Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

Yup its the old script chicks run, having you think its you or something you did. When in reality it'd someone new or the novelty wears off and they don't view you on that light anymore.

she is tossing you to the bushes oh well you live and learn . I made same mistake with couple of chicks last year ,a female should always feel uncertain inside

 

[MikelArteta]

And if the roles were reversed and you were out with two chicks, you think if she felt for you the way you did for her she would be oh OK and all that?

This is the thing with women breh, some men woke up today to their wives telling em they want out etc., all you can do is read the signs and save your dignity.

 

[MikelArteta]

Why mourn for those who know longer view you as a priority and are no longer in your life?

This goes for both genders that 99.9% of people you will ever deal with on a emotional / romantic level in your life are seasonal. Seasonal in the sense that they have a expiry date, some may be after one date, maybe a week, a few months, a few years but they all have a expiry date. How many people still talk to their first boyfriend or girlfriend, first person you kissed, first love, first crush or even friends you grew up with of the opposite gender. I can sit back and look at my life and think of all the women who uttered phrases that they love me, care about me, appreciate me, that talked about the future and well where are they now?

They were just seasonal people in my life. I used to sit back and sometimes be frustrated, disappointed, sad and a range of other emotions but then as time went on I realized it's for the best. If someone doesn't view me as valuable well then they don't deserve a second of me thinking about them. Why fight through the thrones of drama trying to make a seasonal person permanent?

Have respect for yourself, you don't worry about that expired sour tasting milk in the fridge right? you just pour it down the drain and pick up another one whenever your ready.

 

[Fatboi1]

And if the roles were reversed and you were out with two chicks, you think if she felt for you the way you did for her she would be oh OK and all that?

This is the thing with women breh, some men woke up today to their wives telling em they want out etc., all you can do is read the signs and save your dignity.

She said said she'd be fine with it.

 

[Fatboi1]

Again your blaming yourself, funny how before you met her and were planning you could do no wrong, but now.

Would you say my actions were absolutely A Ok?

 

[MikelArteta]

Because she doesn't have those feelings for you breh.

When a woman doesn't Carr if your out and about with other chicks its game over

She said said she'd be fine with it.

 

[MikelArteta]

I wouldn't have reacted that way but everyone is different. Like I always say focus on the what not the why. She was out giggling and having a good time with other men, she wants space. She's distancing herself. It doesn't matter what you did, all paths led to the same destination.

If you were laid back and non chalant she would prob think you didn't care. See my point?

This is how it is with many women, one day wife and kids planning for the future, next day needing space and you don't exist.

Would you say my actions were absolutely A Ok?

 

[Fatboi1]

I wouldn't have reacted that way but everyone is different. Like I always say focus on the what not the why. She was out giggling and having a good time with other men, she wants space. She's distancing herself. It doesn't matter what you did, all paths led to the same destination.

If you were laid back and non chalant she would prob think you didn't care. See my point?

This is how it is with many women, one day wife and kids planning for the future, next day needing space and you don't exist.

She was with her best friend and they met some tourists... I wouldn't say She went out looking for men..

 

[MikelArteta]

Just remmener all the time you wasted with your ex breh, if there is anything I hope you learned is don't waste time on those who don't deserve it.

Right now your just there like a homeless man in line at a shelter even willing to accept 5 day old gruel and breadcrumbs.

She was with her best friend and they met some tourists... I wouldn't say She went out looking for men..

 

[Fatboi1]

Just remmener all the time you wasted with your ex breh, if there is anything I hope you learned is don't waste time on those who don't deserve it.

Right now your just there like a homeless man in line at a shelter even willing to accept 5 day old gruel and breadcrumbs.

shyt kind of sucks...
If she hits me up, I'm willing to bet it'll be some "good morning" text like she usually sends. I wonder how I should respond?? shyt feels weird as hell..

 

[MikelArteta]

They always come back, attention is a woman's currency, i woild just act normal.

Example a chick I haven't spoken to in 5 weeks text me the other day, I didn't ask why, bring up long time.

I just said hey we talked for a while and that was it.

I just don't care

shyt kind of sucks...
If she hits me up, I'm willing to bet it'll be some "good morning" text like she usually sends. I wonder how I should respond?? shyt feels weird as hell..

 

[Fatboi1]

They always come back, attention is a woman's currency, i woild just act normal.

