Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Turbulent]

Brehs, what the fukk is going on? One of my exes has been coming at me with that sweet talk. She's asked who I've been sleeping with, and said she wants me to visit her if she moves to the West side. This is part of that cycle, right?

no one can tell you what is really going on. It could be that she just suffered rejection from a guy she was feeling and needs re-assurance, it could be that she needs something from you, it could be that she's reminiscing about good times she had with you, it could be that she sees you're not sweating her and wants to reconquer you, it could be that she genuinely still feels you, etc

at all depends on how you guys broke up, and what happened in her life. but you'll never know for sure but it's irrelevant. you should treat her accordingly still (based on what you need and what is fair both to yourself and to her.)

 

[Ohene]

brehs is it true that if a chick calls or text you when she is drunk that she is really feeling you?


me and this girl been fukking around for almost a year now and a few weeks ago we agreed to fall back from each other for a minute but the very next night she calls me all drunk and shyt, we ended up talking for about a hour and she fell asleep on me but thats the last time we talked or texted, she is also sending hints on fb about missing me or whatever but idk if she is talking about me or not she did use the first initial of my name though

Honestly man, the way shyts been going for me lately a girl wont call/text you PERIOD unless she's feeling you. Don't matter if she's drunk or not.
There are the few out there that will only do it cause they're bored...but I havent ran into that lately.

 

[Ohene]

what's the deal with girls

i'm good at meeting girls, having initial attraction, going out and stuff.. then like a couple months down the road it's just not the same, i feel i do all the same as the beginning when i first met but then they fade away from me and i'm just like to myself 'wtf happened, what went wrong'. so now i'm thinking it's something about me, maybe im not being mysterious enough, or giving them too much attention or something, i don't know, it's just sort of frustrating, cause truthfully i wouldn't mind having a girl right now.

Been experiencing this way too much lately man. It's a vicious cycle i cant seem to get out of

 

[Kartel13]

Met a girl on Match. Her pictures look straight, we clicked on the phone, but I won't see her until next week. Tried to get my Sherlock on but can't find her on IG or FB. All I got is a first name and phone number. Any other way to get my market research on?

 

[Doin2Much Williams]

Brehs, what the fukk is going on? One of my exes has been coming at me with that sweet talk. She's asked who I've been sleeping with, and said she wants me to visit her if she moves to the West side. This is part of that cycle, right?

Some ex girlfriends (especially if you treated her a certain way that she liked or how y’all broke up, i.e. you broke it off with her) are, well ---- a lot like new jobs they hate.

Their new joint isn’t what their previous job was and they miss the perks, attributes and qualities that the previous employer exemplified…
… (although, at the time, she didn’t know how good she had it), is now missing the things that made it redeemable and memorable.

Thus - she misses that work.

You my friend, are that old job.

She wants to be reemployed and by keeping in touch with her previous boss (you), is slowly finding her way in to be back on the team.

Whether its to rekindle the flame or just companionship - is tbd.


Do you want to go back to her in any way shape or form? Is it worth it? Do you have other options?


That's ultimately up to you.

Good luck.


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[Bumrush Bros.]

Met a girl on Match. Her pictures look straight, we clicked on the phone, but I won't see her until next week. Tried to get my Sherlock on but can't find her on IG or FB. All I got is a first name and phone number. Any other way to get my market research on?

Pipl.com got your back breh

 

[MikelArteta]

exes are bad news, but for the most part if you are a good guy and you treated her good, and she has had a history of messing with lsoers etc you will always be in he rmind and she will know that she f'd up.

i love being that guy that 5, 10, 15 years down the road when they are married or in horrible relationship they enter my name and see my smiling in a picture in a exotic place "

 

[Mofongo]

Just a quick question....

If a female is already talkin dirty(sexual jokes, etc.) so soon, is that bad news when it comes to wifing her up?. My cousin friend i had chilled wit her we had some drinks, and my ass was drunk and being extremely flirtatious . Maybe that mightve loosened her up, and i mean thats why she talkin so loose on text, even though its been only two days...

 

[Mofongo]

"Im not looking for a relationship, but, if it comes ill be happy.." So many females say that. Wtf they waiting for a nikka to have everything on they list of wants.

 

[sixsixtwo]

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[AffordableSuplexReviews]

Thanks Howie. Thanks Turbulent. Appreciate the responses. Just feels pretty strange since part of me thinks that this girl is just trying to stroke her ego. She's one of those young, liberated types who gets off on validation from others, so I'm pretty certain that she's spitting this sweet talk to several other guys, too. I feel like she has a motive.

