Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Poh SIti Dawn]

I don't know about yaw, but once I came back from berlin I kind of just realized that I've got goals that I want to accomplish and that thinking about how to deal with girls isn't as important as I thought it was. Maybe because I had such a good time over there I'm determined to pass the TestDAF so I can study/live over there for free.

Ofc I did meet girls, one I'm still in contact with it loosely but being realistic about it I see it as nothing other than 2 people emailing, although she does want my address so she can send shyt or whatever. Kinda realized that you're really not going to find like true love until at least an old age so why do people try and convince themselves otherwise.

Also I'm reading this book in German called sommerlügen, it's a book filled with short stories about men who are used to living their lives alone with their own regiments and such and they meet women who have an impact on them. (I didn't know this, bought it in a small town because the book shop worker suggested it to me because the author is famous)

 

[MaccabeanRebel]

I don't know about yaw, but once I came back from berlin I kind of just realized that I've got goals that I want to accomplish and that thinking about how to deal with girls isn't as important as I thought it was. Maybe because I had such a good time over there I'm determined to pass the TestDAF so I can study/live over there for free.

Ofc I did meet girls, one I'm still in contact with it loosely but being realistic about it I see it as nothing other than 2 people emailing, although she does want my address so she can send shyt or whatever. Kinda realized that you're really not going to find like true love until at least an old age so why do people try and convince themselves otherwise.

Also I'm reading this book in German called sommerlügen, it's a book filled with short stories about men who are used to living their lives alone with their own regiments and such and they meet women who have an impact on them. (I didn't know this, bought it in a small town because the book shop worker suggested it to me because the author is famous)

Hmmm, book sounds interesting..I think this is the English translation (correct me though if im wrong).

Summer Lies: Stories (Vintage International): Bernhard Schlink, Carol Janeway: 9780307948328: Amazon.com: Books

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

Hmmm, book sounds interesting..I think this is the English translation (correct me though if im wrong).

Summer Lies: Stories (Vintage International): Bernhard Schlink, Carol Janeway: 9780307948328: Amazon.com: Books

Lol good look, yes that's it.
http://www.nytimes.com/2012/09/02/books/review/summer-lies-by-bernhard-schlink.html?_r=0

Reading the review helped me a lot at first I was reading it like "wtf is this" but oddly enough as I start to go through it, the way that he writes is pretty descriptive and the idea of it is good. I think it's definitely not want society wants to read about,

"Men not fukking everything in site?! What that is crazy!"

I think the book is giving a good sense of individualism for both men and women, but I am only 10 pages in; reading it in German can very difficult.

 

[kevm3]

Dealing with women really isn't all that important. Handling your business and making sure your life is in order to enable smooth sailing is much more important. A lot of the guys just attested to the fact that they keep meeting women, they seem cool and everything is great for teh first few months and then these women just end up disappearing for no apparent reason. Is there any reason to expend significant effort into chasing those women around? Bottom line is these women feel they have options and will keep on exploring them until they can't get the caliber of attention they want anymore and then they'll think about settling down while talking about how they can't find any decent men. The real gem of the women are usually the ones that you come across when you're really not looking and she's the one that will rock with you without you having to have this super cool, perfect personality.

What a lot of guys are attempting to do is to technique their way into getting these women into staying around. What do I need to do to make her want to stay? Do I have to be more mysterious? Do I need to dress flyer? You do all that and you will waste a whole bunch of time and effort and you will find that a woman will still leave you after you learn and apply all of that knowledge. If a woman really digs your get down and wants to stay, she'll be around. Stop worrying about all of that and focus on sharpening up all the different aspects of your life. You won't be able to figure out why these women come and go for the most part. If she stays, she stays, if she leaves, she leaves. Your mind is focused on enjoying life, pleasing God, handling your responsibilities, taking care of your family, hanging with close friends, etc. Cats are spending a whole lot of energy and stressing over something they can't really control when it's said and done. If a woman wants to be around, she will. If she doesn't, then just let her get about her business.

 

[DaRealness]

16:25 - 21:45

Dudes nowadays are just

 

[Turbulent]

if you respect/love a chick more than she respects/loves herself, 9 times out 10 she will not respect you and will be unruly. If you are with a chick who has low self-respect you probably have to show them that same level of respect (my advice would be to not even mess with them). If you show them more love then that, they'll either think you're lower value or they'll think you,re running game on them and the defense mechanism are turned on. It's pretty hard to teach a chick how to respect herself when she's aware of her low self esteem (let alone when she's not aware of it.). not saying you can't do it but why even get into all that when you could choose better?

