Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

Breh women lie, people will tell you whatever you want to hear to calm your fears. Go with your gut trust me, she prob is talking to someone this is classic 101

Women never want to look like the Bad person so they bring up bs and petty arguments to make it look like you are the BSD guy, you pushed me away, it was your fault.

And when you speak up your insecure, your trying to cage her blah blah all rubbish.

Actions >>>words

I'm telling you cut your losses

Everytime I'd tell her she probably has someone else she's talking to, she'd get even more annoyed and start telling me she is not and that she hates when I say that because she says I don't believe anything she says and honestly there isn't anyway to know eitherway....

It isn't like she got cold on me from out of nowhere.. This little arguments(Which honestly came as a result of me being insecure and sometimes petty) It's far too much details to include here but it wasn't like she just started getting distant over time. The main thing that triggered this was one time a week or so ago, she told me she was going out with her best friend. A few hours later she text me when she was home and she told me she went to eat and then to a cafe and met some tourists

. She told me about some lady and others. I went on Instagram and saw a picture she posted of her, her best friend and two tourists sitting at a table drinking and that was that. I got all and was like "Who the heck is this!?" and she got mad because she said I was being controlling and stuff and that she was with her friend and those two guys are foreign tourists and she told me about them blah blah. I kept ranting about how those guys are probably hitting on them and since they're drinking it's easier to do something blah blah.

It led to an argument where she felt like I was imposing some strictness on her social life and she thinks it's nothing to be out with her friend and if some guys are there it's nothing. That night and the week after is when she started to talk about being friends instead because prior to that I always would rant or say something which made her feel stifled and unable to do anything without hurting me. The picture wasn't anything provactive or anything, just 4 people at a table sitting across from each other but I took it further. Smh. I know you're thinking "Those dudes proabbly got their dikk sucked in a car or something!" lol but yeah..

 

[Fatboi1]

Breh women lie, people will tell you whatever you want to hear to calm your fears. Go with your gut trust me, she prob is talking to someone this is classic 101

Women never want to look like the Bad person so they bring up bs and petty arguments to make it look like you are the BSD guy, you pushed me away, it was your fault.

And when you speak up your insecure, your trying to cage her blah blah all rubbish.

Actions >>>words

I'm telling you cut your losses

I disagree.. I think my actions were at fault. Constantly bringing stuff up, nagging and coming across insecure caused this. And She didn't say I was the bad guy, She kept blaming herself. Like I said, She didn't start the arguments, I did.

 

[PrnzHakeem]

Everytime I'd tell her she probably has someone else she's talking to, she'd get even more annoyed and start telling me she is not and that she hates when I say that because she says I don't believe anything she says and honestly there isn't anyway to know eitherway....

It isn't like she got cold on me from out of nowhere.. This little arguments(Which honestly came as a result of me being insecure and sometimes petty). It's far too much details to include here but it wasn't like she just started getting distant over time. The main thing that triggered this was one time a week or so ago, she told me she was going out with her best friend. A few hours later she text me when she was home and she told me she went to eat and then to a cafe and met some tourists.

. She told me about some lady and others. I went on Instagram and saw a picture she posted of her, her best friend and two tourists sitting at a table drinking and that was that. I got all and was like "Who the heck is this!?" and she got mad because she said I was being controlling and stuff and that she was with her friend and those two guys are foreign tourists and she told me about them blah blah. I kept ranting about how those guys are probably hitting on them and since they're drinking it's easier to do something blah blah.

It led to an argument where she felt like I was imposing some strictness on her social life and she thinks it's nothing to be out with her friend and if some guys are there it's nothing. That night and the week after is when she started to talk about being friends instead because prior to that I always would rant or say something which made her feel stifled and unable to do anything without hurting me. The picture wasn't anything provactive or anything, just 4 people at a table sitting across from each other but I took it further. Smh. I know you're thinking "Those dudes proabbly got their dikk sucked in a car or something!" lol but yeah..... What she told me that night matched up with her actions online as her best friend instagram had the same picture and same thing. It was really nothing serious.

As for the signing on Skype, posting online but not texting me thing.. she didn't say she'l text me at a certain time. She pretty much just was on some " I need time I'll talk to you later.."

Either way, fukk it.

I aint follow your whole soap opera that closely but you too insecure and petty to be in a long distance relationship. (You acknowledged it, now work on it)

You half way around the world and expect her social life to only be you? That's unreasonable.

 

[MikelArteta]

Blaming herself because the fantasy is dying in her eyes and someone else HSS her ATTN now.

Better to just cut your losses , esp long distance relationships, without communication and trust it doesn't work plus it takes two to tango. And well she ain't tangoing

I disagree.. I think my actions were at fault. Constantly bringing stuff up, nagging and coming across insecure caused this. And She didn't say I was the bad guy, She kept blaming herself. Like I said, She didn't start the arguments, I did.

 

[Atlrocafella]

Just to give an update to the brehs::

So shyt is basically still running smooth with my main, I can tell she has fallen deeper into like with me, if not love..and I like her as well, she's cool, but I'm not into her that deep like she is with me. It's a weird feeling, like I could drop her today and be completely fine with it , something is missing I think, that "wow" factor that I tend to seek out in women isn't there with this one yet , I'm in no rush to make any changes though, things are running as I need them to be. I guess my only concern is the fact that I'm not totally locked in leaves room for another shorty to grab my attention with whatever it is I think is missing.

