors and habits.

 

[Ohene]

what are you into? what do you do? any hobbies?

ive always been of the mind that you find women doing what you normally do

same. my motto when it comes to women has always been "get it how you live"

 

[skyrunner1]

I’m like 0/100 lately.

I turn women off like a faucet. Makes zero sense tho, I stay clean, fresh breath, smelling good, dressed well, haircut, ect.

But as soon as I start talking women are like “nah”. Some get real disrespectful and standoffish too. Idk how tf that keeps happening cause I don’t have a disrespectful or confrontational energy. I usually approach at bars/clubs maybe outside the place too.

Think the problem is that I give off a corny vibe, I have kind of a monotone voice. Ngl, I say basic shyt like “yo how’s your night going”/ “you’re cute, I like your outfit”/ “yo I’m X what’s up” / “happy friday” shyt like that.

Like I’m a MASTER at turning women off, like if there was negative game I am an expert at that shyt.

I been going out for the past few months. Absolutely zero results.

I know a dude who pulls literally every time we go out. He pulls threesomes too and shyt. His entire game is going around and dancing with girls. That’s literally all he does. Other than that he doesn’t do anything special. Idk what it is about dude but women love him. I personally think he’s kind of annoying but hey I can’t hate the player.

I tried that shyt and women are like “nah” too. Like they don’t even wanna dance. And then a few mins later I see em dancing with random dudes

Reading this a couple things come to mind, you said 0/100 LATELY.. Did you used to have success before? What happened or changed, was it proximity, your status in certain location? Those things matter IF you got a certain set of results before and/or dont now.. What changed?

Also when I read post like this first thing that pop in mind is, maybe dude isnt self aware. Now with youtube seeing how people will present themselves gives you all you need to know in 30 sec that a long written post never will, man or women.. There have been times in video dudes come on flabbergasted why they cant get results and I can listen to their nervous tone or maybe autistic cadence and see they will miss basic social cues that no amount of "game" can help.. Or maybe how they present themselves, like when someone says they "dress well" does that mean they dress well for their target audience? These women are shallow with each other, so imagine how they will judge you.. Its hard to really pin down on message board you might need to ask your boy the tough questions or maybe a friend who you know wont BS.

Very limited what someone can tell you without important details, I can hear some of these brothers speak and they soo proper and square, that shyt is like anti game.. You DOA in certain circles.. Now I am not saying thats you just trying to offer food for thought and a different perspective

 

[360dagod]

The club game is basically "sparring"...

It's for practicing/gauging/ and hopefully building positive momentum for the outside world..

I'm more Tim Duncan than LeBron, so I know the Wall of Berlin isn't coming down fast

Which means your secondary game needs to be sharper than most..

Working out
Posture/poise
Conversation

 

[Rasille]

Coli vets I need a second pair of eyes on this one

Shorty DM'd me first and was being apprehensive about me getting to know her. Thing is, this is not the first time I've experienced this exact same scenario

A girl will initiate contact with me and still act like I'm asking for her Social Security Number when I was just want to get to know her, even IRL

Spoiler: DM 1

Spoiler: DM 2

Spoiler: DM 3

Spoiler: DM 4

Spoiler: DM 5

Spoiler: DM 6

Spoiler: DM 7

I don't think other handsome gang dudes got this kinda of problem so it must be something I'm doing

You should’ve moved past that favorite artist thing. No need to belabor the issue especially if she didn’t want to list artists. Besides that I see no major issues.

 

[jesc07]

I’m like 0/100 lately.

I turn women off like a faucet. Makes zero sense tho, I stay clean, fresh breath, smelling good, dressed well, haircut, ect.

But as soon as I start talking women are like “nah”. Some get real disrespectful and standoffish too. Idk how tf that keeps happening cause I don’t have a disrespectful or confrontational energy. I usually approach at bars/clubs maybe outside the place too...

Talk to the females that are staring you down. I used to approach women that I found attractive but now I'll usually holla at the ones eyeing me down cause then it doesn't matter what you say.

If you see em holding eye contact for awhile then that's a green light.