Example a chick I haven't spoken to in 5 weeks text me the other day, I didn't ask why, bring up long time.

I just said hey we talked for a while and that was it.

I just don't care

That's different since it's just a regular chick. I've had chicks not hit me up for the longest and I don't care. I'm not dating them or w/e. I'm talking about one you were serious with. In my case, she wasn't just some chick i was talking to on and off..

. I think I'll just not even really say anything and if she brings up friends I'll tell her I don't care and whatnot. I mean I didn't expect her to be around forever but it felt quick.

 

[MikelArteta]

Meh same thing

Things that start fast usually end fast, just take your lumps

That's different since it's just a regular chick. I've had chicks not hit me up for the longest and I don't care. I'm not dating them or w/e. I'm talking about one you were serious with. In my case, she wasn't just some chick i was talking to on and off..

. I think I'll just not even really say anything and if she brings up friends I'll tell her I don't care and whatnot. I mean I didn't expect her to be around forever but it felt quick.

 

[MikelArteta]

Just think your here all , sad frustrated angry disappointed, lump in chest appetite gone. Probably just want to lie in bed. Shes out there with and your just in the back of her mind

 

[TRUEST]

Everytime I'd tell her she probably has someone else she's talking to, she'd get even more annoyed and start telling me she is not and that she hates when I say that because she says I don't believe anything she says and honestly there isn't anyway to know eitherway....

It isn't like she got cold on me from out of nowhere.. This little arguments(Which honestly came as a result of me being insecure and sometimes petty). It's far too much details to include here but it wasn't like she just started getting distant over time. The main thing that triggered this was one time a week or so ago, she told me she was going out with her best friend. A few hours later she text me when she was home and she told me she went to eat and then to a cafe and met some tourists.

. She told me about some lady and others. I went on Instagram and saw a picture she posted of her, her best friend and two tourists sitting at a table drinking and that was that. I got all and was like "Who the heck is this!?" and she got mad because she said I was being controlling and stuff and that she was with her friend and those two guys are foreign tourists and she told me about them blah blah. I kept ranting about how those guys are probably hitting on them and since they're drinking it's easier to do something blah blah.

It led to an argument where she felt like I was imposing some strictness on her social life and she thinks it's nothing to be out with her friend and if some guys are there it's nothing. That night and the week after is when she started to talk about being friends instead because prior to that I always would rant or say something which made her feel stifled and unable to do anything without hurting me. The picture wasn't anything provactive or anything, just 4 people at a table sitting across from each other but I took it further. Smh. I know you're thinking "Those dudes proabbly got their dikk sucked in a car or something!" lol but yeah..... What she told me that night matched up with her actions online as her best friend instagram had the same picture and same thing. It was really nothing serious.

As for the signing on Skype, posting online but not texting me thing.. she didn't say she'l text me at a certain time. She pretty much just was on some " I need time I'll talk to you later.."

Either way, fukk it.

ok dude. listen to me. there's hope here. but u need to start dating other women immediately. like NOW. like right this moment. like, RIGHT NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and dont tell her u are. just keep yourself busy.

see, us men, our biggest problem is this. some of us really dont like hunting for women. some say they do but its bs. its too much work. so when we find a woman we like and who likes us back, we stop hitting on other women and we just stop searching in general.

however, u goto understand. women dont need to hit on men. if they're pretty enough or have anything appealing about them, they get hit on regularly....especially if they're an outgoing bunch.

so what can u, as a man (a regular man), do to safeguard your heart from these demonic episodes of jealousy? you must keep your time occupied. it'll be hella difficult to find the time to be stalking someone's social media when u've got 9 conversations on your phone u have to keep up with different girls.

and stop hitting this girl up. she already ended things on some lets be friends type things. and u just admitted that u clearly fuccked up by being too damn needy and controlling. so to a girl like that, who broke things up because of this, THE VERY FIRST THING U CAN DO TO CONFUSE HER IS TO GIVE HER DEAD SILENCE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

i know its gonna be difficult. but stop all communication. whenever she hits u up after a couple of days or whatever, be like

"hey, great to hear from u. when are you free to get together?". if she gives u a bs answer or something that isn't straight forward, be like

"cool, why dont u get back in touch with me whenever your schedule frees up. it was really great hearing from u. keep in touch." then end it.

learn to control yourself man!