 

[MikelArteta]

ok got a question for everyone.....if you have dated or been in relationships with a woman of a different race/culture ethnic group what have you at what point do you bring up how her family looks at her dating outside of her race etc. Do you ask early on, or do you wait until it gets serious. I ask because the first woman who text me yesterday out of the blue, is indian/muslim she says she is into blk guys, but dont know if she has ever dated a black man, and of heard that in her culture thats a huge no no. I want to bring it up earlier rather than later but i guess I need to wait and see which direction this goes

I have dated numerous races, my ex fiance was russian and I'm black just imagine that, I';ve dated white broads in small little hick towns where i was the only black dude there hoping to not get emmit till, ive dated indians, persians as well. The thing is don't care what her family thinks number 1, and dont ask right away, why complicate things so early?

1. more than likely her family watns her to date in her race, they could be hardcore about it they could not be. I remember i was dating this chick and when her parents found out i was black she told me they were upset because "i was different" even though they never met me, so yes you may encounter that.

2. indians are some of the most hardcore ones out there, there parents dont want them dating anyone black white, poor indians, dark skin indians. However i dated this light skin indian broad before, and her fmaily were cool because they were evangelical christians and held no prejudice

3. i would only mention it after you are way serious, if its just a casual fling just roll with i.

4. and who cares if her family hates you? actually works out better imo, have a excuse to get out of family bbqs etc.

Honestly man, the way shyts been going for me lately a girl wont call/text you PERIOD unless she's feeling you. Don't matter if she's drunk or not.
There are the few out there that will only do it cause they're bored...but I havent ran into that lately.

females are to gassed up nowadays with to many options

Just a quick question....

If a female is already talkin dirty(sexual jokes, etc.) so soon, is that bad news when it comes to wifing her up?. My cousin friend i had chilled wit her we had some drinks, and my ass was drunk and being extremely flirtatious . Maybe that mightve loosened her up, and i mean thats why she talkin so loose on text, even though its been only two days...

shes most likely a whore, think about it this way shes acting the way she is with you right now the same way she did with every other guy she did in the past, hos will be hos.

"Im not looking for a relationship, but, if it comes ill be happy.." So many females say that. Wtf they waiting for a nikka to have everything on they list of wants.

women dont want to show themselves as being desperate so they will drop that line, but men know most women long for commitment and a alpha male to call there own.

 

[MikelArteta]

Thanks Howie. Thanks Turbulent. Appreciate the responses. Just feels pretty strange since part of me thinks that this girl is just trying to stroke her ego. She's one of those young, liberated types who gets off on validation from others, so I'm pretty certain that she's spitting this sweet talk to several other guys, too. I feel like she has a motive.

always go with your gut, everytime in my life dealing with women when something felt wrong it was, when something felt fishy it was.

 

[MikelArteta]

I know one of the major reasons I shunned marriage was due to my education from the old man.

Even before my teens he warned about the many dangers of knocking up a dame.

He stressed the importance of being a man and taking responsibility for your actions and how paying for that fruit of your lusty loins would inhibit me.

He also told me in my early teens that it was often cheaper to just grab a whore and a bottle of booze and get a motel room than go to clubs and bars and look for broads to pick up, etc.

He told of how often those pick-up spots had drunkards and idiots wanting to prove how tough they are and that too many broads encourage that type of male behavior.

That stuff was and is for punks.He told me how mature rational real men handled affairs and it was not the typical "frat boy" hijinks that is so often read about in the news.

Along with the basic advice on how to get along as an adult with a minimum of problems was to never marry. He thought it was a sucker's game. He mentioned how much power females have.

It was the era when the feminist movement was getting media attention and bras were being burned, etc.

The old man was part of a generation that is dying off... quickly. If alive he would in his late 80s today.

His world is gone. Overtaken as is every generation in modern society that constantly evolves.

Some things are better, many the same and some things are worse... depending upon your viewpoint, outlook, mind-set, etc.

The old man was a very hard-core old-fashioned guy. Some of what he taught helped me while some of his lessons held me back, I believe, since those lessons were based upon a rural life in an era left behind.

The lessons he taught well, however, that the future has proven to me to be damn good lessons, was to never impregnate a dame and never marry them.

Thanks Dad.

 

[Mr210]

so ive been texting for 2 days throughout the day with chick number 1, and actually talked to her on the phone for about 30 minutes today. She comes off very intelligent (she has a masters and has a good job), she sounded nothing like I thought since she is Indian I guess I was expecting an accent or something. Whenever we text she always replies within a few minutes. It will be interesting to see how things turn out especially since she is 7 yrs younger than me. I havent bothered contacting number 2 again and she hasnt hit me up.