Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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another thing i wanted to add to the bolded.. how do they know you're 'inexperienced'?
are you telling these broads you've only been with 3 women? :usure: they should only find this out after you've orgasmed no homo, and you already won by then. even if they diss u and tell u they dont want to see u after, you already got what you wanted :banderas:
i haven't read back many pages, but where are you usually meeting women at? and how old are they? i've found that when i talk to young bytches (like 19-22) i usually have to play those games where i have to text something slightly 'sexual' to nudge them to where i want them to be. older women know the deal.. at least in my experience. and the best part about 'dating sites' is that you can usually add that 'sexual' shyt into your convos before you even meet them.
if you have your own place, you can tell if a woman is 'comfortable' around u by how she acts in ur crib and when you're sitting together on the couch.
if she's curled up on one end of the couch and texting, :camby:
pretty simple stuff, just gota stop thinking about your 'inexperience' and just say fukk it :manny:

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you don't have to tell women anything, women look at me and right away think i'm a player, or aggressive and this and that.
 

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another thing i wanted to add to the bolded.. how do they know you're 'inexperienced'?
are you telling these broads you've only been with 3 women? :usure: they should only find this out after you've orgasmed no homo, and you already won by then. even if they diss u and tell u they dont want to see u after, you already got what you wanted :banderas:
i haven't read back many pages, but where are you usually meeting women at? and how old are they? i've found that when i talk to young bytches (like 19-22) i usually have to play those games where i have to text something slightly 'sexual' to nudge them to where i want them to be. older women know the deal.. at least in my experience. and the best part about 'dating sites' is that you can usually add that 'sexual' shyt into your convos before you even meet them.
if you have your own place, you can tell if a woman is 'comfortable' around u by how she acts in ur crib and when you're sitting together on the couch.
if she's curled up on one end of the couch and texting, :camby:
pretty simple stuff, just gota stop thinking about your 'inexperience' and just say fukk it :manny:
I actually never told any, but I always believed they can sort of "tell". I mostly only see women when I'm at work, but I see a lot of them. There are a couple in particular I'd love to get to know better, but I haven't really tried to conversate much with them. I also seem to have a problem with OBLIVIOUSNESS...
 

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Yeah, now just to find that one, or let her fall into my lap.

I think I'm so impatient because I've never been with anyone I was REALLY attracted to., or interested in. it gets frustrating breh, like I've been denied food my entire life for practically NOTHING....

Maybe it IS time to gather all of my fukks up, douse them in gasoline and light a match to them shyts....I mean, everything else hasn't got me shyt, what will it hurt?....
What things are you passionate about? Focus on those things. You'll build confidence in yourself doing things you love to do and you won't be all broken down over some female who's not showing interest.
 

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What things are you passionate about? Focus on those things. You'll build confidence in yourself doing things you love to do and you won't be all broken down over some female who's not showing interest.
Drawing/writing, martial arts.....

Ironically, one female I'm a little attracted to for some reason attends the same MMA school as I. I'm thinking maybe I shoul dtry and get rid of that attraction, since it can get really awkward if shyt weren't to work, being we'd have to see each other and attend the same class....
 

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sadly thats the mindset I have,its like a nfl contract, doesn't matter how great you are, how many years you put in, you can get cut any day its just business.

It's sad that relationships have almost turned into a business-like transaction where you always have to cover yourself in the event that things go south, but in this day and age, women can leave way too easily and often choose to do so while taking a lot of your assets with them. One of the key considerations in operating in this environment is to very carefully consider who you allow in your life and never accept less than quality people around you.
 

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Years and years ago when I was fresh out of school and started my search for a job/career, I would literally spend hours each day sending my resume everywhere. Regardless of wage, benefits, part-time, contract, hours, location none of that mattered to me, as I was desperate and willing to settle for anything.

However as the years went on and I started to look for a new job, I became much more choosy per-say, because my circumstances in life made my mindset totally different. I already had a job in a good location, seniority, benefits, pension, a decent wage the whole shebang.

Things that were not a priority as a babyface young man not yet established or knowing his value such as wages, benefits, location were now very important to me. And if a position that caught my eye was not offering what I desired - well I knew my value and what I offered would not even apply or dare I say settle for less than I knew I deserved.

And there is a correlation in another area in my life, as I have the same mindset when it comes to dating and relationships. When I was younger, less experience, seeking validation, not knowing my value and well unwise to say the least. I settled and accepted anything as long as she was attractive, areas such as morals, character, religion, future goals etc. were just an afterthought.

However as the years went on, and the seeds of wisdom grow and you see the error in your thought process and learn to fix them you evolve. I've worked hard and built a life for myself that I never thought was possible, I had to learn the hard way over and over again in many areas, dealt with countless disappointments but thankfully I did. I know my value and what I offer and I'm not just going to throw my pearls before swine so to speak. It was not an easy process at all to evolve the way I did but I am truly thankful.
 

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Yep, it all boils down to emotion, which is why you can never make a woman the first priority or foundation of your life because her emotions can shift in an instant. I pretty much come to the conclusion that you always have to structure your dealings with the possibility that she will leave, so prepare yourself emotionally and don't allow her to ruin you financially.
Absolute cosign, And maybe I'm too bold, but I tell women, even my main, that I don't trust any female 100%, and a woman/girlfriend is never the foundation of my life or the sole reason for my existence, so I don't live my life for their happiness, plain and simple :yeshrug:
 

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case by case basis, I don't like it though

Me personally, If it's small, non visible in plain clothes, and nothing outlandish, I have no real problem with it.

But those heavy inked women, I want no parts of.

Depends

On some women it looks disgusting, trashy, and horrible

On some women they make them look sexier.

:manny:

About how I feel, depends on the type of ink work, how much/many and where.

I saw a nice looking woman earlier today. I see her every once in a while in passing actually, and noticed today she has a chest tat (weather is warmer/open shirt)

Left me :ohhh: all day trying to figure out if it's dope or not. I doubt I could rock with her at a Tux and gown type of affair though:francis:

She's pretty as hell though on some blaxploitation Pam Grier 70's shyt.
 
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