 

[Doin2Much Williams]

Dealing with women really isn't all that important. Handling your business and making sure your life is in order to enable smooth sailing is much more important. A lot of the guys just attested to the fact that they keep meeting women, they seem cool and everything is great for teh first few months and then these women just end up disappearing for no apparent reason. Is there any reason to expend significant effort into chasing those women around? Bottom line is these women feel they have options and will keep on exploring them until they can't get the caliber of attention they want anymore and then they'll think about settling down while talking about how they can't find any decent men. The real gem of the women are usually the ones that you come across when you're really not looking and she's the one that will rock with you without you having to have this super cool, perfect personality.

What a lot of guys are attempting to do is to technique their way into getting these women into staying around. What do I need to do to make her want to stay? Do I have to be more mysterious? Do I need to dress flyer? You do all that and you will waste a whole bunch of time and effort and you will find that a woman will still leave you after you learn and apply all of that knowledge. If a woman really digs your get down and wants to stay, she'll be around. Stop worrying about all of that and focus on sharpening up all the different aspects of your life. You won't be able to figure out why these women come and go for the most part. If she stays, she stays, if she leaves, she leaves. Your mind is focused on enjoying life, pleasing God, handling your responsibilities, taking care of your family, hanging with close friends, etc. Cats are spending a whole lot of energy and stressing over something they can't really control when it's said and done. If a woman wants to be around, she will. If she doesn't, then just let her get about her business.

you know brother kev, we're only hearing one side of the testimonials.

If you asked a woman why she began to lose interest, she may or may not be honest, but a lot of
fellas don't challenge women enough (whether they own up as to reason why, i.e. insecurity, fear
of losing her, upsetting the babe or just plain lack of experience, etc.).

Keeping flame crackling and radiant requires a certain kind of flaire and attention that is typically
unearthed from just living and interacting (not to say that everyone's personality should abide by one
particular format, but there is a very protocol-istic approach to courtship/dating/flirting and sustaining
a high level of interest.

As a man, are you more investing in your own life's goals and aspirations than you are into courting her?

Do you put yourself/family before the woman?

Are you spending more than just the weekend with her and only being a month into it?

If you have plans with the fellas that she's aware of... do you break them just to be with the babe?

These are the type of questions guys who struggle with women need to ask themselves because the
availability aspect is highly critical in whether or not she eventually falls for you or bats the wandering eye.

Wow her with the texts but keep them brief... so that when you see her again, she anticipates your presence
because you now having something to follow up. The passion and extent of her arousal stems from curiosity.

You think she's going to be curious if you're always around her? Naw, you want her to wonder about you, why
you're so mysterious and engaging (when not even engaging w/ her at the moment).

(of course, the aforementioned is futile if you're not already making an impression on her)

I can jot more but i'm at work at stuff.


But remember, distance yourself. Live your life how ever you were before you met the babe as she only supplements
your existence, not a definition of it.

Keep working on your skills, learn new things, read more books/journals, talk to strangers and build rapport with people
you never typically associate with, join a social club, volunteer, taking out your nephews and nieces to the beach, eat
one thing you haven't tried in your life at least once a week.

There's so much more to life if you just live it - and i assure you, ust do you and she will wonder why you're so interesting...


... and she'll never let go (only unless you want her to).


That's the mode right there.

So get in it.

.

 

[Mr210]

she said lets do it

 

[Turbulent]

You ever feel like taking a dude aside and just putting him on game? had a weird moment the other day. This chick is considered the hottest chick at work or whatever and everyone is trying to put their bid in. Meanwhile I barely pay her any mind (dont get me wrong, she's cute but just not my type). You already know where this is going. Chick talks to me, is cool with me, etc. Now the scene yesterday was, i was turned sideways to her and she was asking me questions about whatever. meanwhile dude who was trying to spit game at her had his phone out and made up some excuse to get her number or whatever. now dude was standing behind her and trying to speak while she was speaking to me I dont even know if she heard him or not but she didn't acknowledge him. after two attempts at speaking dude got pissed and addresses me and says "is there anything i can help you with?" thinking i was the one who was trying to entertain a convo with her. and i just smirked at him and said "naw man, i'm good". Dude was very irritated but the funny thing is i'm actually kinda rooting for all of them cause she's a slight tease. I'd kinda like to talk to dude and put him on some game. Give these chicks space and they'll want some of your energy. unfortunately, i can't real talk some realness to dude cause his ego might be an obstacle.

