Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Turbulent]

There was poster called Moreover over on who i really respected and dug his philosophy on things. He kinda made a quick gems type thread over there but it was more him expressing his view, here a couple that i saved and stuck with me.

Some more MOREOVER gems

props. i like that philosophy and that's how i've been learning to live as well. indifference...not meaning you don't care about anything. more like you don't dwell on stuff and don't get too attached. there are no shortcuts to this though. it comes organically when you put in work on yourself and consciousness. heck i'm far from "there" but i feel like i'm closer than say 6 months ago...

 

[Mr210]

man Im I the only one going through a cold streak, recently both online and in the real world I keep coming across flakey women who appeared to have some sort of interest in me, but when it comes time to meeting up, it just flops, and this are women in their late 20s and early 30s. Ive never had this issue before. In the past when I got a number 98% of the time it ended up with us meeting up atleast once and then depending on that interaction lead to more meetups and dates, but in the past month Im getting numbers but thats about it. I just got another number off of okcupid so I will see where that goes. I think women play more games than men, because men will usually tell you either with words or their actions on whether that just want a fling or something more. But I have this women saying how much they are looking forward to talking/seeing me, things of that nature, but then got these lame excuses for it never getting to that point. its like if you arent feeling me let me know so I wont waste my time or yours, trust me I will be alright

 

[((ReFleXioN)) EteRNaL]

going through a break up right now. were together for a year and a half. living together. she wanted to get married, but I just couldn't do it. I wasn't in love with her, and I knew I never would be. but I cared about her a lot. she cooked for me everyday. cleaned everyday. she was really doing all the right things. but something was missing. and I just shut off. stopped paying attention to her. it would be like she wasn't even there. I would be in my own world and shyt. I knew it wasn't fair to keep her around knowing I was never gonna be willing to give her what she hoped for. so I finally let her go. shyt is tough. still contemplating wether I made the right decision or not. tryin to keep myself busy to keep my mind off it. sometimes I feel like hittin her up and workin it out....but I know I made the right choice.

 

[MikelArteta]

man Im I the only one going through a cold streak, recently both online and in the real world I keep coming across flakey women who appeared to have some sort of interest in me, but when it comes time to meeting up, it just flops, and this are women in their late 20s and early 30s. Ive never had this issue before. In the past when I got a number 98% of the time it ended up with us meeting up atleast once and then depending on that interaction lead to more meetups and dates, but in the past month Im getting numbers but thats about it. I just got another number off of okcupid so I will see where that goes. I think women play more games than men, because men will usually tell you either with words or their actions on whether that just want a fling or something more. But I have this women saying how much they are looking forward to talking/seeing me, things of that nature, but then got these lame excuses for it never getting to that point. its like if you arent feeling me let me know so I wont waste my time or yours, trust me I will be alright

its like baseball sometimes you will bat like 400 for amonth next month like 200, just like everyything in life there are ups and downs. Flakey people suck but its something both males and females deal with, all you can do is be like eh, and cut the cord quickly. NEver believe anything women tell you, many women just use online dating just for a self esteem booster, or a free dinner etc.

it happens to the best of us, just continue thinking of ourself as the prize and keep going, trust sometimes its better with these broads that they flaked you never know there could be a ex in the pictuere, she could be battling depression or who knows whatever, take it as a blessing

 

[MikelArteta]

going through a break up right now. were together for a year and a half. living together. she wanted to get married, but I just couldn't do it. I wasn't in love with her, and I knew I never would be. but I cared about her a lot. she cooked for me everyday. cleaned everyday. she was really doing all the right things. but something was missing. and I just shut off. stopped paying attention to her. it would be like she wasn't even there. I would be in my own world and shyt. I knew it wasn't fair to keep her around knowing I was never gonna willing to give her what she hoped for. so I finally let her go. shyt is tough. still contemplating wether I made the right decision or not. tryin to keep myself busy to keep my mind off it. sometimes I feel like hittin her up and workin it out....but I know I made the right choice.

you did the right thing, time is short in life no need drawing out the inevitable, and at least you can make a clean break now instead of say marriage and kids which is hard to get out of. In the end it will work out the best for you two now it hurts, and you ponder but trust nothing is worse than marrying someone when your totally not committed to that person.

 

[George Gooney]

@His_Excellence_Reincar @kevm3 What are your honest thoughts on religious arranged marriages?

 

[kevm3]

From a system point of view, it seemed like it has worked for certain societies, but I'm not a fan of forcing someone to marry especially if it is against their will. Now if a family recommended their daughter or son see someone else from another family, but never forced it on them, that'd be cool. Dating now is kind of a wild, wild west thing now. You have no kind of idea what is going on with the people you are meeting. At least with the 'recommendation system', your family would have known the other family for a long time, has an idea of their history and your parents can inject some of their long-standing wisdom into the equation.

