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what happaned breh
Repeated bouts of insecurity and jealousy from me which lead to arguments and whatnot has basically caused her to want to "take time to think." She said she felt like I was controlling and possessive. it's because I've been way too insecure and end up talking myself in a less attractive way.
 

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Repeated bouts of insecurity and jealousy from me which lead to arguments and whatnot has basically caused her to want to "take time to think." She said she felt like I was controlling and possessive. it's because I've been way too insecure and end up talking myself in a less attractive way.

honeymoon period is over, don't say anything until she contacts you again and they always do
 

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About how I feel, depends on the type of ink work, how much/many and where.

I saw a nice looking woman earlier today. I see her every once in a while in passing actually, and noticed today she has a chest tat (weather is warmer/open shirt)

Left me :ohhh: all day trying to figure out if it's dope or not. I doubt I could rock with her at a Tux and gown type of affair though:francis:

She's pretty as hell though on some blaxploitation Pam Grier 70's shyt.

many people when younger do stupid things, why I said a case by case, like a tat on the wrist, hell my supervisor has one and shes married with two kids and down to earth, some tramp stamp well :kony:
 

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Never be too available,sometimes if you have to disappear in a relationship do it,if your not busy act like you are.I'm not saying lie.Remember this: no one should know your pattern.You a 're a grown man not a boy.You don't report to anyone not even a wife (still love and respect her).As a man you set the tone and you are the leader.Your word is your action.
 

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Never be too available,sometimes if you have to disappear in a relationship do it,if your not busy act like you are.I'm not saying lie.Remember this: no one should know your pattern.You a 're a grown man not a boy.You don't report to anyone not even a wife (still love and respect her).As a man you set the tone and you are the leader.Your word is your action.


best way to be unavailable and really be unavailable is to either put your phone on silent and do work (i.e. side business), or go on dozens of dates (do this only if ur main girl isn't acting right - but even if she is acting right, still keep ur options open so if sh1t happens u aint gon sitting at home crying from lack-of-having-side-pieces)
 

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best way to be unavailable and really be unavailable is to either put your phone on silent and do work (i.e. side business), or go on dozens of dates (do this only if ur main girl isn't acting right - but even if she is acting right, still keep ur options open so if sh1t happens u aint gon sitting at home crying from lack-of-having-side-pieces)
If that's ya style.Whats funny is,women do same thing,they always seem to have a dude on backup or something :heh: I was thinking mainly other hobbies.
 

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Brehs, been seeing this amazing woman for several months now. The girl loves me like no other has. Wants to marry me and everything. I just feel cold inside brehs. She knows it too. It's hard for me to emote sometimes. No, often. Stoicism is my fall-back trait in nearly all situations. I blame it on having a hard upbringing but she's had a tough one too. She can't read me and assumes the worst in me. I want to change but I don't know if I can. I'm afraid of losing her.

What should I do?

Just a young brother seeking advice :to:
 

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Never be too available,sometimes if you have to disappear in a relationship do it,if your not busy act like you are.I'm not saying lie.Remember this: no one should know your pattern.You a 're a grown man not a boy.You don't report to anyone not even a wife (still love and respect her).As a man you set the tone and you are the leader.Your word is your action.

This shyt is so true :banderas: I'm actually really busy all the time so it works out perfectly for me
Got 2 broads asking me when I'm free this week/weekend, told them :camby: cuz I have to study this week and the weekend is mothers day weekend.
By the time I do become available they feel grateful that I'm taking time out of my schedule for them :smugdraper:
I know for a fact if I was asking them out all the time they'd be like :mjpls: I'm busy :sas2:
 

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I hit this big booty thing today and I had this bytch p*ssy looking swollen?


I was :jawalrus: but at the same time creeped out
 

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Brehs, been seeing this amazing woman for several months now. The girl loves me like no other has. Wants to marry me and everything. I just feel cold inside brehs. She knows it too. It's hard for me to emote sometimes. No, often. Stoicism is my fall-back trait in nearly all situations. I blame it on having a hard upbringing but she's had a tough one too. She can't read me and assumes the worst in me. I want to change but I don't know if I can. I'm afraid of losing her.

What should I do?

