Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[John Reena]

Anyways, went out this weekend in AZ for a mini vacation. Got rejected like 80+ times. Didn’t do anything or meet up with any women. They weren’t feeling me in the venues or outside. Really pushed myself to talk to any women I found attractive.

Tried to apply some of the advice I got earlier. Got 2 numbers and an IG that went nowhere. They didn’t respond.

Stayed to the brutal end too. Out at 3-4am every night still trying to approach. That shyt wore on me. I try not to let shyt affect me but at this point. I’m just over here like

Even worse was being out and seeing dudes you know you look better than having all these good ass interactions with fine women. Meanwhile I’m intentionally putting myself out there getting nothing.

Feel like I wasted my time, overall the only thing I can commend myself on is that I didn’t give up. And in retrospect I’ve had many nights like this and years later I’m still subjecting myself to this bullshyt because I continue to push myself to go after what I want.

Idk man. I kept thinking to myself that I have to reinvent the wheel and do something different but idk. Nothing worked.

U coming across as desperate. Women smell that a mile away. Just relax and be cool.

 

[Apollo Creed]

A woman told me she thought divorce was normal and never viewed marriage as a lifetime thing because she witnessed her mother get divorced so many times.

any dude getting married in 2023 is an idiot. We in the Girlfriend era now.

 

[WIA20XX]

Yeah but how do I do that. You gave the what, but no how. You say it’s a skillset, how do I build the skills.

How do I become emotionally engaging? How do I change my mindset?

Hell, especially at night it’s hard as fukk to keep their attention. Let alone talk to em at night with all the shyt going on.

Honestly, I don't know if you're "hard" case or not, but acknowledging that your game has problems is the first part.

Lemme ask you this, can you get into a small talk type conversation with ANYONE you meet - girls, women, kids, teenagers, old people, cops, cashiers, bus driver, etc?

Because that's the underlying skill set for shooting the gift with broads.

If you can't small talk - you gotta break that apart into its components

• Assessment of them
• Acknowledgment of your own emotions and body language
• Approach
• Topics - With females - Food, Music, Popular People, Dating, Relationships, and finally Sex
• Delivery - Are you shaking like a leaf? Are you rushing through your words? Are you making eye contact? Are you purposefully not making eye contact?
• Reaction - How is she reacting? How are you reacting to her reaction?
• Improvisation - Are you talking about things that allow you to improvise?
• ETC

Without having a the play by play on "80 girls" - I can't do more than point you in this direction.

That said, pat yourself on the back, most guys would kill themselves after approaching 80 girls in a weekend and not getting any traction.

That alone tells me you have the foundation to be GREAT.

 

[The ADD]

Also 80 women in a weekend only in nightlife situations.

#How

 

[WIA20XX]

Also 80 women in a weekend only in nightlife situations.

#How

If you hit the spot at 10:30 and stay till 2, and it's mostly anonymous, you can talk to 40 chicks, especially if the conversations don't go anywhere.

• Say guh, say guy...
• Say big legs, say big legs, lemme hollatcha
• Redbone, Redbone...come talk to a player...

 

[Ohene]

Anyways, went out this weekend in AZ for a mini vacation. Got rejected like 80+ times. Didn’t do anything or meet up with any women. They weren’t feeling me in the venues or outside. Really pushed myself to talk to any women I found attractive.

Tried to apply some of the advice I got earlier. Got 2 numbers and an IG that went nowhere. They didn’t respond.

Stayed to the brutal end too. Out at 3-4am every night still trying to approach. That shyt wore on me. I try not to let shyt affect me but at this point. I’m just over here like

Even worse was being out and seeing dudes you know you look better than having all these good ass interactions with fine women. Meanwhile I’m intentionally putting myself out there getting nothing.

Feel like I wasted my time, overall the only thing I can commend myself on is that I didn’t give up. And in retrospect I’ve had many nights like this and years later I’m still subjecting myself to this bullshyt because I continue to push myself to go after what I want.