 

[Jahmal]

man Im I the only one going through a cold streak, recently both online and in the real world I keep coming across flakey women who appeared to have some sort of interest in me, but when it comes time to meeting up, it just flops, and this are women in their late 20s and early 30s. Ive never had this issue before. In the past when I got a number 98% of the time it ended up with us meeting up atleast once and then depending on that interaction lead to more meetups and dates, but in the past month Im getting numbers but thats about it. I just got another number off of okcupid so I will see where that goes. I think women play more games than men, because men will usually tell you either with words or their actions on whether that just want a fling or something more. But I have this women saying how much they are looking forward to talking/seeing me, things of that nature, but then got these lame excuses for it never getting to that point. its like if you arent feeling me let me know so I wont waste my time or yours, trust me I will be alright

Breh there is no need to post here everytime you get a number. You've posted about 10 girls in the last few weeks and you havent fukked any of them! They are flaking on you left and right. Try falling back, working on your game and posting once you start smashing these chicks. Its summer time and these chicks are throwing puzzy around like hotcakes. Step it up!

 

[MikelArteta]

@His_Excellence_Reincar @kevm3 What are your honest thoughts on religious arranged marriages?

i find them repulsive, fwhat your parents may want for you example same culture, same race etc. you may not want.

My family is Jamaican, at first my family was a little taken aback when my sister announched she was engaged and getting married to a dude from africa, well what do you know it turned out the best thing for her. Me I was engaged to a russian chick, and my second longest relationship another girl i almost wed she was irish, if my parents arranged and i were to follow id end up with someone I probably won't be attracted to, someone who is totally different than me.

I know in some cultures it helps the family as awhole get out of poverty etc. but in the western world i';d never do it.

Although I do know a few indian folks who it seemed to work out for them.

 

[George Gooney]

i find them repulsive, fwhat your parents may want for you example same culture, same race etc. you may not want.

My family is Jamaican, at first my family was a little taken aback when my sister announched she was engaged and getting married to a dude from africa, well what do you know it turned out the best thing for her. Me I was engaged to a russian chick, and my second longest relationship another girl i almost wed she was irish, if my parents arranged and i were to follow id end up with someone I probably won't be attracted to, someone who is totally different than me.

I know in some cultures it helps the family as awhole get out of poverty etc. but in the western world i';d never do it.

Although I do know a few indian folks who it seemed to work out for them.

I wouldn't even consider marrying a woman born in the western world... I know a few brothers from mosque with beautiful muslim African sisters and daughters that want to get married. I'm actually considering it because I want to start a family with a righteous woman who I know has values. Statistically speaking arranged marriages tend to last much longer then non arranged and In islam I don't have to give half of my possessions should we get divorced(God forbid)... I can't find any faults with it so far... Not saying i'm gonna get married anytime soon but it's good to know my options because Western women sorta repulse nowadays...

 

[MikelArteta]

brehs what would you do if someone you dated in the past and cared about in the past, and she contacted you out of the blue and wanted to talk, then she revealed to you how her step daddy raped her for like 5 years and showed you proof. And is thinking about going to the authorities, but wants you to help her navigate through this.

I really don't want to get involved, i dunno why its bugging me brehs.

 

[MikelArteta]

I wouldn't even consider marrying a woman born in the western world... I know a few brothers from mosque with beautiful muslim African sisters and daughters that want to get married. I'm actually considering it because I want to start a family with a righteous woman who I know has values. Statistically speaking arranged marriages tend to last much longer then non arranged and In islam I don't have to give half of my possessions should we get divorced(God forbid)... I can't find any faults with it so far... Not saying i'm gonna get married anytime soon but it's good to know my options because Western women sorta repulse nowadays...

the majority of western women are scandalous void of any righteousness and not fit to wear a white wedding purity dress, or a ring on their finger. I'm not muslim but muslim women seem to be more virtuous than any other religion even the ones who aren't deep into the religion.

I always said if i were to get married, i'd lterally have to move to like ghana, brazil , phillipines, romania or something and get a righteous broad there.

Seems every broad nowadays clubs all the time, dress scandalous, sleeps around, has a kid out of wedlock , lies, has 100 dudes in thier phones etc. and well I have no desire no matter how "sexy" she is.

the funny thing now that I'm deep into my religion and trying to follow what is right, it amazes me when I talk to women who are so called followers and they get upset "what you wouldnt live together with a broad before you get married", "what you wont have sex before marriage? what if the sex isn't good"

I know i lived a wretched life before and if i were to ever get married i probably deserve a dirty strung out harlot for all my previous sexual sins but ehh id rather be single forever

 

[George Gooney]

brehs what would you do if someone you dated in the past and cared about in the past, and she contacted you out of the blue and wanted to talk, then she revealed to you how her step daddy raped her for like 5 years and showed you proof. And is thinking about going to the authorities, but wants you to help her navigate through this.

I really don't want to get involved, i dunno why its bugging me brehs.

It depends on how things were when we broke up... If she did me dirty I may second guess helping her. If it was mutual and a clean break up I'd do just enough to help but not get overly involved. Also when did he rape her? when she was a child or grown?

 

[MikelArteta]

It depends on how things were when we broke up... If she did me dirty I may second guess helping her. If it was mutual and a clean break up I'd do just enough to help but not get overly involved. Also when did he rape her? when she was a child or grown?

she cheated on me

from ages 13-18

i dated her when she was 19

 

[George Gooney]

she cheated on me

from ages 13-18

i dated her when she was 19

Then she can ask the guy she cheated with... Don't let your righteous positive attitude make you feel sorry for someone who might not deserve it. If you want to help her then you can. Im just here to also say... You don't have to.