this whole thing is like fishing. you put your fishing pole in the water with your worm on it. and stay coooool... the fish gets close you don't pull right away or you'll scare it off. don't act out of character, stay cool calm and collected. wait for the fish to actually bite and REALLY compromise itself to the point where it can't deny the reality that the worm is in it's mouth and then you SWIFTLY pull. Pull too early and the fish swims away. pull too late and the fish already at your worm and moved on. But see, no fisherman is trying to catch a specific fish. you just put it in the water and see what bites. if the fish you pull out is not satisfactory, you just throw it back in the water and try again.


clumsy/cliché analogy but y'all get the point.

 

[MAKAVELI25]

You ever feel like taking a dude aside and just putting him on game? had a weird moment the other day. This chick is considered the hottest chick at work or whatever and everyone is trying to put their bid in. Meanwhile I barely pay her any mind (dont get me wrong, she's cute but just not my type). You already know where this is going. Chick talks to me, is cool with me, etc. Now the scene yesterday was, i was turned sideways to her and she was asking me questions about whatever. meanwhile dude who was trying to spit game at her had his phone out and made up some excuse to get her number or whatever. now dude was standing behind her and trying to speak while she was speaking to me I dont even know if she heard him or not but she didn't acknowledge him. after two attempts at speaking dude got pissed and addresses me and says "is there anything i can help you with?" thinking i was the one who was trying to entertain a convo with her. and i just smirked at him and said "naw man, i'm good". Dude was very irritated but the funny thing is i'm actually kinda rooting for all of them cause she's a slight tease. I'd kinda like to talk to dude and put him on some game. Give these chicks space and they'll want some of your energy. unfortunately, i can't real talk some realness to dude cause his ego might be an obstacle.

this whole thing is like fishing. you put your fishing pole in the water with your worm on it. and stay coooool... the fish gets close you don't pull right away or you'll scare it off. don't act out of character, stay cool calm and collected. wait for the fish to actually bite and REALLY compromise itself to the point where it can't deny the reality that the worm is in it's mouth and then you SWIFTLY pull. Pull too early and the fish swims away. pull too late and the fish already at your worm and moved on. But see, no fisherman is trying to catch a specific fish. you just put it in the water and see what bites. if the fish you pull out is not satisfactory, you just throw it back in the water and try again.


clumsy/cliché analogy but y'all get the point.

Helping Friends Who Have No Game Is A Bad Idea

 

[semicko82]

The wisdom is this thread is profound, yet so simple. It's like why don't I know this shyt already! I try to put some of my homies on to these gems, but it goes over there head.

 

[Mr210]

chick number 2 just hit me up asking how I was doing

 

[Mofongo]

If i wouldve watched the movie "Boomerang" when i was younger, it probably wouldve saved me from dealing with heartbreak. Never go back to the chick that done you dirty. Theres always better out there.

 

[MAKAVELI25]

I think having sisters is one of the best things that can happen to a man. Growing up with female siblings is helpful because it allows boys to see that girls are not special or to be put on a pedestal, they are regular people. But having sisters can be bad if the boy truly starts believing what the sisters are saying as opposed to watching their behavior, listening to all the qualities they want in a guy as opposed to seeing what kind of guy they really pick. But if the boy can separate the fact from the fiction and begin to make sense of it all, we have a prodigy in the making. The more I reminisce about my childhood the more I realize how instrumental having sisters was in my ease when it comes to interacting with females. I'm no Casanova, I'm not the smoothest cat nor am I the best looking, but I treat them like regular people and I think that's why I've been successful with them over my lifetime. Game at its SIMPLEST level and made easy is this:

1. Have self respect- Everything bleeds out from this. If you respect and love yourself half the battles in dealing with people are already won. You will not tolerate any unnecessary bullshyt, you will not beg a woman for her favor, you will not accept being anyone's second option, and you will not compromise yourself over a female that doesn't deserve it. Having self respect will also prevent you from being in the friendzone or having a woman who doesn't respect you. A big reason loving yourself is so important is that it makes you unafraid to BE YOURSELF. Be you, be natural, some women will like it, some won't

2. See women as regular people- This is just as important as number 1. Too many men either put women on a pedestal or turn bitter towards them because they were once spurned by one. Women are NOT above us, but they are also NOT below us. There are shytty women in the world just as there are shytty men, every woman has her positive and negative attributes just as every man does. Women need to be viewed with a healthy state of mind, men who view them as Goddesses and Angels are just as doomed as men who view all of them as bytches and sluts. With this said, I DO believe that men and women are fundamentally different, but again, that doesn't put them above or below us.