*side note- it feels good to vent on this board *

 

[kevm3]

Absolute cosign, And maybe I'm too bold, but I tell women, even my main, that I don't trust any female 100%, and a woman/girlfriend is never the foundation of my life or the sole reason for my existence, so I don't live my life for their happiness, plain and simple

It's hard to do, but once you get to that point to where you realize most women are interchangeable, then you lose a lot of your worries. Operating in this day and age, it is almost inevitable that you arrive at this attitude. Why? Because it seems no matter what you do, a woman is liable to leave at any moment. Women constantly complain about not being about to find decent guys who are there and will provide, but when they get them, they cheat on that dude. Then, if you are this 'bad boy', you can keep her entertained with the emotional rollercoaster, but she'll probably eventually leave you once her life goes to shambles or you'll have to worry about her acting out and destroying your property. Worrying about having a woman or what a woman will do frankly is a waste of time. Even when you 'have' a woman, you never know what she's doing when you're not around and you never know when she'll decide to run off, so I say invest a minimal amount of emotion in them. The only way a woman approaches the category of indispensable is if SHE makes herself so, meaning that she does everything a woman should do and never puts worries on your mind. Her character, morals, personality and dedication and loyalty to you have to be top.

 

[kevm3]

I disagree.. I think my actions were at fault. Constantly bringing stuff up, nagging and coming across insecure caused this. And She didn't say I was the bad guy, She kept blaming herself. Like I said, She didn't start the arguments, I did.

Bottom line is to just stop worrying about relationships period. Women will do them even if you're in their city, so you can imagine what they'll do when you're not around. I rarely see women on that super sad stuff that dudes get on because they always cultivate options. You can possibly be insecure or whatever, but then again women do things that give off the impression they are untrustworthy and then shift it on you like disappearing for a couple of days, shift in conversation patterns (picks up new slang, etc). If the woman you're with wants some 'time apart', you got to get into a point where you don't sweat it and you realize there are other women out there. You also have to step in with the expectation that women are probably going to do them around and emotionally condition yourself properly... In other words, realize you don't own the vagina and thus, never get too attached and get into some sucka business by sending her money or any of that nonsense.

Enjoy women, but shift your focus onto other things and realize if one leaves, it creates room for another. A real woman will NOT make you feel insecure because she will do the right things. Women nowadays have real funny and disrespectful patterns, but expect you to put up with it or else they will call you insecure and all that nonsense.

 

[Fatboi1]

Bottom line is to just stop worrying about relationships period. Women will do them even if you're in their city, so you can imagine what they'll do when you're not around. I rarely see women on that super sad stuff that dudes get on because they always cultivate options. You can possibly be insecure or whatever, but then again women do things that give off the impression they are untrustworthy and then shift it on you like disappearing for a couple of days, shift in conversation patterns (picks up new slang, etc). If the woman you're with wants some 'time apart', you got to get into a point where you don't sweat it and you realize there are other women out there. You also have to step in with the expectation that women are probably going to do them around and emotionally condition yourself properly... In other words, realize you don't own the vagina and thus, never get too attached and get into some sucka business by sending her money or any of that nonsense.

Enjoy women, but shift your focus onto other things and realize if one leaves, it creates room for another. A real woman will NOT make you feel insecure because she will do the right things. Women nowadays have real funny and disrespectful patterns, but expect you to put up with it or else they will call you insecure and all that nonsense.

So you don't do relationships??
Yeah, I guess what you're saying is true to a certain extent. shyt just makes me feel so fukked up at times. 5ish months of non stop contact and texting/skyping daily and then suddenly after a few bouts of arguments, she disappears.

 

[kevm3]

So you don't do relationships??
Yeah, I guess what you're saying is true to a certain extent. shyt just makes me feel so fukked up at times. 5ish months of non stop contact and texting/skyping daily and then suddenly after a few bouts of arguments, she disappears.

It's not that I don't do relationships. I'm about relationships, but knowing the transient nature of women, I don't get so attached that I'm a wreck if they disappear.

 

[Pyrexcup]

So you don't do relationships??
Yeah, I guess what you're saying is true to a certain extent. shyt just makes me feel so fukked up at times. 5ish months of non stop contact and texting/skyping daily and then suddenly after a few bouts of arguments, she disappears.

5 months of non stop contact and you getting emotional over ig i thing i learned is never to show your hand you need to show females you have options.

 

[Fatboi1]

It's not that I don't do relationships. I'm about relationships, but knowing the transient nature of women, I don't get so attached that I'm a wreck if they disappear.

Cool. I done showed her I'm hurt now I look stupid. I don't even know how I should react when She hits me up.

 

[Fatboi1]

5 months of non stop contact and you getting emotional over ig i thing i learned is never to show your hand you need to show females you have options.

I fukked up. Now She see me as needy and insecure. I guess the best course of action is to fall back.

 

[Pyrexcup]

she is tossing you to the bushes oh well you live and learn . I made same mistake with couple of chicks last year ,a female should always feel uncertain inside

 

[MikelArteta]

Again your blaming yourself, funny how before you met her and were planning you could do no wrong, but now.

I fukked up. Now She see me as needy and insecure. I guess the best course of action is to fall back.

 

[MikelArteta]

I've had women gone totally cold on me or change in a flash, I used yo get frustrated think about what I did wrong. Should I apologize should I trxt then I got to the point of only focusing on women who focus on me.

If a woman just goes cold and stop talking to me, meh I get on with my life and many times weeks or months later my phone is buzzing and glistening with a text, women expect you to get angry, call them out. Fight for them, pin etc. Not me

If a woman wants to be in your life she will, if she was really feeling you like you were her, she wouldn't put herself in situations .

Its like if you start a new job paying 200k a year your not going to show up late because that job is valuable to you

Stop messing with women treating you like a weekend job where you just stroll in