Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[TMillzy]

Just want to add my observations of 21 years

I noticed girls NEVER admit their true attractions. I been with girls that call me cocky and over-confident and say its annoying but I had to make them admit its attractive to them. They love confidence more than anything.

I noticed girls like to be dominated in some form. Not beating them up or anything like that, but some like to be told what to do or anything along those lines. If they ask you what the plan is and you say "i dont know, its up to you" its a wrap. And they all like to be dominated sexually. Thats why slapping ass and pulling hair turns them on.

Girls fukk around just as much as we do. They just always gotta have an excuse for it so they dont look like hoes.

Speaking of homegirls, girls are not true friends to each other. They are extremely jealous of their friends and constantly want to 1 up each other. Some girls chill with uglier chicks on purpose to boost their looks. They secretly dont want each other to win. Notice how you talk to a chick and her homegirl comes and gets in the way, fukking everything up. Exactly.

If she ever mentions another man to you outside of those "serious" conversations you have from time to time, she disrespecting you and will keep doing so until you put her in check.

I've never dated/smashed a girl that was honest to me.

Women without a good relationship with their fathers are a RED FLAG.

Whatever you doing on the low, she's doing it too. Women are NOT more sneaky than men, its just when nikkas catch feelings they instincts turn off. Dont EVER stop thinking she will cheat on you. ALWAYS have that instinct to check and make sure she aint snooping around. If youve had your heart broken before you know what I'm talking about. You wanna go through that again? fukk no, check her.

Men love hard, women love often.

 

[The Message]

we were falling in love, ie. an ongoing process. right at the beginning, for sure, but that was the start. also in that week we didn't even want to go the whole distance.

Fam it sounds like you two, were just caught up in a whirlwind fantasty of two strangers, worlds apart falling in "love" after after a mystical, chance meeting. Women love getting wrapped up in that stuff because it's straight outta the trashy romantic novels and movies like the Notebook. That shyt sounds sexy and romantic and magical. They dream about stuff like that homie. This isnt a dream - its reality. And only after a month of being "in a relationship" with her (which you were NOT) she cheated. Already! She didnt take you seriously. lol And then she didnt share a bed with her ex....she sucked & fukked the dude all night. No respect for you at all.

Cut her off and treat those out of the country women as jumpoffs....they already got dudes cupcakin at home. Where do you live?

 

[TMillzy]

A lot of women are spoiled from their childhood so they feel entitled to shyt. They think the world owes them something, especially if they've been told their pretty every day of their life. I dont have 2 words for them types, I go the other way. Those are the ones gonna end up lonely and be looking for the nice guy they shytted on years ago

 

[TMillzy]

And ya'll nikkas need to learn how to separate lust and love. Good p*ssy is the strongest thing in the world. If ya'll cant have a good time being celibate, you already know its lust and ya'll not gonna grow to be shyt.

 

[TreyAce]

not sure if this has been mentioned in the 97 pages BUT...

if your girlfriend is expected to be home by 2 am and she gets home at 4 am ...doesnt mean shes out sucking another dikk or fukking some dude behind your back. sometimes we do other things that end up taking more time... and if we text we'll be late, chill out and TRUST us. ; )

right

 

[kevm3]

the real question is why would I want a girlfriend who isn't serious enough about the relationship to give up that clubbing and barhopping? Or maybe you'd be fine with a man that goes to strip clubs and has dinners with his 'female friends' and 'coworkers'... hey, you just need to trust him because that would be insecure not to.

I bet he ask why you need to go to the club... well I just want to dance and drink with my girls... yeah right, like you can't get your girls together at the house, have some drinks and play some music. More than anything ya'll gonna put on short, attention grabbing outfits and those supposed 'dances with the girls' are going to turn into grindfests with dudes that will be written off as, "Well I didn't do anything. I didn't do anything sexual with them and I still came home to my man."

Ain't no smart man going to sit around and wife up a barhopper/clubhead. lol@a man need to stretch out on his trust and just think his girl is doing right at 4 in the morning. Naw, it don't go like that.

Problem with some of ya'll modern women is ya'll want to come into a relationship with the lowest common denominator in mind. Instead of doing your best to give your man nothing to worry about, ya'll want to 'push the boundaries' and see how much you can get away with. Clubheads are a no-go in the wifey category.