Just a young brother seeking advice :to:
Keep working on yourself and don't change for nobody

I heard this one quote that says that "women like men whose feelings are unclear"
 

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honeymoon period is over, don't say anything until she contacts you again and they always do
I just felt like things were going this direction. Too often I'd get into a "question, question question, doubt doubt doubt" insecure rant from something so petty like an IMAGINED thought. I guess it happened too much and she got tired of it. She started saying we'll just be friends and we can still talk yadda yadda. She said she felt I was too controlling or restrictive(which I wasn't trying to be but it came off like I am like that.)


I told her it'd feel weird to suddenly just be friends but still communicate in a relationship like manner. She didn't text me yesterday which makes it the first time in months where she didn't even send a good morning text. The most hurtful thing she said was that she don't think she can marry me(which left me like :patrice: :mjcry: :patrice: :dwillhuh:).

The other problem was all these convos happen over text so there are often miscommunication going on where she misinterprets something I said. Idk..... Such a petty way to end things(at least atm.)
 
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Remember what I said above?

Be careful because women can turn cold just like that.

I wouldn't be shocked if there I'd another guy garnering her attention. I've been there, now you sit around and check your phone. You see her sign in on Skype update her instagram but she won't talk yo you anymore.

Trust me when I say eject. Save yourself!! When someone shows you who they are believe them.

When a woman drops the friend or great friend gibberish after sleeping with you and calling you sweet names. It sucks it hurts but you can deal with the pain all st once or drip by drip.

Cut the cord don't initiate don't say anything


I just felt like things were going this direction. Too often I'd get into a "question, question question, doubt doubt doubt" insecure rant from something so petty like an IMAGINED thought. I guess it happened too much and she got tired of it. She started saying we'll just be friends and we can still talk yadda yadda. She said she felt I was too controlling or restrictive(which I wasn't trying to be but it came off like I am like that.)


I told her it'd feel weird to suddenly just be friends but still communicate in a relationship like manner. She didn't text me yesterday which makes it the first time in months where she didn't even send a good morning text. The most hurtful thing she said was that she don't think she can marry me(which left me like :patrice: :mjcry: :patrice: :dwillhuh:).
 

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Remember what I said above?

Be careful because women can turn cold just like that.

I wouldn't be shocked if there I'd another guy garnering her attention. I've been there, now you sit around and check your phone. You see her sign in on Skype update her instagram but she won't talk yo you anymore.

Trust me when I say eject. Save yourself!! When someone shows you who they are believe them.

When a woman drops the friend or great friend gibberish after sleeping with you and calling you sweet names. It sucks it hurts but you can deal with the pain all st once or drip by drip.

Cut the cord don't initiate don't say anything
Everytime I'd tell her she probably has someone else she's talking to, she'd get even more annoyed and start telling me she is not and that she hates when I say that because she says I don't believe anything she says and honestly there isn't anyway to know eitherway.... :yeshrug:

It isn't like she got cold on me from out of nowhere.. This little arguments(Which honestly came as a result of me being insecure and sometimes petty). It's far too much details to include here but it wasn't like she just started getting distant over time. The main thing that triggered this was one time a week or so ago, she told me she was going out with her best friend. A few hours later she text me when she was home and she told me she went to eat and then to a cafe and met some tourists.

. She told me about some lady and others. I went on Instagram and saw a picture she posted of her, her best friend and two tourists sitting at a table drinking and that was that. I got all :stopitslime: and was like "Who the heck is this!?" and she got mad because she said I was being controlling and stuff and that she was with her friend and those two guys are foreign tourists and she told me about them blah blah. I kept ranting about how those guys are probably hitting on them and since they're drinking it's easier to do something blah blah.

It led to an argument where she felt like I was imposing some strictness on her social life and she thinks it's nothing to be out with her friend and if some guys are there it's nothing. That night and the week after is when she started to talk about being friends instead because prior to that I always would rant or say something which made her feel stifled and unable to do anything without hurting me. The picture wasn't anything provactive or anything, just 4 people at a table sitting across from each other but I took it further. Smh. I know you're thinking "Those dudes proabbly got their dikk sucked in a car or something!" lol but yeah..... What she told me that night matched up with her actions online as her best friend instagram had the same picture and same thing. It was really nothing serious.

As for the signing on Skype, posting online but not texting me thing.. she didn't say she'l text me at a certain time. She pretty much just was on some ":mjcry: I need time I'll talk to you later.."

Either way, fukk it.
 
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