Idk man. I kept thinking to myself that I have to reinvent the wheel and do something different but idk. Nothing worked.

how do you approach them? my bad if you already said it

iunno. to get 0 success out of that many approaches is kinda astounding. what works for me is just being direct and to the pt

hey, i saw you and I thought you were really pretty. would love to get to know you some time...you from around here? blah blah. let me get your number

but i dont do clubs, i meet women in broad daylight / on road. at the gym, grocery stores, subways etc. anywhere but clubs pretty much. my style isnt conducive to clubs

 

[WIA20XX]

how do you approach them? my bad if you already said it

iunno. to get 0 success out of that many approaches is kinda astounding. what works for me is just being direct and to the pt

hey, i saw you and I thought you were really pretty. would love to get to know you some time...you from around here? blah blah. let me get your number

That sounds like basically what he's doing.
And if you're doing numbers like that, you're gonna get some statistical amount of success. 3#s out of 80 is actually not bad.

That said, In my experience - being direct and upfront just pushes the girl to make a decision based on 5 seconds of information.

 

[The ADD]

If you hit the spot at 10:30 and stay till 2, and it's mostly anonymous, you can talk to 40 chicks, especially if the conversations don't go anywhere.

• Say guh, say guy...
• Say big legs, say big legs, lemme hollatcha
• Redbone, Redbone...come talk to a player...

Yeah but then that seems to also be part of the problem. Sounds like OP is just putting up shots to get in shots.

Also don’t know how end goal so if it’s just something casual then maybe that is right approach

 

[RaspberryFitted]

All women are like this breh.

There’s validity in what he’s saying specifically for our community

 

[Ohene]

That sounds like basically what he's doing.
And if you're doing numbers like that, you're gonna get some statistical amount of success. 3#s out of 80 is actually not bad.

That said, In my experience - being direct and upfront just pushes the girl to make a decision based on 5 seconds of information.

word. That approach isnt going to work in a club though. Too much noise and barriers around, plus too many other men approaching. The element of surprise/catching a girl off guard is important. i will build deeper connections if the situation permits, if there is something around us that i can use to stimulate a real convo. But if its a random girl walking past me or sumn i'll be straight up with it.

issue could be non-verbal. Whether its his appearance, smile/demeanor, voice, confidence etc. Women tell me I am good looking and they love my voice. Plus I tend to truly believe I can bag any women I come across and that If i dont it is her loss. It sucks cause its very arbitrary but i guess some have "it" and some dont.

3 out of 80 is bad if none go anywhere. I think one should be able to get a number for every 5 women they approach and prolly make good progress with 1 in every 10 women they approah (be it smashing, a few good dates, a relationship or whatever)

 

[WIA20XX]

Yeah but then that seems to also be part of the problem. Sounds like OP is just putting up shots to get in shots.

Also don’t know how end goal so if it’s just something casual then maybe that is right approach

I am very opinionated on the topic, and I think it's the wrong approach.

But when 60% of the dudes hollering do that, and some see success with it, I'm not mad at them.

 

[Ohene]

If you hit the spot at 10:30 and stay till 2, and it's mostly anonymous, you can talk to 40 chicks, especially if the conversations don't go anywhere.

• Say guh, say guy...
• Say big legs, say big legs, lemme hollatcha
• Redbone, Redbone...come talk to a player...

by the time you talk to girl #5 though, every woman in the club has peeped what time youre on.

in a club/party setting (even a house party) a man has to be selective

 

[Apollo Creed]

Yeah but then that seems to also be part of the problem. Sounds like OP is just putting up shots to get in shots.

Also don’t know how end goal so if it’s just something casual then maybe that is right approach

These nikkas live miserable lives lmfao

Who the fukk goes out just to try and talk to 100 random ass hoes?

nikkas glorfify bum ass hoes more than they do God lmfao. Any bytch im a club is a fukking bum

 

[The ADD]

I am very opinionated on the topic, and I think it's the wrong approach.

But when 60% of the dudes hollering do that, and some see success with it, I'm not mad at them.

Seems like it but hard to say without knowing what he really is aiming for in regards to a result.

 

[Ohene]

heres a gem i actually wish I knew when i was younger.

dont go to the club and talk to the girls there. you are better off waiting until the end of the night (2-3AM) when people are starting to leave the club and are looking for motives