I just broke up with her.
Here's a summary: we're from different countries. We met and were falling in love with each other after only a week.
Later on she flew out to see me after I continued my travels, spent a month together everyday, when she left she promised she would wait for me, a month later I fly to her country and she admits she slept with someone else one night. I'm about to leave but give her one more chance - I saw she genuinely regretted it, and I believe in second chances for people (outside of relationships also).
We spend a month and a half together everyday, then shortly after I leave to fly home, she shares her bed with her ex and has a breakdown over seeing him. She said nothing physical happened, and this I really do believe (I know brehs, I know, but I do believe what she says here). She tells me over the phone, I hang up and don't answer. She literally gave me around 300 missed calls over a week. I finally picked up because I know she's a fragile one and I don't believe in avoiding these issues. She said the whole experience of seeing and talking with her ex (of 3 years) was an important experience and realisation for her, and she realised that she was influenced by her past in how she acted with me.
I said to her the realisations are too late, her appreciation is too late, and it's over and I want to meet someone new. She's hasn't taken this well. Now she's asking for one more chance. Same story as before, I know. I'm thinking of letting her reflect on everything for a couple of months and then seeing her again. Deep down, she's a really special one and I care about her on a very deep level. I only wish the best for her, so she's actually really lucky to meet someone good natured like me. I was attracted to the challenge of "fixing" her. Right now she's just too weak mentally and broken from a past relationship. For me, if she truly recovered from being damaged goods we would have many happy years together.
Love is about forgiveness and I do believe bonds can be strengthened through a crisis, and through a separation. There's a fine line between this and a relationship being a dysfunctional one, though. Right now I don't know which side of the line we're on.
Of course, the story is more nuanced than this simple summary. The only question I ask myself is: I gave a second chance before, so can I give another one? If she has truly changed, does she deserve another one?
And so you brehs know: there's no chance she will find someone like me
