Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[kevm3]

something I've found is that most females simply don't understand the art of being 'appreciative'. They only understand entertainment and being put in check or being in the presence of what they perceive as a superior man. You can sacrifice and do all of that, but that doesn't make a woman sit back and appreciate what you've done. In a lot of instances, it makes her look at you as weaker for whatever reason. Something to understand is that a woman's loyalty and her interest is not tethered to 'what you do for her' or 'what sacrifices you make for her.'

It pretty much boils down to her character and in many cases, how much you keep her entertained and intrigued. Eve, in the Bible, had choice of every tree, but she went for the one she couldn't have, simply because it held intrigue. You see this constantly played out when women constantly get caught in a cycle of misery with losers while shunning the responsible, solid dude.

This isn't to say to become some kind of 'bad boy' loser to impress females, but rather it is to come to the realization that you won't get anywhere trying to 'do' things for females, which is completely contrary to the provider model most of us men were brought up to believe works.

 

[sfgiants]

I pretty much took the brunt of my Ls in High school, though I took a couple afterwards...

I'm 31, and only have like 3 bodies (which may as well of been dead bodies), which doesn't leave for much experience. I feel as if I'm "behind." The way most females IME view a person like that isn't very favorable. They assume there is something very wrong with you, or don't wanna be bothered with one so under experienced. Some people get lucky, but I haven't had that kind of luck.

It's kind of like walking into the job market: I need a job, but how do I get it if no one will hire me due to being unexperienced?

I also notice that I have the inability to get females "comfortable" around me. I'm one of those cats that have yet to figure out how to steer a convo to a sexual nature without sounding like a pig. So I never really try, yet my friends/others can manage to somehow do the shyt. It's so frustrating. I feel I have some potential, but I just can't unlock due to being paranoid of yet another L....

If you're thinking about getting a convo to a sexual nature you're sabotaging yourself, especially if it's in person. Text is a little easier. I don't even think about it really, and I don't really do it to be honest. It kind of goes without saying, and if they come to my place then we both know why we're here word to marshawn Lynch.
As far as getting them "comfortable" ask them a bunch of shyt, bytches love to talk.

 

[Rich Spirit]

I pretty much took the brunt of my Ls in High school, though I took a couple afterwards...

I'm 31, and only have like 3 bodies (which may as well of been dead bodies), which doesn't leave for much experience. I feel as if I'm "behind." The way most females IME view a person like that isn't very favorable. They assume there is something very wrong with you, or don't wanna be bothered with one so under experienced. Some people get lucky, but I haven't had that kind of luck.

It's kind of like walking into the job market: I need a job, but how do I get it if no one will hire me due to being unexperienced?

I also notice that I have the inability to get females "comfortable" around me. I'm one of those cats that have yet to figure out how to steer a convo to a sexual nature without sounding like a pig. So I never really try, yet my friends/others can manage to somehow do the shyt. It's so frustrating. I feel I have some potential, but I just can't unlock due to being paranoid of yet another L....

You can't be paranoid. You're a man and a man takes what he wants.

To get a chick comfortable around you, just gotta be playful and fun and don't take anything serious because shes not your #1 priority.

 

[MikelArteta]

Yup there Is way to many women out there to cater to one.

The best advice on getting girls comfortable is truly being yourself. Not caring about impressing them and saying outlandish thoughts from time to time. They'll be like this nikka doesn't really care . If a girl doesn't fukk with your personality you just have to find one that does.

 

[MikelArteta]

I've never approached a chick, made a first move, messaged first, I'm quiet and introverted. Never been to a bar, only clubbed in Cuba, not out there few friends at this point in my life Yet I've ate well.

The world is a big place, women are everywhere some will like you and some won't.

I've had fat chicks who look hideous to me, think I'm ugly. I've had drop dead gorgeous chicks thinking I'm handsome.

Just like applying for jobs, sometimes McDonald's won't hire you, but Ernst and young will.

