i see what you,re saying. basically you're saying you put yourself outthere and it actually turned into a positive. That's actually a cool thing man, props to you. but i disagree with the bolded. See that chick is serving you because she sees something in you. she feels like you are better than her. she feels like you're out of her league and is trying her hardest to keep you. if you had driven off, sure, it wouldn't have happened with her. but if she sees you as this great catch, then other women would recognize as well so in theory, some other women would have chosen too and would have done what they can depending on their talents and skills to keep you. But i'm still glad things worked out for you though and yeah, you did choose first but at the same time it also depends on how hard she chose afterwards, you most likely flipped the script mid-course on her very subtly and maybe even unconsciously...
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yeah man, it was actually kinda interesting watching how things unfolded. on our first date, i was really treading lightly cause she held all the cards. but after that first date and after we made out in the parking lot, i knew she was mine. she texted me on some "you just like to go all out dont u?" i'm like "what do you mean?" she goes, "u had ur hands all up on my ass, in my jeans, grabbing all up on me". i saw that text and i thought to myself like "fucck, this is a trap. sh1t, how i respond to this sh1t". so i go "well, it was all passion". she responded "i like it". from that night on, it was a wrap. also, at that parking lot, she voiced something to me that i had always known about chicks. they like u to take control of things. u see, this chick is a director at her job so she's used to telling people what to do. and she said it was a major turn on that i was telling her what to do and being bossy. i wasn't following any mackdaddy scripts. i was really just being myself.
and im naturally a very cranky, easily annoyed person so whenever she says something i didnt like i was quick to give her a very bad attitude. and that subconsciously, i believe, forced her to see me as a figure she had to aim to please or at least aim not to pisss off. lol
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That's great breh care to elaborate on that first date a little more? Whatever you did to seal the deal happened on that first date!
basically realized some sad stuff the other day
just to give y'all a background, i met a girl in toronto when i first went last year when i was visiting a friend. we kept in touch a lot and had a weird relationship, we just talked so much, texted, skyped, every day, all the time, even had arguments and shyt like that. we were so infatuated with each other and i was crazy for her and she was for me and it just felt so right, maybe the closet thing to the L word i've ever had, maybe even that. then after 5 months we met up with each other again, and we kept talking for 3 more months after that but then we had to cut it off, the distance was just too far. i knew if we lived in the same city we'd be together and that she'd be my girl. it was sad because i truly did miss her, just didn't feel that she felt the same way.
well i went to toronto again the other day just to visit my friend (this friend is like my brother), and decided to see if this girl could chill for maybe an hour just to say hi at a coffee shop or something, strictly as friends, she is someone i do care about, we'd only keep in touch saying happy birthday. anyways through e mail, she suggested a day and a time and a place, right before her class, i was excited to see her. then i asked her what specific spot, then she responded a couple days later saying she couldn't meet up anymore cause she had a lot to do and had to wait for phonecall to go somewhere and she was sorry. naturally i was disappointed and told her to try her best, but she said she couldn't and didn't want to waste my time having me wait just incase she wasn't able to show up. anyways i responded back kind of mean i guess saying it was whack she couldn't at least see me for a few minutes since we were going to be in the same area. and she responded back saying i changed and for me to have a self reflection. i did kind of change cause the old me wouldn't of called her out, and she wasn't used to that, but for me i think i've changed for the better. i think she wanted to make me feel guilty about her feeling guilty.
it's just sad brehs,i really still do care for this girl but can't even respond anymore or ima seem like a pysco. at the end of the day i feel if she really wanted to meet up she could of, even if for a few minutes, that was just inexcuseable to me. its not like i go to toronto everyday. i just feel someone suggested her not to or she just changed her mind. we were so close before, and yea. just sucks, not even viewing it as a girl im trying to get with, just somoene who's a good friend to you or had a strong relationship with and they don't even meet up with you, it's sad.