 

[bigde09]

Blew a phat load in my girl last week and she a few days late

I’m sorry breh

 

[Noriega]

I’m sorry breh

She’s on BC but her cycle usually comes like clockwork. Got us both shook

 

[VertigoKnight]

Women can ALWAYS sense when a man is unsure of himself and it’s their number 1 turnoff. Your confidence levels are low and they know it. improving your self esteem should be your number one priority. Basically just focus on yourself and women will come.

Pretty much this. I have a friend who I've mentioned in this thread his self-confidence is shot and the women he tries to get it popping with can feel that and they act accordingly. I've tried to guide him and help him but his going to have to work this through.

One thing women have said to me is they like how I'm clear about what I'm seeking, with no second guessing or unclear intentions. A lot of guys approach or meet women online and then mess up by not being clear. Or lying to try and get the buns.

You get a woman solid on your intentions and its easy mode at least for the initial encounters.

 

[Apollo Creed]

The club game is basically "sparring"...

It's for practicing/gauging/ and hopefully building positive momentum for the outside world..

I'm more Tim Duncan than LeBron, so I know the Wall of Berlin isn't coming down fast

Which means your secondary game needs to be sharper than most..

Working out
Posture/poise
Conversation

clubs are shytholes so if sparring you mean learning how to get hookups then cool but if "outside world" = actual genuine connections then no imo that is horrible advice.

I feel some places you flip your fukkery switch and others you treat diff/with more seriousness.

 

[98Ntu]

Women can ALWAYS sense when a man is unsure of himself and it’s their number 1 turnoff. Your confidence levels are low and they know it. improving your self esteem should be your number one priority. Basically just focus on yourself and women will come.

This advice should be seen as basic but it’s so essential and so many men fail to understand it.

Fellas work on yourselves until you find your confidence and sense of self. Women can smell desperation and insecurity from miles away. Low self esteem is woman-repellent

 

[John Reena]

I’m like 0/100 lately.

I turn women off like a faucet. Makes zero sense tho, I stay clean, fresh breath, smelling good, dressed well, haircut, ect.

But as soon as I start talking women are like “nah”. Some get real disrespectful and standoffish too. Idk how tf that keeps happening cause I don’t have a disrespectful or confrontational energy. I usually approach at bars/clubs maybe outside the place too.

Think the problem is that I give off a corny vibe, I have kind of a monotone voice. Ngl, I say basic shyt like “yo how’s your night going”/ “you’re cute, I like your outfit”/ “yo I’m X what’s up” / “happy friday” shyt like that.

Like I’m a MASTER at turning women off, like if there was negative game I am an expert at that shyt.

I been going out for the past few months. Absolutely zero results.

I know a dude who pulls literally every time we go out. He pulls threesomes too and shyt. His entire game is going around and dancing with girls. That’s literally all he does. Other than that he doesn’t do anything special. Idk what it is about dude but women love him. I personally think he’s kind of annoying but hey I can’t hate the player.

I tried that shyt and women are like “nah” too. Like they don’t even wanna dance. And then a few mins later I see em dancing with random dudes

U gotta smile, RELAX, get some charisma aka swagger and be charming. Women LOVE a confident man.

Plus, tryna approach n use pick up lines on broads in a noisy club ain’t gonna work. 1. It come across as corny n thirsty. 2. She not gonna hear you anyway in a noisy club.

Ya boy has the right idea. I used to do the same in my clubbing days. If u see a chick dancing in front of you, she keep looking back at you or her friend look back u multiple times, she giving u the greenlight to dance with her. After the song goes off, ask her for her name n number. In my club days, it worked 98% of the time.

 

[DJSmooth]

Went to a bar/party yesterday stood in one spot for an hour. Had two chicks keep bumping into me the entire time. Hung out with them the entire night after striking up a conversation.

Got a date with one of them next week.

 

[Ahadi]

I don’t think bw are in my future lol



They gotta be the biggest headache from hinge to real-life.

I’m on a 6 day pawg streak, joints want to make me breakfast and everything.

 

[MikelArteta]

I don’t think bw are in my future lol



They gotta be the biggest headache from hinge to real-life.

I’m on a 6 day pawg streak, joints want to make me breakfast and everything.