 

[MikelArteta]

something I've found is that most females simply don't understand the art of being 'appreciative'. They only understand entertainment and being put in check or being in the presence of what they perceive as a superior man. You can sacrifice and do all of that, but that doesn't make a woman sit back and appreciate what you've done. In a lot of instances, it makes her look at you as weaker for whatever reason. Something to understand is that a woman's loyalty and her interest is not tethered to 'what you do for her' or 'what sacrifices you make for her.'

It pretty much boils down to her character and in many cases, how much you keep her entertained and intrigued. Eve, in the Bible, had choice of every tree, but she went for the one she couldn't have, simply because it held intrigue. You see this constantly played out when women constantly get caught in a cycle of misery with losers while shunning the responsible, solid dude.

This isn't to say to become some kind of 'bad boy' loser to impress females, but rather it is to come to the realization that you won't get anywhere trying to 'do' things for females, which is completely contrary to the provider model most of us men were brought up to believe works.

just take a peek at divorce forums, i loved her i thought i had the perfect marriage, i worked hard while she sat at home, i loved her, treated her kid like it was my own bla bla

it means nothing

ive been there, she'll never find anyone who treated her like I did and blah blah and yeah she won't but it means nothing it means NOTHING!

even good women with self esteem will stay in horrible ass relationships full of abuse, cheating, lies etc. I'm not saying to do any of these, i'm just sayng everything is tied to how a woman feels about you.

 

[TheArchitect]

If you're thinking about getting a convo to a sexual nature you're sabotaging yourself, especially if it's in person. Text is a little easier. I don't even think about it really, and I don't really do it to be honest. It kind of goes without saying, and if they come to my place then we both know why we're here word to marshawn Lynch.
As far as getting them "comfortable" ask them a bunch of shyt, bytches love to talk.

Goes without saying? Never thought of it like that....

You can't be paranoid. You're a man and a man takes what he wants.
Your right. I think that's something more sub-conscious.
To get a chick comfortable around you, just gotta be playful and fun and don't take anything serious because shes not your #1 priority.

Indeed. I kind of thought of myself as boring, but I didn't realize that it was just my foolish insecurities of childhood. I kind of realized "shyt if I'm really that boring, I'd have no friends, now would I?"....

I've never approached a chick, made a first move, messaged first, I'm quiet and introverted. Never been to a bar, only clubbed in Cuba, not out there few friends at this point in my life Yet I've ate well.

The world is a big place, women are everywhere some will like you and some won't.

I've had fat chicks who look hideous to me, think I'm ugly. I've had drop dead gorgeous chicks thinking I'm handsome.

Just like applying for jobs, sometimes McDonald's won't hire you, but Ernst and young will.

Never thought of it that way...

 

[MikelArteta]

Breh I've been clubbing three timed all in cubs, never been to a ball. I don't do social media.my hobbies are photography, writing and volunteering. At work I'm known as the quiet one, I've always been this way.

The beauty of life is that all it takes is One, its like applying to 100 jobs if one hires you who cares about the rest.

Same with women it just takes one chick to feel you

Goes without saying? Never thought of it like that....

Indeed. I kind of thought of myself as boring, but I didn't realize that it was just my foolish insecurities of childhood. I kind of realized "shyt if I'm really that boring, I'd have no friends, now would I?"....

Never thought of it that way...

 

[TheArchitect]

Breh I've been clubbing three timed all in cubs, never been to a ball. I don't do social media.my hobbies are photography, writing and volunteering. At work I'm known as the quiet one, I've always been this way.

The beauty of life is that all it takes is One, its like applying to 100 jobs if one hires you who cares about the rest.

Same with women it just takes one chick to feel you

Yeah, now just to find that one, or let her fall into my lap.

I think I'm so impatient because I've never been with anyone I was REALLY attracted to., or interested in. it gets frustrating breh, like I've been denied food my entire life for practically NOTHING....

Maybe it IS time to gather all of my fukks up, douse them in gasoline and light a match to them shyts....I mean, everything else hasn't got me shyt, what will it hurt?....