3. Be Happy- Be genuinely happy. Genuine happiness has nothing to do with female conquests, Happiness has to be something within yourself that isn't affected by anyone else. I love my family to death, I have great friends, and I'm working towards something that I think will lead me to greatness someday. I'm so happy right now. Your happiness bleeds through, people can see it and be drawn to it, some will be repelled by it but that'sonly because they are haters. Happiness goes hand in hand with self respect, once you have these two down then you will not only have an abundance of women who are drawn to you, you'll have more friends than you know what to do with. Please, brothers, find your happiness. Most of the advice given in this thread WILL benefit you in your interactions with women, but they will improve the rest of your life as well.

 

[Jason B]

I think having sisters is one of the best things that can happen to a man. Growing up with female siblings is helpful because it allows boys to see that girls are not special or to be put on a pedestal, they are regular people. But having sisters can be bad if the boy truly starts believing what the sisters are saying as opposed to watching their behavior, listening to all the qualities they want in a guy as opposed to seeing what kind of guy they really pick. But if the boy can separate the fact from the fiction and begin to make sense of it all, we have a prodigy in the making. The more I reminisce about my childhood the more I realize how instrumental having sisters was in my ease when it comes to interacting with females. I'm no Casanova, I'm not the smoothest cat nor am I the best looking, but I treat them like regular people and I think that's why I've been successful with them over my lifetime. Game at its SIMPLEST level and made easy is this:

1. Have self respect- Everything bleeds out from this. If you respect and love yourself half the battles in dealing with people are already won. You will not tolerate any unnecessary bullshyt, you will not beg a woman for her favor, you will not accept being anyone's second option, and you will not compromise yourself over a female that doesn't deserve it. Having self respect will also prevent you from being in the friendzone or having a woman who doesn't respect you. A big reason loving yourself is so important is that it makes you unafraid to BE YOURSELF. Be you, be natural, some women will like it, some won't

2. See women as regular people- This is just as important as number 1. Too many men either put women on a pedestal or turn bitter towards them because they were once spurned by one. Women are NOT above us, but they are also NOT below us. There are shytty women in the world just as there are shytty men, every woman has her positive and negative attributes just as every man does. Women need to be viewed with a healthy state of mind, men who view them as Goddesses and Angels are just as doomed as men who view all of them as bytches and sluts. With this said, I DO believe that men and women are fundamentally different, but again, that doesn't put them above or below us.

3. Be Happy- Be genuinely happy. Genuine happiness has nothing to do with female conquests, Happiness has to be something within yourself that isn't affected by anyone else. I love my family to death, I have great friends, and I'm working towards something that I think will lead me to greatness someday. I'm so happy right now. Your happiness bleeds through, people can see it and be drawn to it, some will be repelled by it but that'sonly because they are haters. Happiness goes hand in hand with self respect, once you have these two down then you will not only have an abundance of women who are drawn to you, you'll have more friends than you know what to do with. Please, brothers, find your happiness. Most of the advice given in this thread WILL benefit you in your interactions with women, but they will improve the rest of your life as well.

I agree with most of your post especially points 1 and 3 while I halfway agree with point 2 regarding the part about not putting women above yourself as a man. In regards to the bolded, many guys have often heard women say that they want guys who are overall decent human beings and are somewhat respectful towards them. But more often than not, they pick guys who are completely the opposite and extremely respectful of them. This shows that they really DO NOT want decent, respectful men since they obviously have view such men with comtempt. And whenever they supposedly want the generally decent and respectful men, they usually have fallen off the bus and have become damaged goods Some guys, including myself, have notice this dynamic and have concluded that the sure way for women to not only be interested in you but more importantly, be respectful towards you a man is to be the type of guy who essentially is foul and disrespectful in general, particularly towards women, because doing so will inspire the women to go all out for you. Plus, it decreases the likelihood of them trying to come at you with fukkery.

That is why I am very dismissive whenever any woman complains about men who are actual on that grimy shyt because women in general have shown that they prefer that and would not want it any other way. While there are plenty of clueless simps out here, I believe that more and more men will adapt in becoming the grimy dude that women have an overwhelming level of attraction to and respect for you and it will be an ugly situation for women as a whole in the long run.