 

[T-K-G]

not sure if this has been mentioned in the 97 pages BUT...

if your girlfriend is expected to be home by 2 am and she gets home at 4 am ...doesnt mean shes out sucking another dikk or fukking some dude behind your back. sometimes we do other things that end up taking more time... and if we text we'll be late, chill out and TRUST us. ; )

Meaning you are a female ? Then this makes your contribution invalid

wat the fukk could a female be doing at that hour that doesn't involve addin another dikk to her jacket

 

[kevm3]

I just broke up with her.

Here's a summary: we're from different countries. We met and were falling in love with each other after only a week. Later on she flew out to see me after I continued my travels, spent a month together everyday, when she left she promised she would wait for me, a month later I fly to her country and she admits she slept with someone else one night. I'm about to leave but give her one more chance - I saw she genuinely regretted it, and I believe in second chances for people (outside of relationships also).

We spend a month and a half together everyday, then shortly after I leave to fly home, she shares her bed with her ex and has a breakdown over seeing him. She said nothing physical happened, and this I really do believe (I know brehs, I know, but I do believe what she says here). She tells me over the phone, I hang up and don't answer. She literally gave me around 300 missed calls over a week. I finally picked up because I know she's a fragile one and I don't believe in avoiding these issues. She said the whole experience of seeing and talking with her ex (of 3 years) was an important experience and realisation for her, and she realised that she was influenced by her past in how she acted with me.

I said to her the realisations are too late, her appreciation is too late, and it's over and I want to meet someone new. She's hasn't taken this well. Now she's asking for one more chance. Same story as before, I know. I'm thinking of letting her reflect on everything for a couple of months and then seeing her again. Deep down, she's a really special one and I care about her on a very deep level. I only wish the best for her, so she's actually really lucky to meet someone good natured like me. I was attracted to the challenge of "fixing" her. Right now she's just too weak mentally and broken from a past relationship. For me, if she truly recovered from being damaged goods we would have many happy years together.

Love is about forgiveness and I do believe bonds can be strengthened through a crisis, and through a separation. There's a fine line between this and a relationship being a dysfunctional one, though. Right now I don't know which side of the line we're on.

Of course, the story is more nuanced than this simple summary. The only question I ask myself is: I gave a second chance before, so can I give another one? If she has truly changed, does she deserve another one?

And so you brehs know: there's no chance she will find someone like me

Bruh, you better leave that alone. She WILL cheat on you again. If she thought she couldn't have found someone like you, she wouldn't have cheated on you. These kind of women see men as expendable. Once a woman cheats on you and you take her back, she loses respect for you.

The thing is, you didn't do anything wrong and she cheated. She had no discussions with you about anything, so she just went out and slept with another guy for fun. She just laid out her decision-making process. If it's fun, I'll do it. I'll tell you what will happen. For the first week or two or maybe even month, things will seem cool and back to normal and then she will start getting distant and disappearing. She couldn't turn it down the first time, so do you really believe when she's out at the club or wherever she is having fun and seeing that dude that knocked her down or another guy she thinks look even better, her mind is going to be, "Well I better stay loyal to my baby at home." Nah, she's going to be entranced with that negro, do her thing, feel guilty about it and avoid you for the next few weeks while she is with him, hoping you will 'get the hint' and leave her alone.

 

[The Message]

not sure if this has been mentioned in the 97 pages BUT...

if your girlfriend is expected to be home by 2 am and she gets home at 4 am ...doesnt mean shes out sucking another dikk or fukking some dude behind your back. sometimes we do other things that end up taking more time... and if we text we'll be late, chill out and TRUST us. ; )

Aint nothing going on past Midnight except fuccin or trying to fucc...

 

[Uffie]

the real question is why would I want a girlfriend who isn't serious enough about the relationship to give up that clubbing and barhopping? Or maybe you'd be fine with a man that goes to strip clubs and has dinners with his 'female friends' and 'coworkers'... hey, you just need to trust him because that would be insecure not to.

I bet he ask why you need to go to the club... well I just want to dance and drink with my girls... yeah right, like you can't get your girls together at the house, have some drinks and play some music. More than anything ya'll gonna put on short, attention grabbing outfits and those supposed 'dances with the girls' are going to turn into grindfests with dudes that will be written off as, "Well I didn't do anything. I didn't do anything sexual with them and I still came home to my man."

Ain't no smart man going to sit around and wife up a barhopper/clubhead. lol@a man need to stretch out on his trust and just think his girl is doing right at 4 in the morning. Naw, it don't go like that.