anyways,just wanted to rant
just to give y'all a background, i met a girl in toronto when i first went last year when i was visiting a friend. we kept in touch a lot and had a weird relationship, we just talked so much, texted, skyped, every day, all the time, even had arguments and shyt like that. we were so infatuated with each other and i was crazy for her and she was for me and it just felt so right, maybe the closet thing to the L word i've ever had, maybe even that. then after 5 months we met up with each other again, and we kept talking for 3 more months after that but then we had to cut it off, the distance was just too far. i knew if we lived in the same city we'd be together and that she'd be my girl. it was sad because i truly did miss her, just didn't feel that she felt the same way.
well i went to toronto again the other day just to visit my friend (this friend is like my brother), and decided to see if this girl could chill for maybe an hour just to say hi at a coffee shop or something, strictly as friends, she is someone i do care about, we'd only keep in touch saying happy birthday. anyways through e mail, she suggested a day and a time and a place, right before her class, i was excited to see her. then i asked her what specific spot, then she responded a couple days later saying she couldn't meet up anymore cause she had a lot to do and had to wait for phonecall to go somewhere and she was sorry. naturally i was disappointed and told her to try her best, but she said she couldn't and didn't want to waste my time having me wait just incase she wasn't able to show up. anyways i responded back kind of mean i guess saying it was whack she couldn't at least see me for a few minutes since we were going to be in the same area. and she responded back saying i changed and for me to have a self reflection. i did kind of change cause the old me wouldn't of called her out, and she wasn't used to that, but for me i think i've changed for the better. i think she wanted to make me feel guilty about her feeling guilty.
it's just sad brehs,i really still do care for this girl but can't even respond anymore or ima seem like a pysco. at the end of the day i feel if she really wanted to meet up she could of, even if for a few minutes, that was just inexcuseable to me. its not like i go to toronto everyday. i just feel someone suggested her not to or she just changed her mind. we were so close before, and yea. just sucks, not even viewing it as a girl im trying to get with, just somoene who's a good friend to you or had a strong relationship with and they don't even meet up with you, it's sad.
anyways,just wanted to rant
ranting is all good if it helps you express and realize how you are feeling presently. but I gotta keep it real with you breh. while she did flake and was too much of a coward to admit she didnt want to see you anymore...you were being clingy with her. if a chick tells you she can't, maybe she just doesn't want to or maybe she really can't. either way, its better to not worry about which one it really is and just accept her choice and freedom. and again, keeping it real, i think you were the one kinda trying to make her feel guilty because she wouldn't meet with you with the goal of shaming her into changing her mind...Again, she's a coward for not keeping it real but at the same time, that's how i see it.
yea what you're saying makes sense, i guess i was trying to make her feel guilty, i mean to me it was fukked up what she did, i didn't want her to think that's okay to do, but again that's her choice. i thought we were on the level where we could just be honest with each other, since we were all before this but obviously not.
u goto learn to quit wasting time with chicks who aren't deeply into u. i've learned this the hard way. life is a whole lot easier when the chick is more into u than u are into her. chicks like the one u described are pyschos.
Situation brehs.
I used to work with this chick last year, we can call her J. The chick was fine as fukk. About 9.5, had hella dudes jockin her at work, brining her coffee and flowers and shyt. It was kinda obvious from the jump she loved the attention(flag) but me and her came pretty cool since we was on the same team and we worked graveyard. I never made a move on her though cause me and my girl was goin through it at the time and I wasnt trynna shyt where I eat being that we worked together 40 hours a week and sat right across from eachother.
Anyway I left the job August of last year and had only spoke to her a few times since then. Found out through her homegirl that she had a kid with this dude and that they were engaged. Yesterday her homegirl text me just catching up asking how I was, do I keep in touch with anyone from the old team blah blah blah. I told her "not really J is taken so that's out". I also asked was J still engaged and her girl said yeah. Her homegirl asked was I feelin J back then and I said yeah I was. Her friend goes oh are you over it now and I said "if she was single id try n talk to her but it is what it is now".
