Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Ahadi]

I didn’t take into account the age gap of me and the majority of posts (late 20s - late 50s)

for a grown man to have his own place & car (+10 if it’s luxurious), a stable and lucrative career, and the time mgmt to engage in his hobbies, fitness, nutrition, and responsibilities … yeah nah

I was viewing it from my perspective: college student still at his mamas crib with a semester left to graduate and internships under his belt. I virtually have all the time in the world to do literally whatever I want to improve myself, so to me those attributes ain’t sound extreme.

Reason why I usually keep quiet in this thread

The car depends on where you live.

I’m a transplant so a lot of the women I’ve dealt with (to my surprise) didn’t get mad or turned off when I said I didn’t have one. I usually receive a “good for you, I wish I didn’t have to pay this off” or “that makes sense”

But as for the age thing, I didn’t believe it when OGs would say “trust me when you get older, you’ll eat”

I was eating somewhat in college due to (photography/party promoting) but in my 29-30 age era today, it’s just coming together so easily and these are women ages 20-30+ (especially 30+) they see you like some kind of unicorn. A black man with his ish together.

 

[Ohene]

Men have spent decades examining their flaws. So much so, they create flaws out of thin air for them to fix rather than assume the woman is on some bullshyt. So much so, other Men are like guard dogs checking each other to “stay in line”

It’s borderline whiny when brehs continue to speak on it w/o any actions, but they’re on point to say the shyt we seeing out here rn is glaring.

1000000%

 

[Action Mike]

This is insightful

 

[Atlrocafella]

Just dropped in to say these heauxs still broke, and I’m still up.

 

[Serious]

I’m

Wont be couples for long once it gets warm

 

[Serious]

Am I the only one who gets mad when women who don't look good are stuck up and do straight up mean shyt? One of my homeboys just got blocked after this girl he met on hinge got home from their date or whatever. She started some dumb argument with him over text and said he was gaslighting her. I saw the whole text thread

He said sorry when it wasn't his fault. She blocked him. Like bytch you aren't even bad


It wouldnt make it right if she was gorgeous. But it just irritates me when unattractive women do the ugliest low character things to people as if they're below them

Women are women.

If I’m going deal with bs. It might as well be from an attractive woman.

Less attractive have been way more problematic in my book, as well as had higher expectations

 

[Ahadi]

at first I used to swipe no but then realized all women are weird on these apps. so I just swipe based on pics and then if we match read the profile afterwards. I also don't message first.

Great advice.

I started letting em hit me up. WAY better results. Plus it shows higher level interest.

In your opinion, when it’s “their turn” how long do you leave the chat there?

 

[Apollo Creed]

Great advice.

I started letting em hit me up. WAY better results. Plus it shows higher level interest.

In your opinion, when it’s “their turn” how long do you leave the chat there?

I usually have a 1 week window once i response to a chick (cause im usually the one sitting back after she initially reaches out since im passively on this).

So after i response if i dont hear back within that window i assume she already got dudes lined up she actively dating and just un match.

If i was more active then id be responding the day they hit me up which im turn means i expect them to reply back sooner too.

 

[Hacksaw Jim Thuggin]

that , and you have to be manipulative. at some point one or some will want exclusivity and you will have to string them along or lie

even when I had a gf I would bag and chat to women to keep a one-two as a back up but they would always wanna go out, do stuff , come over etc. So slowly they would fade to oblivion

exactly....no matter WHAT they say the majority of women will not be cool with casual sex for long....they gonna want commitment

 

[Hacksaw Jim Thuggin]

what do yall think of this?

i agree with what he's saying...thinking back over my life ALL of my relationships were doomed from the jump for the very reason he speaks on

 

[King]

I’m like 0/100 lately.

I turn women off like a faucet. Makes zero sense tho, I stay clean, fresh breath, smelling good, dressed well, haircut, ect.

But as soon as I start talking women are like “nah”. Some get real disrespectful and standoffish too. Idk how tf that keeps happening cause I don’t have a disrespectful or confrontational energy. I usually approach at bars/clubs maybe outside the place too.