 

[TheArchitect]

DOUBLE POST

 

[kevm3]

just take a peek at divorce forums, i loved her i thought i had the perfect marriage, i worked hard while she sat at home, i loved her, treated her kid like it was my own bla bla

it means nothing

ive been there, she'll never find anyone who treated her like I did and blah blah and yeah she won't but it means nothing it means NOTHING!

even good women with self esteem will stay in horrible ass relationships full of abuse, cheating, lies etc. I'm not saying to do any of these, i'm just sayng everything is tied to how a woman feels about you.

Yep, it all boils down to emotion, which is why you can never make a woman the first priority or foundation of your life because her emotions can shift in an instant. I pretty much come to the conclusion that you always have to structure your dealings with the possibility that she will leave, so prepare yourself emotionally and don't allow her to ruin you financially.

 

[MikelArteta]

Yep, it all boils down to emotion, which is why you can never make a woman the first priority or foundation of your life because her emotions can shift in an instant. I pretty much come to the conclusion that you always have to structure your dealings with the possibility that she will leave, so prepare yourself emotionally and don't allow her to ruin you financially.

sadly thats the mindset I have,its like a nfl contract, doesn't matter how great you are, how many years you put in, you can get cut any day its just business.

 

[MikelArteta]

Yeah, now just to find that one, or let her fall into my lap.

I think I'm so impatient because I've never been with anyone I was REALLY attracted to., or interested in. it gets frustrating breh, like I've been denied food my entire life for practically NOTHING....

Maybe it IS time to gather all of my fukks up, douse them in gasoline and light a match to them shyts....I mean, everything else hasn't got me shyt, what will it hurt?....

To me just got to be patient. My best relationships were when I least expected it and was just livng life, my worst were the ones where I was on online dating sites and inpatient, because then you settle. It's like when you have a job and applying for a job your mindset is different. Example your making 50k a year, applied for a job you thought was great however it only pays minimum wage not interested. Now flip the script if your unemployed and making nothing you'll accept that min wage job

 

[sfgiants]

I pretty much took the brunt of my Ls in High school, though I took a couple afterwards...

I'm 31, and only have like 3 bodies (which may as well of been dead bodies), which doesn't leave for much experience. I feel as if I'm "behind." The way most females IME view a person like that isn't very favorable. They assume there is something very wrong with you, or don't wanna be bothered with one so under experienced. Some people get lucky, but I haven't had that kind of luck.

It's kind of like walking into the job market: I need a job, but how do I get it if no one will hire me due to being unexperienced?

I also notice that I have the inability to get females "comfortable" around me. I'm one of those cats that have yet to figure out how to steer a convo to a sexual nature without sounding like a pig. So I never really try, yet my friends/others can manage to somehow do the shyt. It's so frustrating. I feel I have some potential, but I just can't unlock due to being paranoid of yet another L....

another thing i wanted to add to the bolded.. how do they know you're 'inexperienced'?
are you telling these broads you've only been with 3 women? they should only find this out after you've orgasmed no homo, and you already won by then. even if they diss u and tell u they dont want to see u after, you already got what you wanted
i haven't read back many pages, but where are you usually meeting women at? and how old are they? i've found that when i talk to young bytches (like 19-22) i usually have to play those games where i have to text something slightly 'sexual' to nudge them to where i want them to be. older women know the deal.. at least in my experience. and the best part about 'dating sites' is that you can usually add that 'sexual' shyt into your convos before you even meet them.
if you have your own place, you can tell if a woman is 'comfortable' around u by how she acts in ur crib and when you're sitting together on the couch.
if she's curled up on one end of the couch and texting,
pretty simple stuff, just gota stop thinking about your 'inexperience' and just say fukk it

 

[TheArchitect]

To me just got to be patient. My best relationships were when I least expected it and was just livng life, my worst were the ones where I was on online dating sites and inpatient, because then you settle. It's like when you have a job and applying for a job your mindset is different. Example your making 50k a year, applied for a job you thought was great however it only pays minimum wage not interested. Now flip the script if your unemployed and making nothing you'll accept that min wage job

Indeed. My only real "relationship" I was in was pretty much because I settled for some bullshyt. I didn't even really like her like that, I just wanted to know how it felt to be with someone...I've pretty much forbid myself of doing shyt like that from now on....