The next day around 1 I get a text from J saying "hey" we ended up talking about BS,school, her kid that kinda shyt. So it's obvious her homegirl hit up J and told her what I said because me and J ain't talked since Dec of 2012. Am I readin too much into this shyt brehs? Is she just textin me cause her friend mentioned my name? Is she trynna flex and be on some you missed out shyt? Or is she trynna creep on her dude
I used to work with this chick last year, we can call her J. The chick was fine as fukk. About 9.5, had hella dudes jockin her at work, brining her coffee and flowers and shyt. It was kinda obvious from the jump she loved the attention(flag) but me and her came pretty cool since we was on the same team and we worked graveyard. I never made a move on her though cause me and my girl was goin through it at the time and I wasnt trynna shyt where I eat being that we worked together 40 hours a week and sat right across from eachother.
Anyway I left the job August of last year and had only spoke to her a few times since then. Found out through her homegirl that she had a kid with this dude and that they were engaged. Yesterday her homegirl text me just catching up asking how I was, do I keep in touch with anyone from the old team blah blah blah. I told her "not really J is taken so that's out". I also asked was J still engaged and her girl said yeah. Her homegirl asked was I feelin J back then and I said yeah I was. Her friend goes oh are you over it now and I said "if she was single id try n talk to her but it is what it is now".
The next day around 1 I get a text from J saying "hey" we ended up talking about BS,school, her kid that kinda shyt. So it's obvious her homegirl hit up J and told her what I said because me and J ain't talked since Dec of 2012. Am I readin too much into this shyt brehs? Is she just textin me cause her friend mentioned my name? Is she trynna flex and be on some you missed out shyt? Or is she trynna creep on her dude
Remember fellas, "I've been busy" without rescheduling usually = "I'm not that interested in you" = signal in your mind that it's time to move on.
In that situation above, it sounds like ol girl was some level of interest in you, but due to the baggage she has, it's a real toss-up whether or not you should pursue.
In that situation above, it sounds like ol girl was some level of interest in you, but due to the baggage she has, it's a real toss-up whether or not you should pursue.
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An old acq was in town for caribana and we hanged on Friday
1. This chick is 31
2. This chick is gorgeous
3. This chick has a 2 year old
So anyways this gave me the opportunity to pick a single moms brain
1. This chick is 31
2. This chick is gorgeous
3. This chick has a 2 year old
So anyways this gave me the opportunity to pick a single moms brain
lol she said temporarily disable his vehicle. the guy really needs to learn to act cool. all that hand movement and talking like his a hoodlum aint a good look.
but judge mathis handled that perfectly.
on a side note though, i dont know how anyone could lay with such a shapeless woman like that.
uy bSituation brehs.
I used to work with this chick last year, we can call her J. The chick was fine as fukk. About 9.5, had hella dudes jockin her at work, brining her coffee and flowers and shyt. It was kinda obvious from the jump she loved the attention(flag) but me and her came pretty cool since we was on the same team and we worked graveyard. I never made a move on her though cause me and my girl was goin through it at the time and I wasnt trynna shyt where I eat being that we worked together 40 hours a week and sat right across from eachother.
Anyway I left the job August of last year and had only spoke to her a few times since then. Found out through her homegirl that she had a kid with this dude and that they were engaged. Yesterday her homegirl text me just catching up asking how I was, do I keep in touch with anyone from the old team blah blah blah. I told her "not really J is taken so that's out". I also asked was J still engaged and her girl said yeah. Her homegirl asked was I feelin J back then and I said yeah I was. Her friend goes oh are you over it now and I said "if she was single id try n talk to her but it is what it is now".
The next day around 1 I get a text from J saying "hey" we ended up talking about BS,school, her kid that kinda shyt. So it's obvious her homegirl hit up J and told her what I said because me and J ain't talked since Dec of 2012. Am I readin too much into this shyt brehs? Is she just textin me cause her friend mentioned my name? Is she trynna flex and be on some you missed out shyt? Or is she trynna creep on her dude
She may just want some attention from another guy beside her man. Or it could be that she is separated and want to see if u an option. Just peep game and she where her mind is.