Think the problem is that I give off a corny vibe, I have kind of a monotone voice. Ngl, I say basic shyt like “yo how’s your night going”/ “you’re cute, I like your outfit”/ “yo I’m X what’s up” / “happy friday” shyt like that.

Like I’m a MASTER at turning women off, like if there was negative game I am an expert at that shyt.

I been going out for the past few months. Absolutely zero results.

I know a dude who pulls literally every time we go out. He pulls threesomes too and shyt. His entire game is going around and dancing with girls. That’s literally all he does. Other than that he doesn’t do anything special. Idk what it is about dude but women love him. I personally think he’s kind of annoying but hey I can’t hate the player.

I tried that shyt and women are like “nah” too. Like they don’t even wanna dance. And then a few mins later I see em dancing with random dudes

 

[International Playa]

I’m like 0/100 lately.

I turn women off like a faucet. Makes zero sense tho, I stay clean, fresh breath, smelling good, dressed well, haircut, ect.

But as soon as I start talking women are like “nah”. Some get real disrespectful and standoffish too. Idk how tf that keeps happening cause I don’t have a disrespectful or confrontational energy. I usually approach at bars/clubs maybe outside the place too.

Think the problem is that I give off a corny vibe, I have kind of a monotone voice. Ngl, I say basic shyt like “yo how’s your night going”/ “you’re cute, I like your outfit”/ “yo I’m X what’s up” / “happy friday” shyt like that.

Like I’m a MASTER at turning women off, like if there was negative game I am an expert at that shyt.

I been going out for the past few months. Absolutely zero results.

I know a dude who pulls literally every time we go out. He pulls threesomes too and shyt. His entire game is going around and dancing with girls. That’s literally all he does. Other than that he doesn’t do anything special. Idk what it is about dude but women love him. I personally think he’s kind of annoying but hey I can’t hate the player.

I tried that shyt and women are like “nah” too. Like they don’t even wanna dance. And then a few mins later I see em dancing with random dudes

Try online dating & try having a few platonic female friends.

Platonic female friends elevated my game to a higher level. It improved my communication & understanding women.

 

[King]

Try online dating & try having a few platonic female friends.

Platonic female friends elevated my game to a higher level. It improved my communication & understanding women.

Online dating hasn’t worked at all. Too many weird ass women with mental issues. Flaking, ghosting, all that BS.

Friends could help tho. Idk there was a period where I had mostly female friends and it didn’t make me smoother or anything.

 

[Ahadi]

Sounds like a dry spell

 

[The ADD]

I’m like 0/100 lately.

I turn women off like a faucet. Makes zero sense tho, I stay clean, fresh breath, smelling good, dressed well, haircut, ect.

But as soon as I start talking women are like “nah”. Some get real disrespectful and standoffish too. Idk how tf that keeps happening cause I don’t have a disrespectful or confrontational energy. I usually approach at bars/clubs maybe outside the place too.

Think the problem is that I give off a corny vibe, I have kind of a monotone voice. Ngl, I say basic shyt like “yo how’s your night going”/ “you’re cute, I like your outfit”/ “yo I’m X what’s up” / “happy friday” shyt like that.

Like I’m a MASTER at turning women off, like if there was negative game I am an expert at that shyt.

I been going out for the past few months. Absolutely zero results.

I know a dude who pulls literally every time we go out. He pulls threesomes too and shyt. His entire game is going around and dancing with girls. That’s literally all he does. Other than that he doesn’t do anything special. Idk what it is about dude but women love him. I personally think he’s kind of annoying but hey I can’t hate the player.

I tried that shyt and women are like “nah” too. Like they don’t even wanna dance. And then a few mins later I see em dancing with random dudes

Are bars and clubs the only places you approach? If so then you are approaching them in a situation where they assume sex is absolute top reason you are engaging. If they aren’t attracted you are going to hit those dry spells.

Try approaching outside those situation where you can build some type of rapport in a non-nightlife situation.