Problem with some of ya'll modern women is ya'll want to come into a relationship with the lowest common denominator in mind. Instead of doing your best to give your man nothing to worry about, ya'll want to 'push the boundaries' and see how much you can get away with. Clubheads are a no-go in the wifey category.

i could have my girlfriends come over and drink with music and dancing there too. i wasnt talking about going to the club/bar every weekend. like once in a while. why cant your girlfriend go to the club lets say once every few months? you really going to be that worried for her intentions? so shes supposed to sit inside every weekend and not go out with her girlfriends bc you're insecure thinking shes flirting or hooking up with another guy?

personally.... i dont do clubs and bars that much. i was stating generally that sometimes girls go out together and if we dont come home EXACTLY on the hour we said we would, dont flip out especially when she gave you a heads up shes coming home later than expected.

and i cant dance with other men at the club? WOW.

 

[MikelArteta]

i could have my girlfriends come over and drink with music and dancing there too. i wasnt talking about going to the club/bar every weekend. like once in a while. why cant your girlfriend go to the club lets say once every few months? you really going to be that worried for her intentions? so shes supposed to sit inside every weekend and not go out with her girlfriends bc you're insecure thinking shes flirting or hooking up with another guy?

personally.... i dont do clubs and bars that much. i was stating generally that sometimes girls go out together and if we dont come home EXACTLY on the hour we said we would, dont flip out especially when she gave you a heads up shes coming home later than expected.

and i cant dance with other men at the club? WOW.

You can do whatever you want just expect only a simp doormat guy you can all over to stay with you.

Men of value don't tolerate that blatant disrespect.

I wouldn't even again argue or say anything tha would just be the last time you would hear from me again.


What's really open past 12am, only clubs, bars, movies and restaurant.

There is a difference between going out with your girls to the mall, or to go to see the latest Tyler perry movie and going to the club.

 

[kevm3]

lol so a man supposed to just be chilling at home while you at the club bent over backing that thang up, grinding on some random dudes. if you and your girls can't think of other activities to stay entertained other than hitting up the club that's on ya'll. iall i know is I ain't going to be sitting around shooting an exclusive deal to women who are out in the club dancing with other dudes, coming home extra late, expecting me to go for that. it ain't nothing to do with insecure. I'm more than secure with myself. I'm so secure with myself that I know my value is way more than to accept that kind of behavior.

 

[The Message]

personally.... i dont do clubs and bars that much. i was stating generally that sometimes girls go out together and if we dont come home EXACTLY on the hour we said we would, dont flip out especially when she gave you a heads up shes coming home later than expected.

and i cant dance with other men at the club? WOW.

Every once in awhile at the club or lounge is cool. If you're in that hoe every week...fukk you in a relationship for? lol And being home an hour later happens, because you might go to the Coney or waffle house to eat afterwards. Dudes really be handcuffing women. lol But dancing with another dude? You dont need to do all that shyt. Dance with your homegirls. lol

 

[Uffie]

i would respect my man enough to not go clubbing or to a bar unless if we would have gone together. i was only stating things that my ex seemed to think was ok for HIM to do but not for me. him dancing with other girls, was ok. him going to the club "with his boys" was ok, him traveling out of the country and not telling me, was ok. etc so many things and he wondered why i went ahead and found someone else while he thought we were still together?

bytch deserved it.

i would never allow my man to go clubbing or to a bar without me either unless it was happy hour with his boys or to watch a game. nothing late at night though. i feel you kevm on everything you posted. i agree with all. there is no respect in grinding up on some other dude and "going home to your man". i was just looking for other mens reaction to his girl doing that. and again im proven right.... my ex was a shytty dirtbag.

 

[kevm3]

You made the right choice in cutting him. People bring out that 'insecure' label when they are doing something wrong and expect you to go for the drama. If you are going to do something, go in there to do it the right way. I don't understand why people go in relationships and try to do everything other than make it work. Why join the football team if you are never going to show up for practice, learn the plays and give 100% effort on the field? Don't be surprised you fail to perform and you get cut. Same thing with relationships.

These types just want to be out there doing dirt, but then have emotional security and a warm body to come home to after it's all said and done... and they will try to psychologically manipulate you into buying your drag. THEY aren't doing wrong, but rather it's some kind of emotional flaw on your part. You're bitter, you're insecure, etc...

Once you been there and done that, you recognize these games real quick. Come around playing games and it'll be game over. Respect makes relationships go so much smoother and I'm too old to accept anything less than a mutually beneficial relationship. High standards = high quality. You get in a relationship and let everything slide, then that relationship is going to be garbage. Two respectful people who are trustworthy and serious about each other = a beautiful thing. Got to pull the weeds and water the fruitful plans when order to eventually reap proper rewards down the line.